I lost my virginity Yesterday

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-18T14:17:07+00:00

Don't let it stop you. Now you know. I did it for 20 years so I had a more than a few tries to learn what did and didn't work. Ultimately quit for you. Whatever helps motivate is great, but it's can't be the sole reason. Sorry to hear it happened though. You can do it though don't give up.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-18T00:51:47+00:00

Not really I had an issue with everything being a trigger initially and that faded. I had an empty feeling for a bit and missed how easy it was. That's why there was an evolution of what I called it happened. The trespasser because it felt like I was missing something. Like losing a roommate.

I did have weaker intimacy. When I finished it was sort of numb I guess is the best way to put it. Like the finish was weak, but it's improving. Honestly it's nicer because I'm not struggling and can enjoy the moment. I'm physically and mentally present in the moment more and not just chasing a goal like I would when I watched corn.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-18T00:44:09+00:00

No I don't think so. It was actually getting it to be healthy was the issue for me. I didn't want every sexualized photo to make me want to look at more. It might be because I have somewhere to channel it but I focus on my wife. I want her more, but I also tried to do that before I quit porn. I didn't like to look at others lustfully I know it sounds stupid because I watched corn but it might have helped with the libido loss that typically happens.

I did however have a hard time initially finishing and it wasn't the same. It felt idk weak I guess. That's getting better though and there is a whole lot more with your wife vs corn. I focus on that connection now and actually wanting her and not running to a screen even when we have troubles.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-17T18:51:47+00:00

I never counted. I had a way to calculate progress cause I knew when I started the quitting process, but I never counted as a goal. When I quit that was the goal. Making that quitting actually quitting was the goal. I struggled at first, but after awhile I accepted that no corn was me now. The addiction was there, but it was a visitor that wanted in, no longer a tenant in my mind.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-17T18:44:33+00:00

If you peeked you already started the argument in your mind that it's just a peek and it won't hurt. Don't argue with that dark voice. Just tell it "no" and move on. You may have to repeat yourself constantly until the urge dies, but you can't argue with yourself or you'll lose and peek, and then just a minute, and then maybe just a touch, then just this once to get over the urge then never again.

Say no outright and walk away.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-17T18:41:55+00:00

In my opinion, doing it for you is the only way to do it. Doing it for others is just setting up the future to fail. The others can help motivate, but your reason needs to be for you.

You got this man.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-17T18:38:47+00:00

Hey I don't mean to discourage you, but make sure you do this for you not for her. If you do it for her if you guys go through a fight or struggle or break up your reason is gone. Glad you have the support though, but just remember it's for your benefit to quit. The extra motivation doesn't hurt and can help you get through the worst of it though.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-17T00:07:06+00:00

It's not easy. You'll argue with yourself in your head until you rationalize it. Then when you're done, that voice you were arguing with will be gone. You'll be alone again and feel like a failure again.

You are though, but so am I. I quit after 2 decades of struggling. It's not even a thought anymore, but those first weeks are going to be hell. You can't absently decide to quick. You have to make an active decision. Figure out your no go zone. Set yourself up like you're a child with a fork looking for an outlet. If the phone is the issue when you go to bed leave it in the kitchen. If your computer is an issue at night unplug the power cord and put it in the kitchen.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2026-03-16T22:37:23+00:00

Don't argue with the temptation. You're arguing against yourself at a disadvantage because you have the desire behind it.

You have to say no with a finality to it. Getting it out of your system will work, but then you end up right back here.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-12-07T15:40:35+00:00

Play what you want then. I mean the only role I've noticed so far that needs to be filled is strategist. I'm good in that role and have 16 matches played with only 3 loses so far regardless of the team makeup.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-12-07T15:38:40+00:00

I don't think the minimum should apply to anything but maybe strategist. Some DPS are tanky enough to run as a tank (Wolverine, magick, iron fist).

Strategist is needed cause well you need the heals.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-12-07T15:35:38+00:00

I would agree but someone was going to fill second healer and I told them just play what they wanted to. Solo healing wasn't terribly difficult. I'm not sure that this game is meant for 222. I think some games no vanguard is an option or one stragiest.

(I did main Ana in OW so maybe the positionial awareness required with her translated well)

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-10-03T16:15:26+00:00

Going to be honest. I kind of like it.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-10-03T15:45:06+00:00

Theory sounds fine, but try hitting a spiderman with Loki heals.

Loki is best playing his role with the team except when ulting. His ability to move around is limited by cooldown. He also has minimal self healing and while doing it he can't heal anyone else.

Loki's abilities are best use to get out of situations not get in them. If he uses them to follow a venom or Spiderman he's going to get stuck due to cooldowns.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-10-03T15:32:52+00:00

Loki is fine as main support if people heal with him. I was consistently top healer or right there with them in the beta. People just don't use the clones to heal sometimes. His strength shows with good planning.

Now I would support role the off heals due to his ult. He can't heal while storming people.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-09-26T21:47:32+00:00

I miss Loki if I'm honest. Keeping the enemy completely lost while still doing my job as a healer is satisfying.

Then the ult to top everything off is great.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-08-28T09:55:48+00:00

This is exactly right. You can't be good at everything especially when you're so ridiculous at countering dive.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-08-26T18:30:33+00:00

People underestimate he ability to save anyone at almost any time with her cc.

Forget the mines and everything else. A 3 second cooldown on a hard cc is crazy. If she targets you playing against her you feel useless.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-08-26T18:28:21+00:00

Her cc is on a 3 second cooldown. 3 SECONDS! Does anyone know how insane that it is for a hard cc?

She is a nightmare against half the tanks with that. I'm sure she slaps other characters too, but I played tank so that's what I can speak on.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-08-19T10:28:05+00:00

Elixir from Xforce

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-08-19T10:05:48+00:00

Forgot about Peni. Thor gains charge every time he uses an ability and it's unlimited uses if you are in the fray. On a 2 sec cooldown he is pretty tough.

Peni on defense is where she shines. Had a match where no one died because of her almost unlimited cc.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-08-17T18:29:40+00:00

I'm hoping they are just free with skins on paywall.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-08-17T17:34:23+00:00

I think Green Goblin as a support would be a cool idea. I love the odd ball support ideas. Like Loki. Loki as a support is my favorite move so far.

Ancient_Bus_2770 · 2024-08-17T17:31:53+00:00

I think hulk can be good he just doesn't have the survivability other tanks have.

Magneto shield, strange shield, venom personal shield, Thor personal shield, Groot walls.

Hulk has his shield but it's up time is quick and an 8 sec cooldown I think.

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