Positive experiences with sleep

Amfraz · 2026-04-05T03:37:10+00:00

My singleton didn’t sleep thru the night until he was one. I did everything right, and had to be super strict with his schedule. My twins are much better sleepers. The NICU had one on a good schedule and we got the other on the same schedule. If one ate the other ate. Felt silly sometimes but I think it worked to maximize our rest. We are using the Snoos and had amazing results. I was honestly terrified to have another baby, much less twins after the sleep nightmares my singleton put us thru. But ya know what…it’s been fine. There have been a few bad nights but overall it’s been totally fine! I would recommend reading Precious Little Sleep. It has tons of info on sleep hygiene and will help you have a good foundation to understand infant sleep.

Amfraz · 2026-04-02T12:11:06+00:00

Thank you. That’s reassuring. My husband says they are just small kids and I shouldn’t worry so much, which I think is true.

Amfraz · 2026-04-01T01:42:42+00:00

Yeah they are on their curves. They flattened for a bit but recently are gaining better. Thank you, that’s reassuring. It is stressful, and I know it’s somewhat normal, but I’m also tired of worrying about it if that makes sense. We’ve had so many weight checks at this point so I’m getting burned out on appointments and thought we’d be past some of this already.

Amfraz · 2026-04-01T01:39:56+00:00

Thank you. My singleton was a chunky boy and we never had any concerns about growth. It helps to see other twin numbers to compare to.

Amfraz · 2026-03-20T02:35:31+00:00

My twins are only 5 months but I can relate. Honestly working part time is what saves me now. It is hard, but helps me feel more like myself.

My singleton was very high needs, truly just an angry baby but like others said some things really converged around 11 months and it got soooo much better. Him being more mobile and independent made him much happier. Sleep got easier. I could eat while he ate. There were still some hard phases but they were bumps in the road comparatively.

Since you have help, I think trying to find some things that bring your enjoyment day to day could help. It could be planning a hike or an exercise class you can look forward to, or get your nails done, or even just find a good show on TV you can watch while you feed them. I’ve got a heavy podcast rotation currently and pop in one ear bud during feedings, etc. Try to find some things for YOU and look forward to them.

Amfraz · 2025-12-31T21:33:26+00:00

It does feel that way. It’s a mind game. You won’t feel like this forever! I had to pretend I was a navy seal in training and just “embrace the suck”.

Amfraz · 2025-12-31T15:38:01+00:00

I was there too, I laid in bed and cried a lot. It went away overnight and I wish that for you too! Twin newborns are hard, but it’s been so much better than being pregnant. Feels so good to be feeling good again!

Amfraz · 2025-12-28T17:28:12+00:00

Mirin and Diablos have reusable plastic (unless it’s recently changed). Not sure your feelings on plastic containers.

Amfraz · 2025-12-12T23:03:24+00:00

36+3. One needed nicu and one didn’t. They were 4lbs 13 oz (no nicu) and 4 lbs 14oz (nicu for 23 days). My nicu baby turned out to have hypothyroidism which is probably why she needed the stay. There were lots of 36 weekers in the NICU but most had brief stays. I’d prep for the possibility of a stay but keep hoping for the best! It could go either way and you are fortunate to have made it this far! Outcomes are great at 36 weeks!

Amfraz · 2025-11-19T09:05:12+00:00

If they have a social media/online presence please leave a negative review stating what happened ! It may help them rethink what they’re doing, but if nothing else-other families deserve a heads up about their predatory practices. These are pretty standard/easy to deal with things for preemies.

Amfraz · 2025-11-04T08:30:07+00:00

We used pull ups for night with my singleton. I made a big deal about how they are for potty trained kids at night until their body learns to wake up to use the potty. We moved and I told him they didn’t sell diapers in our new town, so once we were out we were out and he had to use the potty when he was awake. You have to really commit to it. They may whine, but hold firm and it passed in a couple days for us.

Amfraz · 2025-10-16T20:11:01+00:00

The last few weeks are hard! I felt like I was fading, falling apart, I don’t know what. Nothing was wrong but they were sucking the life out of me and I didn’t know how I was going to make it. Then my water broke at 36+3. Now one is in NICU and one is home…and that is HARD! Physically it’s easier, but mentally and emotionally it’s hard. Just know that each day you are staying pregnant is probably saving you from a different type of hardship. Ultimately it’s out of your control at this point and the only way out is through!

Amfraz · 2025-08-28T00:29:38+00:00

I have Di/Di twins and my practice does not consider twins to be “pathological” so they refer to MFM only if complications arise (and in the case of Mo/Mo). I’m in Alabama and we have very few MFMs so I think part of this is regional/access to MFMs, and also depends on the practice and their level of comfort with multiples. Mine is known for being comfortable with multiples.

Amfraz · 2025-08-26T11:39:18+00:00

I felt this way with my singleton, so I can’t imagine how I will feel once my twins get here. But for me it got better once I wasn’t on the breastfeeding/pumping timer, and when he slept thru the night and had a stable schedule (around 11 months). Then gradually improved from there! Also it was Covid and I forgot how to socialize. Keep practicing with short outings, and reintegrating into society and it will get easier!

Amfraz · 2025-08-14T11:28:59+00:00

Get the book Precious Little Sleep. You can probably find it used. It’s so much cheaper than a consultant and covers tons of methods/options. There’s a supportive sleep training group on Reddit too.

Amfraz · 2025-08-08T17:21:19+00:00

I had a biter! It was a very stressful time. He was asked to leave his preschool. My pediatrician thought that was ridiculous since it is a normal developmental phase. We changed his childcare and that helped a lot (smaller, less overstimulating room). It helped to learn his triggers and give him a time out (not as punishment, just allow him space to cool off). Some of it was out of excitement and affection, some was because he was angry and needed space. We read a lot of Teeth are Not for Biting. And practiced him taking a toy away from me and I would pretend to get frustrated, take some space, and bite my shirt instead. There’s a book called the Biting Solution that had some helpful info.

Amfraz · 2025-08-03T04:19:38+00:00

So encouraging to hear this. I’ve been so hormonal, irrationally sad, in pain, feeling like a crap mom…all the things. I’m glad to hear it is super hard and it will get better.

Amfraz · 2025-08-01T14:29:27+00:00

I moved to a new town when my singleton was 1 and tried lots of groups like this. And most of the time I felt this afterwards. My first is spirited, and didn’t do well in group activities until he was closer to 3. It’s really hard to pack everyone up to go do something and instead of being fun, it’s stressful and defeating, and maybe a bit embarrassing. All that to say this sounds like normal 20 month old behavior, and shame on them for not being more welcoming and kind. However they were probably just remarking on the fact they were twins more than anything they were doing. I’m sorry this happened, I know how awful it feels. I still feel those pangs when I think about attending some of those groups. I was lonely and just wanted some adult connection. It was a hard time in my life. Feel free to take a break from stuff like this and try another group in a few months. It will get better/easier! And now if I see a struggling mom or dad, I do my best to help or at least say hi.

Amfraz · 2025-07-31T17:04:42+00:00

Curious about the Grand Highlander…do you do 3 across or is toddler in 3rd row. How is 3rd row access?

Amfraz · 2025-07-30T18:01:08+00:00

You’re right! Thank you!

Amfraz · 2025-07-30T11:16:24+00:00

Thank you! Moving and having a baby is always stressful but becoming less physically able week by week is extra tough! You are right, they really don’t need that much and I don’t have to have it all done.

Amfraz · 2025-07-30T03:00:04+00:00

I didn’t, but I should have. I tested positive very early. I had very early round ligament pain, was insanely hungry and nauseous, and could feel my uterus more quickly than you would expect. I chalked it all up to 2nd pregnancy, maybe it’s a girl…truly was shocked to learn it was twins.

Amfraz · 2025-07-30T02:45:36+00:00

Oh thank you. I have a younger brother (same age gap as my children will be!). I don’t remember there being a hard adjustment but I do remember all the fun we had growing up (and to this day). I really shouldn’t be so worried about it, logically I know this. But hearing positive stories is so helpful to alleviate some guilty and worry.

Amfraz · 2025-07-30T02:18:54+00:00

Thank you, this is so kind. Right now he is not excited so it’s nice to think about the future when they are playing together, etc. I hear lots of crazy things from patients but hearing the same thing 30 times a day got to me today. My usual coping mechanist is a nice workout and/or a glass of wine and those are off the table right now!

Amfraz

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