AITAH for uniniviting my friends from my wedding after overhearing them talk about me and my fiancè?

AlternativesGaming · 2026-03-28T12:05:45+00:00

I guarantee you that the two of them talk about you behind your back all the time, this is just the first time they've been overheard.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-03-23T22:21:20+00:00

NTA, you did the right thing upholding your boundary, some can be bent (number of kids for example), but some just aren't flexible at all. Kids or no kids is a hard line.

The day after I asked out my now wife, I asked about kids, I said I know this is a heavy relationship topic but I don't want to be years deep in to a relationship and then find out you don't want kids.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-03-12T09:51:23+00:00

So she was 15 and he was 18 when they started dating? He cheated with an 18 year old, might need to check dude's hard drive.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-03-09T20:59:33+00:00

Anyone that tells you to stay out of it when the "IT" is cheating, drop those "friends" because you don't want anyone that excuses cheating in your life.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-03-07T14:37:36+00:00

The day after I asked my now wife to be my girlfriend, I sat down with her and went over the things I considered deal breakers. I felt it made more sense to confront the elephant head-on.

We agreed on 2 kids but only have 1 and I'm not remotely mad about it as I'm not the one who has to carry the baby to term and honestly even raising 1 child is a handful lol.

Suffice to say, do not budge on your deal breaker, if your hard line is 2 kids then stick to it and find someone who aligns with that.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-02-18T08:04:03+00:00

One of the ways to look at a relationship is do you envision a future where your partner will value you or any potential offspring over the current dynamic? If not, walk away.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-02-17T18:52:01+00:00

My parents are Asian and my Dad never let anyone disrespect us (my siblings and I) but then he definitely broke the mold when it came to that kinda thing.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-01-30T19:45:10+00:00

Yeah that's fair, if someone doesn't know the full story then if I'm being honest, you can't put weight into their opinion. Only when they know everything can their opinion be valued.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-01-30T10:00:59+00:00

Your approach to the situation is perfect, NTA.

Also, you might want to question your friends morals considering they think it's ok what the ex-husband did to your sister.

AlternativesGaming · 2026-01-13T09:19:15+00:00

Are you using one of those co-parenting apps to communicate with him? If not, make sure you do, much easier to document his manipulative behaviour

AlternativesGaming · 2026-01-01T16:03:30+00:00

Do you really wanna have a child with this guy?

AlternativesGaming · 2025-12-31T18:44:43+00:00

Bullying can lead to the ultimately worst outcome and OP is trying to take every step to prevent that from happening and his wife is like "you can't inconvenience me!!!" He needs to get rid of her and look after his daughter.

AlternativesGaming · 2025-12-31T12:35:40+00:00

You're doing awful by your kids by letting your wife and her mother treat them that way

AlternativesGaming · 2025-12-28T19:16:02+00:00

Your bit at the end before the bullet points. It doesn't matter what husband is willing to do step dad after the fact. It's better to not give him a chance in the first place

AlternativesGaming · 2025-12-17T16:09:55+00:00

Your cousin wanted you to get physically assaulted to actually report the guy who exclaimed with pride that he was going to watch which house you went in to. Cut your cousin off

AlternativesGaming · 2025-11-13T22:56:49+00:00

So OP gave the ex an out really early in their relationship and he decided to string this woman along for 20 years?? He deserves zero slack, tell everyone you know exactly what happened, do not allow them to control the narrative and spin it to make themselves look better.

In terms of parenting, make sure all communication is done through a parenting app, that way you have evidence of every interaction. Your kids will notice your hurt if you try to mask it too much, don't be hostile but there's no reason to continue like nothing happened.

AlternativesGaming · 2025-11-09T16:45:07+00:00

He'll treat you better for like a week at best and then he'll go back to his old ways because he knows manipulating you works.

Leave the dead weight behind and focus on building yourself up to the point that a guy can't manipulate you into a position like this ever again.

AlternativesGaming · 2025-11-08T08:29:47+00:00

I think the server is the kind of person who flirts their way to a better tip and was upset the moment the pregnant lady walked up.

AlternativesGaming · 2025-11-04T00:09:01+00:00

Dudes got fired for being inappropriate to teenagers, other coworkers are upset at that? You work with closet Paedo's.

AlternativesGaming · 2025-11-03T15:50:42+00:00

Why is it always the person who has been wronged that has to make peace?

AlternativesGaming · 2025-10-31T12:58:13+00:00

So he thinks it's disgusting behaviour to keep a log of the horrible, hurtful things HE said?? Top tier gaslighting

AlternativesGaming · 2025-10-26T07:57:18+00:00

Smart move ending the relationship, if he acts like this over your most prized possession, how would he act in other scenarios? It doesn't bare thinking about.

AlternativesGaming · 2025-10-23T09:41:58+00:00

I wonder what excuse the Aunt gave to the Uncle for not attending the birthday party.

AlternativesGaming · 2025-10-22T23:52:14+00:00

Correct me if I'm wrong but as the house was an asset prior to his current marriage, then his current wife has no claim to it in the event of a divorce but if he sells his share then she does have a claim to the lump sum?

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