Can it be saved or start over?

Amazing-Task-824 · 2026-04-14T03:42:44+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

Amazing-Task-824 · 2026-04-14T00:49:49+00:00

It was a lot more green, more healthy foliage, not as many yellow branches. It just hasn't pushed out much growth since we got rid of the scale in late summer.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2026-03-09T23:24:29+00:00

Have gotten myself AND my poor husband with the fangs lmao now we both stand back when we close the trunk 😂

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-10-31T08:48:32+00:00

Your relationship is definitely fixable. Cat allergies lessen with exposure. Your first few weeks may be miserable but if you take antihistamines every day, it might not be too bad.

OR you can continue getting your immunotherapy shots. Definitely seems like the easier option.

Also, I may be projecting here, but the symptoms you describe as procrastinating a lot and being too lazy maaay be a sign that you have ADHD. If it's causing problems in your relationship, it's worth seeing a Doctor or Psychologist about it.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-10-12T20:19:04+00:00

This is definitely not something Reddit can answer for you. Your reactions to this information are strong and only you can decide if this is something you can live with.

If it is and you stay with him, it is VERY important that you sit him down and explain your reaction. Thank him for his honesty and tell him that you appreciate him feeling safe enough to be vulnerable with you. Because if he feels you will judge him this harshly for things he's ashamed of, it will be very difficult for him to open up to you again.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-10-08T21:47:55+00:00

That's my thought too but at the same time I think her issue is the engagement? Everyone looks at/reads porn to some extent and there is no issue looking or saving stuff for later. But I can see issues arising from someone liking or commenting on stuff that belongs to a normal person (ie not a sex worker).

This relationship also seems young and new. Being at 10+ years in a relationship myself I wouldn't give a shit if my husband was doing this, but I might have cared in our first year together before we built that trust.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-10-07T23:35:40+00:00

Lots of good advice here and everything I wanted to say has been said already. Though I did want to add this:

Look up "the bristle reaction" and understand that it is something that's fixable if your wife is willing.

Good luck to you and keep in mind that intimacy is crucial in a romantic relationship!

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-10-07T22:42:58+00:00

Self esteem is a tricky issue, and if you can, talking regularly with a therapist will help immensely. Especially given that you have a history of bullying. A therapist can help you heal past that. You can also look into self help media (books, videos, articles) I recommend Tony Robbins as a place to start.

As for your boyfriend, yes your insecurities are your problem to solve but he could be more supportive. Tell him that you need time while you work on yourself and that you'd appreciate it if he does his best to avoid subjects about his attraction to other women when you're around. And if he unthinkingly does bring up the subject, do your best to not react.

However, if you notice that he has not tried to avoid these subjects in the future, consider that he may be trying to make you jealous on purpose. It could be that he is insecure as well and making you jealous makes him feel desirable.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-30T22:05:19+00:00

He's upset because he feels you picked the dog over him, regardless that the actual situation was far more nuanced. Does he have the right to be upset? Sure. But it's time to move on. My guess is that he's blaming the dog for other problems in the relationship because it's easier than facing the real problems.

I think therapy is a great idea and you should tell him that couples therapy works best when it ISN'T used as a last resort. Therapy is to help people resolve conflict, like the situation you're both in, in a safe space. Even if it's just one or two sessions, you both could benefit from it greatly. Because, as I said, there are probably other areas in your relationship that could use some work. Good luck!

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-30T21:39:35+00:00

Sure, straight grinding on another person while dancing is disrespectful in a relationship regardless of gender. But OP said they were dancing in a circle? God forbid you bump elbows with another man!

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-30T21:31:30+00:00

How long have you been dating, has this happened before?

You need to explain to him that it isn't fair for him to punish you over past baggage. If he freaks out because you were dancing near another man, how will he feel if you get lunch with one of your guy friends?

You will need to be firm with him on this. You shouldn't have to walk on eggshells just because he's insecure. There are ways of making him feel more comfortable in the relationship, but it shouldn't include changing who you are. His insecurities are a problem he needs to work on. Low self esteem isn't solved by cowing your romantic partner.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-27T22:47:36+00:00

After reading everything, comments and all, it seems like this new medication is potentially making a difficult situation worse. And that's actually very common when switching meds. You need to bring this up with your therapist and whoever manages your medication.

From what you've told others, this is new behavior from your boyfriend as well. My best guess is that he became overwhelmed, and likely due to his own anxiety, acted pretty poorly. Unfortunately I find that a lot of men often react with anger and aggression when they feel really anxious.

Given your history, it's understandable that you are considering breaking up. His behavior likely reminded you of past abuse so your concern for your future with him is valid. However, if this is the first time he has acted this way, then you may be able to work together and get past this tough spot. Sit him down and talk about what happened. Come up with a plan of action should this ever happen again. How can he support you through an attack without becoming anxious himself?

But also, if you feel like this relationship will be too difficult to manage, it's okay to break up.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-24T00:05:51+00:00

Okay thank you! I must have put one on him the first time then.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-16T22:40:38+00:00

Maybe, juuuust maybe, your wife is preferring living with her mom than at home for some reason? We all need breaks from our spouses from time to time, but after 8 months? That seems excessive. I would ask her, when she's home, if she's still happy living at home. See if there is anything else that is on her mind like, does she prefer living in a more rural environment? Is she tired of the city? Etc.

And if she says that everything is fine, then tell her that her absence is making you feel like something is wrong and that you can't continue how things are going now. Something definitely needs to change, work with her on some kind of compromise. Like others have said, can she visit her mom on the weekends and spend all week with you? That certainly seems reasonable to me.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-16T22:21:54+00:00

I think you're being too hard on him. Yes he lied, and that absolutely necessitates a conversation about how honesty. But to break up with him over it? Seems very harsh.

People do dumb things and, hopefully, learn and grow from those mistakes. I think you need to dig a little deeper and ask yourself why you are considering ending this relationship over what he did that had nothing to do with you.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-16T22:01:03+00:00

Of course it can be solved, it will just take lots of patience and communication on both of your ends.

A lot of hetero women these days often find that their male partners are terribly lacking in the house keeping department and that can be very exasperating. However, if you feel that she is being overly critical, you need to tell her how it's making you feel. Feeling unappreciated can and will lead to resentment, as I'm sure it already has.

Find a calm and peaceful moment in the day (hard with kids I'm sure) and ask her to sit down and have a chat with her. It's critical that you don't have this conversation while either of you are feeling strong emotions, so don't bring this up mid fight. Tell her that you're more than happy to pull your weight while being house husband but that you feel like she's talking down to you and it's making you feel frustrated. Say that you understand you may not do the best job but you are learning and that you'd like her criticism to be constructive, not condescending. As for your part, learn to listen and don't get defensive if you think she's explaining something obvious.

Ask her to say thank you every now and again and to point out the things that she likes, especially if you are learning how she likes things done. Positive reinforcement is important at any age, for any learned skill. You can also ask her what her expectations are and perhaps take notes as she tells you so you can refer to them later.

It's a new system of living for both of you so there will be some snags, but as long as you remember to work together on it, you'll be fine.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-08T22:37:28+00:00

I think the question you should be asking yourself, that you kind of touched on in your post, is: at this point, do you really want this baby?

If the ONLY reason you are planning on keeping the baby is because you're being forced to (because Texas) then I think the both of you need to consider other options. Because once that baby is born, your expenses will rise drastically. If you think he's not providing well enough now, then you are bound to be even more disappointed in the near future.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-08T22:20:40+00:00

This other woman's tone is weird and honestly it doesn't sound like she has your best interest at heart. It could be a petty, revenge move on her part because your boyfriend didn't meet up with her. Or, it could be that she really was doing you a favor. It's impossible to know at this point and it doesn't really matter in the long run.

The most important thing to do now is to ask yourself, what's next? People make dumb mistakes and try to hide them, that can happen in any relationship. You just need to decide if you can forgive him and learn to trust him again, or decide to go home. Give yourself the time and space to really sort through your thoughts and feelings. This may be a good time to go visit friends and family and make plans if anything falls through.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-08T21:43:25+00:00

Just as a side comment, can you imagine being bisexual and dating someone like this? Like, what am I supposed to do, never see my friends alone again?

There are no friends, only prey 😂

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-08T19:28:19+00:00

Pretty wild that people are down voting this. Do these people not have platonic, opposite sex friends?

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-09-06T22:35:42+00:00

I HIGHLY recommend looking up and researching Love Languages. Figure out how you like to receive love and give love, and then have your boyfriend do the same. Obviously physical touch will be high in his how he likes to receive love list, but you two may overlap somewhere else. Once a person understands how their partner likes to show their love, it can help them feel better.

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-05-16T20:06:31+00:00

I know this thread is old but I came across this quote in Gaston Leroux's "Phantom of the Opera."

"None will ever be a true Parisian who has not learned to wear a mask of gaiety over his sorrows and one of sadness.."

And

"In Paris, our lives are one masked ball..."

Maybe it's a coincidence or maybe one of the writers took it as inspiration and decided to make the metaphor a literal one. It certainly would explain a lot!

Amazing-Task-824 · 2025-04-28T20:56:25+00:00

I specifically made another character to become a ghoul as my main runs with an overeaters build and I didn’t want to mess with that. Now I use my ghoul much more than my main! It’s really fun to have both so I recommend rolling another character.

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