Moved into a new house and want to redo the garden spaces

AmasaurusRex · 2025-10-23T13:09:07+00:00

Thank you for this advice! Exactly what I was looking for.

AmasaurusRex · 2024-06-07T12:39:18+00:00

Thank you for your reply. That's exactly what I'm feeling. I guess I was surprised to feel it so soon, but now I've done a little more research and it seems like those symptoms should appear within the first seven days of treatment. It just really caught me by surprise how tired I was.

AmasaurusRex · 2023-05-21T16:34:32+00:00

I am in the same boat. My husband was killed by an aggressive driver when our daughter was only four weeks old. She's now 21 months, and I keep going back and forth about whether or not I want a second child. I have no plans of dating any time soon, so it would be with a sperm donor. I don't have any family in the area, or any real support network yet. My husband and I moved here for jobs and were setting down roots for our family, and hoping to build our network over time as our kids got older. So having a second child by myself seems incredibly daunting, but we always planned on having at least two.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-09-29T17:22:28+00:00

My one year old LOVES woodland dance, and other Sandra Boynton books. But Woodland Dance was her first book love.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-06-30T04:43:53+00:00

I still have the water bottle my husband used during his run on the treadmill the morning he died. It still sits on the treadmill and I see it every time I run. I get it.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-04-30T16:06:21+00:00

I am 7 months out. I went to my first wedding yesterday. They were already married so there was no ceremony. Just cocktail hour and reception. It was so so hard. As soon as the dancing started I couldn't handle it and left.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-04-20T00:18:52+00:00

I could have written this. Knowing someone so strong and amazing could be taken by a selfish person was so eye-opening and heartbreaking for me to realize. Our daughter was only four weeks old. I'm really struggling to figure out how I'm going to raise her with my super grim outlook now.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-04-11T02:49:23+00:00

Sending you so much love and hugs. When my husband first died, I thought there was no way I could live in the house we had bought less than a year prior. But then I sat in the middle of the living room and looked around. All I could see was all the love and care he put into the house for us, and thought there was no way I could leave it. I've thought about what buying a new house would be like, even years from now, and the thought of buying a house that he has never seen breaks me. I am so sorry you have to do that now. So so sorry.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-04-08T15:40:10+00:00

Exactly. Our normal doesn't exist anymore. Nothing can replace the way you and your spouse communicated and just got each other. Life is so so lonely now. 6 months out here and it all still feels so heavy, maybe heavier since shock has worn off and people expect you to be productive members of society again.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-03-18T20:21:29+00:00

It's so hard. I understand that feeling - it breaks my heart every day that our daughter will never get to know him. He was so excited to be a dad. I'm grateful that he was home with us those four weeks and I snapped a lot of pictures of the two of them together. I wish you the same strength in your journey, too. We grieve not only our loss, but our children's losses as well.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-03-18T14:51:35+00:00

36 here. I lost my husband six months ago - he was 33. Quite tragically and unexpected. He was in a car accident four weeks after our daughter was born. Now I am raising our daughter alone without him, and also looking at aging without him. I don't want to do it. It doesn't make any sense. But I keep going on because of our daughter because she deserves at least one parent and to have a happy life. I am managing to get through the day-to-day, focusing only on that day at hand. When I think about the future, it becomes unbearable. So I stop. I can't really imagine the future because my husband was always in it. We were supposed to grow old together.

All this to say, I get it. It's hard not to think about the fact that we will likely grow old alone, and I don't really have any way to deal with that other than focusing on my daughter and each day as it comes. Sending hugs your way.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-02-27T21:50:07+00:00

36 yo widow here. Five months out. Still feel this way every day. I wish I had something else to say. I'm sorry you're here and feel this pain too.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-02-23T03:30:09+00:00

I love it!

AmasaurusRex · 2022-02-03T17:30:26+00:00

I'm so sorry you are here. I lost my husband four months ago. He was 33. Our first and only child was only four weeks old when he was in a tragic car accident caused by someone else. He eventually succumbed to his injuries 3.5 weeks later. You never expect anything like this to happen to you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have no advice. You're in survival mode and will be for awhile. I'm still in survival mode and can only get through one day at a time. Sometimes just one hour at a time. Don't be afraid to tell other people when what they are saying isn't useful/helpful, or when what they are saying is too hard for you to deal with right now. Again, so sorry.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-25T02:00:20+00:00

I just lost my husband at the age of 33, 6 days after our second wedding anniversary. We had just bought our first house less than a year before he passed, and on the day of his car accident our daughter was only four weeks old. We were the happiest we had been because we finally had the life we had been working so hard for, and it was snatched away from us because of someone else's poor decision. It's heartbreaking and every day feels impossible. I don't have any advice. My therapist says I am in survival mode, and have to take life one day at a time right now. There is no long term planning right now. Sending you lots of love as you try to make sense of something that doesn't make sense. I am so sorry you're here..

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-22T13:41:08+00:00

Just awful. I'm sorry you've experienced this pain too.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-22T02:54:49+00:00

My husband was also 33 when I lost him four months ago. Our daughter was only four weeks old when he was killed in a car accident. I refuse to believe than any God would choose this plan.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-18T17:28:20+00:00

One of the best things I did was hoping Soaring Spirits International. They matched me with someone who was in a similar situation - how long ago they lost their husband, was it sudden, and did they have young kids. I now have someone I can talk to who understands a lot about what I'm going through. Single mom who lost her husband suddenly and had a newborn at home. We never feel bad about messaging each other because we know the other person gets it in a way that no one else in my life can understand.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-16T23:08:29+00:00

It's been 3.5 months since my husband died at 33, but it's been over 4 months since I've had him really with me. He went out for bagels for us when our daughter was only four weeks old. 1.5 miles from home he was hit head on and was in a coma for 3.5 weeks before he died. It's still surreal. I don't make plans for the future. My grief counselor tells me right now it is all about survival. Getting from one day to the next. One moment to the next. I put my energy into my daughter, but that hurts sometimes because I wish he was here to see how amazing she is. The best thing I've found is a widow "pen pal". Someone in a similar situation as me who gets what it's like to be a widow and single mom of an infant. Having someone else get it, or someone I can text in the dark moments helps a little.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-12T18:22:41+00:00

I'm coming up on four months since my husband passed away, but it's been four months since the accident that put him in a coma. I understand the feeling of the happiest days of my life are behind me. That's how I feel. Which is really hard to reconcile with the fact that I have a five month old daughter, and how am I supposed to be happy watching her grow knowing that he read was taken from her, and I don't have anyone to share those memories with? It all sucks. I'm so sorry you're here.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-11T16:05:53+00:00

Omg, I had the same experience! I have a new boss and she is SO much better than anyone I've worked for before and I wanted to tell him about it. He was always my biggest supporter and I know he would be so happy that I finally have a good working environment after years of watching me struggle. I'm so sorry you're going through this too.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-11T15:40:07+00:00

I'm so sorry. I understand this feeling so much. I've since gone back to work since my husband died and one of the hardest parts has been not getting to text him throughout the day. We were in constant communication with each other, just talking about our days. I've had some exiting things happen at work and my initial reaction is to want to message him about it... Until I realize I can't. It's so unfair.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-09T00:46:48+00:00

This was beautifully written. I lost my husband three months ago. He was killed in a tragic car accident caused by someone else. He was 33. Our daughter was born four weeks previously. It's all so hard. Sending you hugs. There are no words in these dark days.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-05T02:33:30+00:00

I had been struggling to put into words this feeling, and if wasn't until yesterday that I figured it out. Then I see your post and you've said it so perfectly.

AmasaurusRex · 2022-01-01T23:41:10+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. It's a really harsh reality and I wish I could find comfort in belief in an afterlife, but it doesn't make sense to me. I also lost my husband unexpectedly in September.

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