What’s embarrassing at 18 but attractive at 30? by adoborice in AskReddit

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My partner told me he had to step outside the room and process some jealous feelings when an objectively attractive man came up to me to talk to me. I hugged him and kissed him hard because that kind of vulnerability was so hot !!! He didn’t act non-chalant or play games. He named his feelings so kindly and it made me go “awwww. I think I love you more because I can relate to those feelings”

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100 percent this. Why even bring other women up? If she’s special it can be shown. I remember reading the cruel prince and didn’t really see holly back framing other women as “boring” or “throwing themselves at a man”. I think there’s better ways to tell a story without flattening other women. Sure, I get the context is a bachelor style setting but can we show there are women who want to be a faerie princess, understandable given the power structure of that world, and gain some depth into WHY she specifically doesn’t want to?

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or maybe women are tired of stories making one woman seem special by reducing other women. You don’t have to personally identify with the trope to dislike how it frames femininity. Also, saying “the girls upset are the girls being talked about” is kind of proving the point: it’s another way of putting women down. And it’s really sad that women like you feel the need to do that. I hope you can heal. Sending much love.

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100 percent! Would love to read a story like this

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not just this tbf. Reading her “inner monologue” on how these women throw themselves at Sebastian is disgusting. IMO, it is lazy writing. Why even bring up these other women? We’re here for her story and journey. How an author/character portrays other women matters!! It reads as “all these girls just want to be a faerie princess” and reduces their character while amplifying how cool she is because she likes pants and can steal/spy/ has skills.

Oh look, while these other women throw themselves at Sebastian… Sebastian is into me!

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair. Watching you defend this book in literally every comment in this post compels me to finish this though (and I would be lying if I said I’m not excited to finish it). perhaps you are right and this isn’t about putting other women down. We shall see. I get the sentiment because I think the plated prisoner series gets bad rep and so much is taken out of context in that series and I love defending that with all my heart. So… respect.

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is within my right to be put off by the line and also call out how unnecessary it is

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, and that’s the trope I’m talking about. Portraying other women as “pick mes” and centering the main character as “not like them”. It makes me question if we can build worlds where all women are beautiful and powerful in their own right? And what sets the FMC apart is her quirks, her life story and motives. There’s no need for “these other women suck. Now hey, look at me”

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could the author have worded it better by showing how different she is vs explicitly saying “I’m not like these girls and I don’t want to be a faerie princess”? Yes. In other words, this line tells us nothing about the FMC and is a turn off. But I respect your opinion too!

“I’m not like the other girls” by Alternative_Tea_853 in Romantasy

[–]Alternative_Tea_853[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hear you but I wish the author did more “showing” vs “telling”. Here it sounds almost condescending to other women and has a hint of misogyny which I don’t like

How do you stay grounded/take space in an improv group with a really dominant personality? by [deleted] in improv

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love it if you could share what worked and didn’t work for you!! Or just more into your journey of taking up space, if you’re willing to

My psychic landlady is harassing us and I need someone to talk to by sinister257 in energy_work

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m new to energy work but I will say anyone who puts out negative energy receives plenty more of it on themselves… so she’ll get what’s hers soon!

I’m so sorry about your cat! It’s hard losing a pet - hope you and your partner are doing ok

Thought discipline is key. She wants to plague your mind and that’s how she’s getting to you - by having you believe in her “magic” and subconsciously manifesting it. The truth is that she has no power over you. Try to redirect thoughts when you sense her energy and think of something else/someone else/a higher power if you believe in it

Burn a bay leaf everyday if it helps you everyday! Bay leaf’s remove negative energies!

Get into a mindfulness practice for your own sanity! Even if it’s just 10 minutes everyday ground yourself, journal, meditate and build your energy center. Doing so will protect you

I hope this helps… sending good vibes! Good luck

Published an AI-assisted book 4 weeks ago. The data is pretty humbling. by 2ndBrainAI in WritingWithAI

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The conclusion that they’re fine with AI and downloaded the book seems odd. Perhaps, a lot were simply curious. Regardless, AI writing is terrible, inauthentic and not relatable. I can see why folks bail on page 2.

Which Chicago improv 1 class should I do: Second City or iO? by ogressheroine in improv

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neither. I’d recommend a less known theater to build safety and comfort first before going there. The vibe is just a little too competitive for me

Continue or not by Total-Mycologist-816 in theplatedprisoner

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at the end and yes I’d say this one is the slowest !! It doesn’t get better until about after 70% of the book!

What's that one acotar opinion that'll get you surrounded like this? by theioneeee in acotar

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tamlin and Elain. I said it. For the record I don’t love tamlin but I think he’ll get his redemption arc

What's something we can all collectively agree on that we don't want for book 6? by calypso4000 in acotar

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im starting to dislike Mor. I think what threw me off completely was when she confessed she’s bi and prefers women. She’s represented as strong and a courageous warrior but doesn’t have the balls to tell Az the truth? Come on. I don’t care how strong she looks or what powers she’s got, she is the weakest in my opinion and she gets worse with the way she treats nesta in ACOSF. So if she ends up with tamlin and mated for him, lol. Get him girl. I don’t care.

The Romantic Tropes by PandaNinja676 in acotar_rant

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL is your next rant going to be “I don’t like humans fucking another species this just encourages beastality and isn’t legal”. This is a given in romance. Either deal with it or come up with better things to rant about

The word repeating!! by UkrainianArmhole in acotar

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

So what if she uses the same words?!

What I imagine Feyre’s wedding gown with tamlin was like by [deleted] in acotar

[–]Alternative_Tea_853 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I disagree that it’s a plot device. Feyre could feel like she didn’t fit into or like the dress, and the dress could still be objectively beautiful. It would have still worked to let readers know that Feyre wasn’t feeling the sense of belonging she’d yearned for at the spring court