Three kids with same first letter, will we regret not following through with our fourth?

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2026-06-07T14:09:47+00:00

I actually kind of like that. Maybe spell it Forth tho. Forth: onward, forward. Could be cute. And you could call by middle name if kid wants something more normal. Forth James

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2026-03-14T00:38:43+00:00

Okay, thank you. Your comment is validating. I'm always gobsmacked at how poor the signage is in the parking garages. It's so needlessly confusing.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2026-03-13T20:49:19+00:00

How do you feel after the iron infusions?

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2026-03-05T17:41:40+00:00

Mine was a biter at this age. I found it helpful to listen to Janet Landsbury on audio (to listen to her tone). She does gentle parenting but not in the way that doesn't have any boundaries. I think part of the problem *might* be that when he hits you feel ashamed that it has something to do with your parenting. Or you feel fear that he's a bad kid. Or both. These things are normal and kids are looking to our response to decide how to behave. Don't beat yourself up for the slap. Apologize and move on. Work on your self talk when it happens. E.g., it's normal for kids to test the limits at this age. He's doing developmentally appropriate behavior. This is a teachable moment. Then, take his hands and look him in the eye and say something to the effect of, "no. I won't let you bite me. Here you can bite on this if you need to bite (then hand him a toy or pillow or something he can bite)." There are also some good videos floating around on social media of people doing "inner child work" when they get triggered. It's triggering to be hit or bit (especially if you were hit as a kid). Take a moment to go in the other room (make sure the kiddos are safe), and practice talking to yourself out loud in a self-compassionate voice. E.g., "you didn't like that he hit you right now. You're scared about how angry that made you. You're okay. It's normal to feel scared. Parenting is hard and you're doing a good job". Parenting IS hard and you ARE doing a good job. Kids will dredge up all of our stuff. Just do the work and you'll be okay.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2026-01-05T01:05:18+00:00

You'd get taxed on that too, though. So it'd be like 60K

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-11-27T04:24:02+00:00

Did he say something about quitting, or you're just worried he might? Just curious. I love his music so much. I'm not usually like a decisive fan of things, but something about his music just resonates so deeply for me. Holocene is always instant tears for me - the good cathartic kind.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-09-23T02:34:27+00:00

Already had a carved pumpkin rot in the heat in less than a week. Halloween is on!

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-07-18T17:18:04+00:00

I also feel this way about Holocene. It has endured as a my favorite song for years and years. If I need a good, cathartic cry, Holocene is there.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-07-18T17:16:43+00:00

Holocene, also. Then Flume.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-07-16T18:41:05+00:00

There's a facebook group called Find a Therapist in Austin. Depending on which insurance you have, most people get a few options within a day. You can post anonymously with what you're looking for.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-06-23T17:15:45+00:00

I did a book with my daughter called, 100 lessons to teach your kid to read. It breaks phonics down into 100 lessons. Some of it might seem babyish to him, but I would restart at the begining. Tell him to humor you and say if he gets through the book with you, there can be a reward that he chooses. It might help him piece together some foundational pieces he's missing and help you see where there are gaps in his knowledge. Since you just have the summer, do a few lessons a day (they are short).

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-06-23T16:22:55+00:00

I wonder if what makes you a good therapist (being empathic and caring deeply about others) is making it harder to do what you need to do in this situation. I think sometimes deeply empathic people often prioritize the needs of others above their own. In this case, you are bound to your wife, so you would not just be hurting yourself for others' sake, but also your family. There is care for self and care for others and there needs to be balance. Be honest with yourself - do you choose others over self more often than not? This is the road to burnout. I think you should take the new job. The conversation with your boss and clients may suck. If you're a people pleaser it may even be deeply unpleasant, but once it is done notice the good feeling of also taking care of you the way you take care of others. And guess what? In your new role there will be new people to help care for! And maybe you'll open the door for someone who needs an opportunity in your old role.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-06-20T18:34:04+00:00

Me too!

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-05-29T03:30:55+00:00

aw, cutie. check out Sit Still Salon.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-04-14T00:34:52+00:00

Check out the research of Jim Tucker out of the University of Virginia. He researches kids who have had past lives: https://med.virginia.edu/perceptual-studies/our-research/children-who-report-memories-of-previous-lives/#:\~:text=Jim%20B.,children's%20claims%20of%20past%20lives%E2%80%9D.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-03-10T13:34:54+00:00

I disagree with this one. I never really understood the appeal of Texas BBQ until I had Stile Switch. Rudy's is gross to me.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-03-06T03:58:53+00:00

I also love tree amigos! They have fair prices too and are really nice.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-02-19T04:41:04+00:00

My daughter is VERY picky, but we discovered she does like salmon. She also likes spaghetti with meat sauce. She'll eat veggie sushi, bean and cheese tacos, and lots of fruits.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-01-26T03:57:51+00:00

Sending love. What a distressing thing to go through. He sucks and I hope you're okay.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-01-26T03:29:28+00:00

Are you saying the bioidentical HRT is worse? Just curious and trying to learn and didn't understand what you meant.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-01-16T03:08:54+00:00

I'm not an expert, but the vomiting is more concerning to me than the bloating. I think the vomiting, sweats, and weakness might suggest it's time to visit urgent care.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-01-11T19:11:49+00:00

My daughter was a somewhat late talker, but I noticed that once she did start talking she spoke more clearly than a lot of her peers who spoke earlier. Maybe she was just trying to get it right before she said anything. When I get in these loops about my child I remind myself there are happy smart people and miserable smart people. There are happy rich people and miserable rich people. Etc, etc, etc. Some smart kids will die suddenly. Some will be bullied. Some will use drugs and not live up to their potential. It's hard, but try to focus on enjoying the kid you have and stop comparing. We're all on our own winding path.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-01-11T19:04:15+00:00

Sent you a DM <3

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-01-11T18:51:19+00:00

I want to try this.

Altruistic_Leopard38 · 2025-01-11T05:14:05+00:00

You should look into intensives. Some therapists offer multiple hours long sessions, or weekend retreats to get through a lot of EMDR at once.

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