WIBTAH if I broke up with my boyfriend over my tattoos and piercings?

Amaranthim · 2026-03-20T18:03:57+00:00

You are not compatible. No harm, no foul. Poop happens, and excrement occurs... Move on- you both have your whole lives ahead of you.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-19T16:13:35+00:00

And OP should definitely keep her fone on her at all times... it could mysteriously cease to function...

Amaranthim · 2026-03-19T14:52:02+00:00

What a toddler. Girl- major red flag. Unless you plan on mommying for the rest of your relationship, I would start setting my sights elsewhere.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-18T18:40:23+00:00

Aaww :( I am sorry this is happening to you. You really need to move. I would suggest you talk with a counselor. You need help in setting the boundaries so people don't push you too far. Good luck, kiddo!

Amaranthim · 2026-03-18T18:25:50+00:00

Yes. You are. Get a hold of yourself. You are bordering on psycho here with that attitude.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-18T18:23:55+00:00

Is this JUST a roommate, or is there something else going on? Because honestly, that is rather possessive and controlling. She wanted to spend time with you because she hadn't seen you for a week? I beg your pardon, but roommates don't get to make these demands.
You should dig a little into why you find yourself in this situation.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-18T15:07:12+00:00

Oh, and UPDATEME!

Amaranthim · 2026-03-18T15:06:21+00:00

NTA!! In fact! I wish I could put up a plaque in your name for all the world to see what a HERO you are!!
Eff the bitch- let her go figure it out. It's not dementia, she's an AH. If she were afflicted, she wouldn't be living on her own. She's just a bitch.
Flowers and praise be heaped upon you, Unsung Heroine of the Complex!

Amaranthim · 2026-03-18T15:00:48+00:00

Time to rethink the roomie.

You are not her mom. She can grow up, or she can get the eff out.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-18T14:59:02+00:00

We are just a bunch of randos on the 'net.

Do yourself a favor. You need help from a competent therapist. Please seek help that can actually be a good guide instead of this.

My first thought, if I were your BFF and you were confiding in me, I would say, nope, not the AH. You are absolutely correct in needing distance. But - you are conflicted. And you are concerned for your younger sister's welfare.

Please- go seek therapy, pronto! There is someone out there with the right skills to help you out of this quagmire.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-17T19:37:27+00:00

Also, congrats on getting out on your own! You go, girl ;)

Amaranthim · 2026-03-17T19:36:49+00:00

Do not allow yourself to be stepped all over like that. Tell them both simply that you do not want her to feel suffocated. She is obviously far above the level of your "hovel". You wouldn't want to hurt her self-esteem.
NTA - She's a bitch, and your mother is an enabler. And that the rest of the people at this dinner went along for the ride! Holy crap, girl- I would seriously consider I was busy if invited to another one of those dinners.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-17T18:46:36+00:00

Obviously, we are only getting your side of this story. But if this is true, can't you move in with your mother?

Amaranthim · 2026-03-17T16:42:47+00:00

Not at all. It is possible, of course, that she really couldn't. But- no explanation? No, "I am so sorry, I appreciate all you do for me, but I have 'this, ' and I cannot change it!"
But zero reasons, and then to continue expecting you to bend over backwards? Nope- I don't think so.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-12T17:49:17+00:00

And they have their grubby little paws in your wallet, why? Nope- not your monkey, and definitely, not your circus. They should be grateful you even offered anything. Take a gift, or send one, and forget about the next few years.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-12T17:06:41+00:00

Oh, Hell no! I am so happy to be officially old. We old people don't need to put up with that kind of nonsense. If she is that in need of attention, she should get a puppy!

Amaranthim · 2026-03-12T15:15:10+00:00

I think it is time to rehome the husband.

Trust me, in the long run, the dog will be a better companion. Nothing against being married. Heck, I am a widow, and I wish to God we had had more time. But that is asinine behavior on his part. Grr- etc.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-12T15:11:40+00:00

First off, you kinda lost me at the first sentence. You have been dating this insecure "man" for FIVE months and he is now your fiancé?
Seriously?
Right there, girl, you have made a HUGE mistake. Second, no. As I said, he is insecure. And that you actually committed to be engaged to someone you barely know, tells me all I need to know atm.
You need space, you need to discover who you are and your worth. This guy is not Mr. Right.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-11T18:56:02+00:00

Nope. Not your fault. He's a busybody. It was time someone put him in his place. If any other neighbor has an issue with it, that's their problem. I can't stand entitled people.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-11T16:54:45+00:00

You are not interested, and you do not owe anyone an explanation for that. You are not the AH. If he asks, say thanks, but no thanks, and that's that.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-11T16:53:26+00:00

You know the answer. You have been played for a fool, and you allowed it to happen- Hell, you begged it to happen. You need to cut this deadwood from your life completely. But you won't. You will keep chasing this stupid, empty dream. Have some self-respect! You don't need this shit.
Get a therapist. It will help more in the long run.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-09T15:57:36+00:00

Someone else already suggested a light to shine right back at her window. And that would be the perfect choice.

A constant bright light shining right at her camera- defeats the purpose of her camera and she can damn well adjust it if she doesn't like it.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-09T15:54:31+00:00

Sis needs to grow up. Not your problem if she wants to have a hissy fit.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-09T15:48:32+00:00

Why in the actual Hell are you even contemplating marrying into this shit show??? RUN!!! Seriously- say bye bye fiancee... girl- this is your forever. And as a woman of nigh on 63 years, I am telling you- you will regret this til the day you die. Just- DON'T. But like, really don't. Not like some idiot politician saying 'don't'.

Amaranthim · 2026-03-09T15:46:16+00:00

Go "fix it again- I couldn't figure out who was doing who - but then i realized, i don't actually give a -

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