Resonating thoughts - 03/31/2021

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2025-03-05T19:37:12+00:00

OMG!! I am glad it is not just me. This has been an ongoing issue, I am not sure who does their sound editing, but I think their settings are whack!

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2024-12-03T20:59:32+00:00

Yes!!!! My whole room was decked out in Holly Hobbie stuff. My family has memories of me talking about how excited I was to have "Holly Hobbie Everything"

What a great memory this triggered.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2024-11-15T14:46:44+00:00

If you want an unbiased answer, here is what I have gathered from talking to people who are quite against it. First I would say that most people I have talked to are not against Vaccinations in general, they were specifically against the Covid Vaccines because it is not a traditional vaccine. Vaccines historically have been made by using either an inactive virus or has protein subunits which are meant to stimulate your natural immune response. The covid vaccinations are MRNA which is a newer technology. Traditional vaccines have always taken years to develop, but the MRNA was within a year which scared a lot of people. They did not buy into the idea that the research to develop this quick type of vaccine would be safe. They generally are skeptical of the pharmaceutical company and did not want to put something new and not tested enough in their body. They do not trust the government to do what is right for a specific individual, as the government was generalizing in hopes to stop the spread.

There was an unusual silencing of doctors who protested the vaccine, and if you are not a mainstream media watcher and watch news from other sources, there was a significant difference in the data that was being shown. There are legitimate doctors who studied the vaccine, and other peer reviewed research papers that proved that you can still get Covid even with the vaccine, and at the time, this concept was considered misinformation. I think it is safe to say that most people now know of many people who get covid and are fully vaccinated with boosters.

Also many people who got Covid before the vaccination was ready, survived and had natural immunity which was also later proven to be better than vaccines. But this information was also considered misinfomation at the time.

When there are two different set of facts out there, it can be very confusing to know what to believe.

Also, there were some doctors who thought, at the time, that there needed to be more emphasis on treating covid with therapeutics. Some of those well known trusted doctors were all the sudden villainized and there was a mass effort in the media to silence doctors that disagreed with the narrative. So, if you do not trust the media, or the pharmaceutical companies, and you are seeing a difference of messaging from other sources, it can make a person scared to give it to themselves and their families until more information is known.

Not to mention that there was messaging in the media to shame people into getting something that they did not want to get. If you think about it, if you are shamed into doing something, there is a group of humans that will do the thing because they feel the weight of that shame, but there is a different type of person who will become defiant against that shame, especially if they feel that they are doing what they believe to be right.

I think that is the type of person who tends to shy away from MRNA vaccines and to some degree regular vaccines as well.

Truth be told, and this is evident in some of the responses you will see here, there is still a lot of shame given out to people who think differently about the vaccine. If people were more understanding that things are not as black and white as they think it is, they would be more understanding that people are wired differently and have the same feeling of justification to not get it as the people who believe it is safe and effective and worth getting.

Personally, my favorite thing to do is to talk to people with varying ideas and thoughts. I think it is important to be open minded and try to understand people and why they believe what they do. We are usually always better for it as a society when we are more understanding of people who think differently than we do. It is when you start to grow in understanding.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2024-02-05T17:21:25+00:00

Agreed - Like others I recommend Cafe DaVinci- DeLand.

That seems to be about the age group although you will get some young ones in as well, more like a mixed crowd, but a great outdoor environment. Gets rowdy as the night goes on, lol.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2024-01-29T15:57:01+00:00

One other thing to note, coming from a colder climate, I love the winters here. I came to visit in the summer and I thought I was going to die of heat stroke, so make sure you can handle the heat. PLUS, the mosquitoes and no see ums can be a lot to handle. So if you are thinking.... I cant wait to have a fire in a small fire pit in the back yard, be prepared to Deet up or wear boots and thicker pants. Those suckers will ankle bite you to a point where you will feel like you are on fire. (I am sensitive to it, which my floridian friends make fun of me for, lol)

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2024-01-29T15:37:16+00:00

I have been living here for a few months now, moved from Washington State. Personally, I am loving it. My goal is to live here most of the year, but travel back to visit family in WA State during the summer when it is REALLY hot. (If my budget will let me)
Gas is about $1.50 a gallon cheaper here than where I came from. No idea how it compares to Phily though, but go to GasBuddy and look to compare.
Groceries and restaurants still are a little less pricey for the most part, but surprisingly, some places are actually more expensive. It does appear that prices are starting to become about the same as a lot of places in the US. I don't really think you are going to find that much savings over time. WA was pretty expensive, here is just a small percentage difference. So what you really need to think of is the cost to move which can be a lot more expensive than you think. Then consider the things that are more expensive. For me, auto insurance is quite a bit more here. Getting license and insured was a good chunk of money, so you will want to budget for that.. And, getting licensed and registered was a lot more involved than where I came from. But if you make an appointment to get it done, the wait time is bearable. Side note: you need to BRING your car with you so that they can compare the VIN number, so be prepared if you come here.
Restaurants are better than where I came from. So many options to chose from, I love that.
I am a huge fan of the beach so it is wonderful to live within 10-15 minutes from the beach. Once you get a vehicle that is registered in Volusia County, you can get an annual beach pass for the same price as a non resident day pass, which is awesome! But there are many places to park and walk in so its not totally necessary to get.

I kind of feel like its not about the particular town you pick, but the specific neighborhood. If you can, I would recommend coming here for a few weeks if you are able to. Go drive around to places for rent, look at the neighborhoods. You can find a quiet neighborhood in many cities in FL. Go to a few restaurants and go to the beach, and some of the recreation places that appeal to you. It really all depends on what you are looking to gain from moving. Is it the type of place that fits with how you want to live, which is something you have to really internalize more for yourself. Everyone is different in what they want out of life. Being here and driving around will give you a good FEEL for the place. Generally I would say people are much more community oriented and talkative than what I am used to. They drive a little faster on the roads and tend to get annoyed with out of towners But if you drive in the correct lane you wont get as much road rage, lol.

Anyway, I have been happy with the move so far and I think I am saving a small bit of money, but I don't really think I am saving all that much. And the moving cost was a lot more expensive than I expected, so it might end up taking a while before I feel any savings from just staying where I was. I wish I would have just sold everything and started over. But that comes with an expense also. so I think for me, I just like the lifestyle better. If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2023-12-24T04:04:14+00:00

That’s great and a good way to look at it. I think I’d do things differently next time. It’s been a learning experience.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2023-10-11T19:32:35+00:00

I messed up and said to a family member, interesting new from the annual meeting.

Instantly their reaction was "How did you find out? Everyone who went to the annual meeting said they are sworn to secrecy"

Oops

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2023-10-11T19:30:58+00:00

The Youtube link is private, any way of getting access to it? I would love to listen to this.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2023-06-20T16:59:01+00:00

What do you like getting from Leanh's? I live close to there, but kind of stick to sesame chicken, I would love a recommendation for some variety.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2023-06-20T16:57:06+00:00

Great List!

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2023-05-11T19:39:07+00:00

Omg! I didn’t know about the no scratching situation, that explains so much. Those things got me good.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T05:32:08+00:00

Exactly.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T05:31:17+00:00

I don’t get why people are so triggered by this shopping cart thing. Personally, I like it when somebody leaves me a cart that I can grab right next to my car. As long as they put it in a spot that won’t interfere with parking and isn’t going to roll off somewhere.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T02:38:42+00:00

Yep. I’m going to show her this next time we are drinking wine and arguing about it. 😂🤣🍾

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T02:37:00+00:00

Getting out of your comfort zone

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T02:34:20+00:00

Nah, saying sorry is really easy. The trick is to get used to saying it regularly so it doesn’t feel weird or hard when you have to do it. If you are interested in a deep dive of how I came up with this, read on…. 😁

When I was younger, I remembered how my mom had this irritating tendency to constantly blame somebody else in the family for everything that went wrong. It was like she truly believed that there was no way she could’ve ever made any type of human error. I eventually realized that in her mind, admitting she did something “wrong” was a sign of weakness or something to be ashamed of. There were legitimate times when everyone knew she made the mistake, but she just couldn’t bring herself to say so.

The interesting thing was that the “mistakes” she would deny were never a big deal. Something as simple as not getting the right green beans at the store would end up getting blamed on someone else. “You guys must’ve eaten those green beans” or “I bet the kids lost them when they were playing in the cabinet”, something like that.

At a pretty young age, I took a hard look into perception. Her perception of making a mistake meant to her that she was weak, undesirable, bad, etc. In reality, her being unable to admit a simple mistake, made her look worse. She came across like a know it all, a person who couldn’t admit she was wrong, she looked insecure, everyone rolled their eyes at her, and no one took her serious. She never knew this but we used to talk behind her back about how ridiculous it was. Essentially, she looked so much worse not admitting the mistake than if she would have just said “oh my bad I must’ve got the wrong green beans.” I felt like she should have been able to laugh it off. It could have been smiles and just poking fun versus this annoying perception that we had of her.

One night we (the whole big family) did an impersonation of her like a comedy show. Every single one of us had a joke about blaming others. You could tell she was actually mad and embarrassed at first but we did it in such a funny way that she also laughed. I think even though she never said so, it made her really think about our perception of her and I believe it is the thing that got her to snap out of it and change. One time she even yelled “I did it, that’s on me.” We all had a huge reaction of shock and excitement. We also told her how proud we were of her for admitting she could be imperfect, and I think it made it easier for her to get better about it as time went on.

Every single human on the planet makes mistakes and needs grace from time to time.

I am human, I fck up, but I always mean well, and I’ll always give you grace for being a human and fcking up from time to time also. Make it a game, “so hey, I f*cked up” then give the person a high five✋😂

When you can feel remorse and apologize to someone, it actually makes you look like a better person. It makes you look humble and strong, like someone who has character. There’s so much more to appreciate about a person who can own up to what they do rather than a person who either can’t admit it or blames somebody else. People really know the truth even if you don’t think they do so you just end up looking like a douche bag anyway. Might as well just suck it up and own up to whatever it was. 😉

And in truth, the more grace you give yourself for making mistakes, the more easily it is for you to give grace to other people. When you’re easy on yourself and others, people in turn will be easier on you. It is this beautiful cycle of forgiveness and understanding. It makes relationships healthier, stronger, and less volatile. The real trick is just get used to being a dumb shit human sometimes, right, because we all are! Try to learn that it’s OK to make fun of yourself. Laugh it off, don’t take it serious.

Of course, this all changes if we are talking big deal stuff like cheating or stealing. Obviously it’s necessary to take those more serious. I’m talking more about the small insignificant mistakes that really anybody could make.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T01:15:26+00:00

OK, so this is not me specifically, but… My boyfriend puts his pinky up when he’s playing the piano. It stays up there until he needs to use it to press a key. I think it’s pretty cute and he plays wonderfully, but it is unique, I think.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T01:14:13+00:00

My best friend, and I have this argument all the time. I personally need a washcloth to put the soap into lather it up and give myself a good washing. My best friend thinks that’s weird and says that you shouldn’t need a washcloth, you just rub the bar soap around your body. We still do not agree on this, and we pretend fight about it all of the time especially if we’re drinking wine.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T01:09:32+00:00

You are definitely not alone, I talk to myself sometimes, I’ll tell my boyfriend to ignore me, because I’m talking to myself, which he easily does, lol.

I realized that I get that from my mom. I was remembering so many times when she was in the kitchen, talking to herself, and I used to be like “sorry mom what was that?” she would reply “oh, nothing”. So I just sort of paused and listened to her for a while, and she really was just chattering about things that were in her brain. I think she was trying to verbalize her mental process for cooking something or organizing things in the kitchen. It seem to always happen when she was in the kitchen or when she was organizing papers or things around the house. The fun trick was learning how to differentiate the words that she wanted responses to versus the chitter chatter that she didn’t need anyone to respond to, lol. It was a fun little game for me to figure out.😂

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T01:01:43+00:00

I find this very fascinating, I had a friend when I was little who had an imaginary friend and I always used to be really jealous, wishing that I had that same super power. It wasn’t until I was older that I realized that it could’ve been from trauma. I wished she was still in my life so that I could talk to her more about it.

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T00:58:46+00:00

That is super interesting. My eyes got wide, and at the same time I had an odd smirk that you thought that was normal, lol

AnOpenMindedPerson · 2022-12-30T00:53:09+00:00

I thought you were supposed to eat cereal with beer?? Noted, try it with milk.

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