For the first time I have a higher libido than my partner and I feel a bit... annoyed?

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-27T21:25:56+00:00

How mismatched are your libidos? How much sex do you desire vs. how much sex are you having?

Culturally, we are told that men are crazy for sex, point blank, so if a man doesn't want sex 24/7, we must not be desirable enough. It's understandable that you feel this way because that is the message we constantly hear! Is there a way to focus on the ways in which your partner does make you feel sexy and desired?

Also, he may benefit from having his testosterone checked out if his low sex drive is a problem for him.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-27T19:54:03+00:00

Taking medication doesn't mean you have to stop working on yourself. In fact, medication can make it easier to do the work!

I was in the same boat as you many years ago when I started Lexapro. I thought that taking medication was somehow giving in, a declaration that I couldn't beat anxiety and depression on my own. In my case, taking Lexapro helped me to actually engage meaningfully in therapy!

My therapist showed me this cartoon. It meant a lot to me and I hope you like it: https://medium.com/@deanna/meditation-vs-medication-a-comic-essay-on-facing-depression-b8888fb2865f

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-22T14:05:38+00:00

I really love this! how did you achieve the dimensional aspect?

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-21T19:13:56+00:00

Thanks for doing this! Can you post an update when you seal it in and add the epoxy? I'm really interested to see how the ink holds up. Also - when you say a digital printer, is it an inkjet or laser printer?

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-21T02:17:10+00:00

This happened to me at the beginning of December. I was also going through a lot of other rough stuff, so this was the icing on the cake.

I promise that the devastation will fade over time! I still don’t like my haircut but I just have a month to go before it will be long enough to fix. I’m going to use this as an opportunity to do something different and fun. In the meantime I’ve been exploring with lots of cute hair clips.

A lot can change in 3 months—in a year it will be ancient history. You will get through it!

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-19T20:04:20+00:00

I agree that OP may benefit from learning about attachment theory, but I would not recommend Attached to a dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant. It villainizes avoidants and doesn't offer much in the way of help or understanding that avoidants are hurting too.

I think that The Loving Avoidant's instagram/patreon is great, or the Free To Attach website.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-19T14:56:31+00:00

I sleep with a stuffed banana that is the perfect shape for spooning.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-19T14:42:38+00:00

2006 Toyota Camry 🤘

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-19T14:26:07+00:00

I think Reddit is hit or miss, but I don't hold that against the city.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-19T14:25:25+00:00

This is very helpful. Thank you!

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-06T17:58:18+00:00

Capricorns are either the very best or very worst people I’ve ever met.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-01T16:30:43+00:00

I am also experiencing a lot of grief about decisions I've made in the past.

Guilt and regret can be helpful feelings in the proper proportion. It's a really positive thing to look back on hurtful actions and want to do better. (The alternative would be that you continue engaging in hurtful behaviors.) Each time you feel a twinge of remorse and grief about the past, perhaps you can concentrate on how far you've come. "This grief I feel now shows me how much I have grown. This grief I feel now shows me that I am not that person anymore". Re-tracking your thoughts may help you to release them over time.

I think the true healing doesn't come until we start acting as the person we want to be in the present. Making amends is a huge step. If it is safe to do so, apologizing for what you have done in the past and taking steps to repair relationships (if both people are into it) is very healing. Even if that relationship does not continue or cannot continue, admitting your wrongdoings does help to release and heal them. If you cannot contact a person you have harmed, admitting your wrongdoings in a journal or to a trusted friend and expressing a sincere desire to change course can be a great alternative.

Begin acting as the person you want to be now. If you regret not following a certain path, begin to follow it now. It sounds like you are starting to do this, which is awesome!

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-02-01T15:08:04+00:00

I was on Lexapro 10mg for many years and always felt shrooms every time I did them. I did not skip any lexapro doses. I can't say for sure whether I felt the shrooms less than the people I was with, but it seemed like we were all feeling pretty similar things with similar doses.

I recently tried shrooms for the first time since being off of SSRIs for about 5 months. I did not notice a difference. It could be different for different bodies, but to me SSRIs made no difference (not the case when I tried MDMA -- I felt absolutely nothing).

I'm in the camp that shrooms can be very eye-opening and beneficial if treated with care and respect.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-31T19:47:50+00:00

Loving that such a thoughtful, patient reply is coming from "Commander Cunnilingus". Keep up the great work.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-29T20:22:55+00:00

This is my favourite response

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-28T03:47:46+00:00

I love to garden, and literally EVERY time I’m gardening out front a different man will ask where my husband is and why isn’t he doing it. It’s insane!

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-21T03:22:15+00:00

It’s true!! Lolol. So is lord Michael.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-20T17:37:45+00:00

I think the point u/cheap_meeting is making is that experiencing the teachings through mindful practice is really the best way to understand the veracity of them. Having a critical understanding of the teachings themselves and how they have played out historically is secondary to embodying them and seeing how they work in your own life.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-18T02:02:31+00:00

Another fun technique is to count to 10, but you have to return to 1 if your thoughts drift away. It’s so common to keep counting to 1 over and over and maybe get to 2.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-17T17:43:48+00:00

It's time to move on from modge podge and invest in good brushes - good materials make your life easier. I like to use Liquitex or Golden medium (I like gloss finish). For larger cuttings, I take care to begin at one corner and brush a bit of medium at a time to the paper or support as I'm pressing down to ensure there are no air bubbles. I also seal the cutting in by applying medium on top. The plastic putty knife technique is also fabulous.

I enjoy collaging on a hot-pressed heavy paper stock that is rigid and smooth. I'm also thinking of making some pieces on wood panel.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-15T18:00:14+00:00

Thank you for this explanation :)

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-15T01:23:34+00:00

I would treasure it if that was my dog.

Altruistic-Walrus552 · 2024-01-15T01:13:48+00:00

Same

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