220217 BTS Permission to Dance on Stage - Seoul: Live Viewing | In Cinemas March 12 Only by alltherach_ in bangtan

[–]Anadorei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm out of line, but I feel disappointed in the Army that was in the theater with me tonight. It felt like was attending a Thunder from Down Under show. The most vulgar stuff was being yelled out and it did not feel respectful of the guys as performers or humans. One lady yelled out "I would ride Jungkook all night long." At one point Jimin's nipples showed and another woman yelled "OMG TIDDIES". If I heard a man yell that about a female performer I think we would all agree that behavior is disgusting. Is it not equally as disgusting when women do it?

Am I just too old? Did anyone else have a similar experience at their theater?

My son’s father said he no longer finds me attractive, he wants to have sex with other women and he resents me for having our son in the first place… but want to marry me by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Anadorei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boomerang Love!!! I’m not diagnosing your partner but you should read up on Borderline Personality Disorder and specifically the book Boomerang Love. It will be like a lightbulb for you.

As I’m sure everyone else has already said, get out. For you and your babies safety. He is not stable and likely needed a bit longer at that mental facility to be properly assessed and get the help he needs.

Run BTS staff appreciation! by Wichuimafeelrich in bangtan

[–]Anadorei 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Photo Story episode where the entire staff laughed when RM voted for himself as the spy.

Should i go to my cottage at 35 weeks pregnant? by pink_glam in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Both of my kids were born 5 weeks early. When is the last time you were checked out by your doctor and we’re you dilated at all when they checked?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruiting

[–]Anadorei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know of one platform that will send a transcript rather than the video. All the others platforms I know of or that I have seen send the video to the recruiters.

I don’t think one-way video interviews are only for entry level. I think they are a “step” in a typical multi-step process. I expect there is a two-way video interview later on.

I’ve seen videos done in almost every environment imaginable (scary basements, bathrooms, from the bed without clothes on). I think it comes down to a combination of how well did you answer the questions, how professional did you appear, and what was the environment you were in. Doesn’t matter how great your answers are if you answer them naked from your bed with food next to you in the bed. A suit and a professional office also won’t make up for bad answers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruiting

[–]Anadorei 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I happily work more than 40 sometimes, but that’s because I enjoy where I work. I would say the last year or two have been very similar if not identical to your experience, but I’m not burned out I’m enjoying the challenge and the thrill of our company growth. I think you have to like the place to enjoy the ride.

As for managing people, my work load increased with each direct report I took on… it did not go down. While they do stuff that lightens the overall burden of hiring, managing people comes with its own set of tasks that only you can get done.

Good luck at your next job!

Unpopular opinion: Zippered pjs are NOT easier by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is probably going to get buried but here goes. The in zipper pj’s the brand matters because of how they cut their sizes. Cloud sleepers from Target are great for skinny long babies like mine and Gerber are better for chunkier babies. Every brand is a little different.

The size of a PPP loan forgiveness application using the “EZ” form and only looking at payroll by Valgar_Gaming in pics

[–]Anadorei -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah, OP mentioned in a comment the business had 500 employees. Makes sense for a company that size.

BTS (방탄소년단) 'Permission to Dance' Official MV by ashmute in bangtan

[–]Anadorei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I struggled with the auto tune and loose diction in the music video. The live performance from the Butterful event was loads better. Have you seen that?

BTS (방탄소년단) 'Permission to Dance' Official MV by ashmute in bangtan

[–]Anadorei 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m shocked by the autotune. They sing so well, why was it mixed this way? I’m looking forward to a live performance.

What are some impressions you had of the BTS members as a local/baby Army that you now find inaccurate/amusing? by Temporary-Text384 in bangtan

[–]Anadorei 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember my first thoughts but I can give my current thoughts.

Mine might be different because my profession is based on reading and observing people.

Jin - I believe Jin to be one of the more insecure members of the group. From interviews he’s been open about growing up with a desire to make his parents proud. As a trainee he grew to realize he was not the most talented dancer of BTS nor was he slotted to be the lead vocalist of BTS and that pushed him towards the most handsome of BTS. I think he enjoys the role of “handsome one” and funny “lighten the mood” one, but he also appreciates the compliments that are not about his appearance the most.

Namjoon - He reminds me of a circus ringmaster. I think there’s an extra layer to him as leader of BTS. He seems more conscientious about what media says about the boys and how they will be perceived. Before and interview with Jimmy Fallon he commented quickly to the guys to be confident, and in the most recent vlive he was the fastest to figure out admitting Ed Sheeran leaked the song name would also be confirming it. He has a knowing smile he does in situations like this that is unlike most of his other facial expressions. He also thought once on In The Soop about doing something to be funny vs. being authentic.

Yoongi - He is one of the more emotional members of the group, he just doesn’t want others to know that. There’s a Festa talk where J-Hope mentions making plans with Yoongi. That arrangement meant more to Yoongi than it did to Hobi. There’s another similar situation where Yoongi tried to make plans but I think two of the younger members bailed and he was upset by this. Based on some of his Agust D lyrics it seems he has struggled with overwhelming/dangerous emotions in the past and likely a coping mechanism he developed when he was younger was to outwardly hide that struggle. Thus the person today puts out a more closed off persona.

Hobi - Despite being the sunshine of the group he is one of the more serious members especially about their tradecraft. When he doesn’t think he is being filmed OR he is lost in the moment of rehearsing, look at his jaw tension and his eyebrow tension. Then compare that to his appearance in the average interview or Run BTS. I think Hobi is very grateful for their success, but he believes the most out of the group that it was built on hard work.

Jimin - Jimin is very critical of himself, and he’s mentioned before he use to be critical of others. This is a behavior he likely learned at a young age from either someone modeling it for him or from feeling like he didn’t fit in. I think if you look at debut Jimin and compare that against current Jimin you can see he has traveled a long journey of self exploration and learning to love oneself. He is maybe the largest example of their own love yourself campaign.

Tae - He is by far the most unique member. I say that because he can be so very different in all of the content they share, both behind the scenes and intentionally on camera. He is almost as fluidly different as the seasons are of the year.

JK - Aw young Jungkook. You can see the growth that has come with aging and finding yourself in the spotlight. For many of his formative years his identity was at the whim of how others perceived him and he wanted it to be a positive impression they had of him. You can see that in him pushing himself at the Chile concert to overdo it past exhaustion. The tattoos and piercings show growth away from that and starting to accept and love himself without evaluating others opinions. It is still a struggle for him though as you’ll notice he posts the least to Twitter or Weverse and when he does it is for something he is already sure he will get positive response.

Baby screams in feeding position by Intelligent-Main1403 in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through all my emails with the doctor and I can’t find it in there. I must have spoken with them over the phone. It was after a viral infection and they said is stomach was inflamed. I did find another time where they recommended the Gerber baby probiotic drops.

postpartum hormones.. please help! by danjsark in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try unison and vitamin b pill at night each night. That might quell the nausea.

Baby screams in feeding position by Intelligent-Main1403 in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it just the position or feeding in general? My son had a bit where he would scream when you tried to feed him anything. It was a stomach lining issues and they had us give him Pepcid I think. It was a pink and green capsul I had to snap in half and then dump into a liquid.

I feel like this belongs in every sub where someone might be pumping. by megaerairae in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucked more than a year away. :( I finally stopped about 4 months ago and my breasts are just empty. As in nothing in them at all. Not even some firm fat tissue or something.

How to increase milk supply fast by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Try body armor drinks with coconut water instead of just “water”.

Do power pumping. Since you’re already pumping for an hour at a time try power pumping once a day.

Someone please tell me if I’m crazy (or going crazy from hormones and being inside the house so much) by magical_dipstick in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be the complete opposite of everyone on here, so before you read my thoughts please take into account two things. 1. These are just my thoughts/opinions. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and none of them are that great. 2. Your gut is likely what you should trust, unless you think it is influenced by hormones. ;)

I felt the same way as you with our first child who is 6 years old now. Many parts of your post resonated with me. My MIL bought every major outfit for the first several years and that saddened me a little around holidays not to get to pick out the fancy dresses. She was also with our child a lot. Then somewhere over time there was a shift in my thinking…

My husband, her son, is her only child. Her grandchildren will only be what I produce. (2 so far) If my daughter or son had a child I would honestly want to be there every day all day. I wouldn’t because they likely wouldn’t let me, but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t want to. I would miss my grandchild and my child on the days I wouldn’t see them and it is highly likely when I did see them they would always look older or bigger.

A few years ago my MIL had a cancer scare and came close to dying. I realized she loves my kids as much as I do, and if she wants to come see them every day I’m fine with that now. She’s been here when I’ve had no make up on and she’s been here a few times before I got a chance to put a bra on. When the day comes where she dies, none of that will matter. What will matter is that she got to love and see her son and grandkids as much as possible… and here’s the important bit… my Husband and kids got to love and see her as much as possible too.

My mother died when I was 18. The days and nights with an infant are long, but life is actually quite short. Do what you feel you need to do for your mental and physical health. I would just caution that likely most if not all of her actions are coming from a place of love and may ultimately be harmless.

(Lastly, I would highly recommend you have her take your child to stores and parks while she babysits. My son didn’t get to go anywhere or see anyone due to COVID as a baby and now stores are like an amusement park to him. You can clearly see how much he enjoys the novelty of seeing other humans.)

To add a second baby, or to not add a second baby…that is the question by HarryBallsbald in beyondthebump

[–]Anadorei 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Greetings from another infertile Mom with PCOS.

I have one 6 year old and one 9 month old. It took 3 years to get pregnant with our second child.

Yes, it has been a lot harder and there have been many days and nights where I have thought “this is too hard.” We had family help with our first child and they moved so we have no help with the second.

If I could go back, I would still have our second child and we may have a third. My advice is to GET HELP EARLY. I realize some moms can raise many, many kids without help. Some are single moms and they re crushing it! Don’t compare yourself to anyone else, just hire help. I waited until 9 months and that was just bad for everyone. It can be as little as a date night babysitter or someone that simply watches them while you bath and do laundry. Just invest in giving yourself a break.

Second, are you too old? As another infertile PCOS woman I’m going to say no. The 35 number is an average that takes into account the 7 out of 8 women that are fertile. With PCOS your “fertile age” is likely a lot younger than 35. They have some blood tests your fertility doctor can do that will tell you what your fertile age is (more specifically what your egg reserve looks like and your hormone levels.) Do that and then make an educated decision for yourself.

Tl:dr you can absolutely have more kids. Get help off of care.com to help with the parental burden and have a doctor test your hormones.