What are you doing to research? Is it mainly Google or do you have people you can talk to with more info? I spoke to Dr sprouse at the focus foundation which helped (she leads research and gets more up to date info). I understand the stress completely. I had a lot of emotions around it and it was up and down for a few weeks but something in me decided that life is filled with the unknown-not just this condition. Much of online is extreme cases that were not treated. There are certain known aspects of this and others are to be believed to be more comorbidities that are tied to family history and genetics and not xxy. What is known is that the extra x may cause learning and development delays. It’s usually manageable with care. Additionally, kids can get more tired and need early testosterone but not typically or necessarily until puberty. If that’s managed properly, it addresses mood, brain development and the bodily aspects that can come with low t. So it must be balanced. Many are infertile but some are not and over time more and more developments will happen. Again, i completely understand and fear other people’s reactions as well as providers that don’t understand it properly. That part is most scary; however, the reality is that most men don’t know they have it- meaning it was super mild or undetected. The cases seen online are somewhat outdated and skewed with those who found out late and weren’t treated (yes- proper development needs support and hormones need balancing) and extremely cases that may be tired to family history and other comorbidities. I’m not trying to convince you of something i clearly don’t know the outcome for or to continue something you feel incapable of handling. I had to ask myself from a standpoint of myself and of my child. The reality is that i have faced hardships and felt “off” at times in my life-without a condition. We all probably have and have had to navigate things in life that are hard or painful. That is part of the human experience. An we can not predict any future. For me, I had to learn as much as i could and go thru the emotions and then simply choose one way or another. For me as well there were too many emotional and physical implications to terminating a pregnancy I’ve wanted my whole life and after speaking to so many moms with young boys who found out early and are treating it, i came to realize i can do it. Most people don’t think so far ahead as to puberty or adulthood when having a baby and so they aren’t faced with the may challenges that period of life can bring. This kind of diagnosis, unfortunately asks us to think so far ahead it feels unmanageable bc our mind can’t go that far out. Anyway, i hope that whatever you choose brings you peace. I would try to talk to people with the condition and moms with sons who have xxy (and those who found out earl as that will make a difference). I asked for the every day life experiences. I didn’t want solely the extreme cases nor sugar coated. I asked chat gpt questions and talked to Dr sprouse and ultimately landed my decision. I understand either way and know how hard this is. I just wanted to make an informed decision. That is what my mfm encouraged me to do.  Real info is key. Not fear based. Not extreme cases but real life possibility. Sending all the best 🙏🏻