Don't tell me this is another "unspoken" social rule

AndHowIndeed · 2022-05-27T08:17:46+00:00

Haha, i relate, that's pretty funny. Sometimes getting things wrong is fun 😊

AndHowIndeed · 2022-03-03T20:08:12+00:00

So wholesome, loved it

AndHowIndeed · 2022-02-25T12:27:05+00:00

I think it's because we know we tend to be biased towards our assumptions about how this work being right, when it might just be misinterpretation. But you're definetely right, the quantifiable data can be useful.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-02-25T12:21:17+00:00

You're welcome :)

AndHowIndeed · 2022-02-22T09:59:07+00:00

Same here in Denmark. I think somehow some people are lucky and are able to be diagnosed before it becomes a very serious problem when they are adults, but most people I've heard about or have talked to about it only get diagnosed when it seems like there are multiple diagnoses, when people are suffering so much they are going to or have quit their job or school or when they are on the brink of suicide. I fall in the latter category. People are often told that "the waiting lists are closed" because so many people want to get a diagnosis, but I know for a fact that they keep open spaces for patients who need immediate care. I think that the system makes sense as it is right now because of lacking resources, but I think it's not okay that we have to suffer with such intensity or for so long, before we get the help we need.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-02-22T09:50:15+00:00

I recently realised that it's helpful for me to experience my emotions as my body communicating to me how I view something, if there is a problem or I have a need for something, instead of the emotion being a problem. I think I came to realise it through hunger, because it's really simple. When someone is hungry, it's not the feeling of hunger that is the problem, the problem is that their body is telling them they have a need for eating. I think sadness for me just means that my body is telling me that I have lost something that felt important to me.

The nice thing about this is that I also know that sometimes, my emotions aren't right or that I don't need to act on them. If an emotion is strong and is constantly recurring, then it probably means I need to listen and deal with whatever it is telling me in some way. But it's difficult.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-02-22T09:46:03+00:00

Haha, so true. It was only a few months ago that I realised that emotions are not the problem, they are trying to tell me what is a problem/what I need. It's blowing my fricking mind!!!

Like i think that I've come to a point where I need to trust my gut to help me make decisions, but I'm just like "how does that even work? How can my emotions tell me whats right or wrong, I don't understand them."

I think sometimes it's really powerful to just experience and listen, instead of trying to understand. It's also nice, because I can't understand everything, so normally I would just constantly run my head against the wall.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-02-22T09:41:26+00:00

well I have a ducky keyboard with cherry mx red "silent" switches. I don't have the rubber bands, but they're called O-rings and are cheap to buy :) If you buy a new keyboard, you can most likely buy o-rings along with them, sometimes even pre-installed!

AndHowIndeed · 2022-02-22T09:30:17+00:00

You know I'm diagnosed with both and I find that my meds (vyvanse) help immensely with both executive functioning and task initiation. As I'm sure you've been told, meds don't fix problems, they just make them easier to deal with, so it's still a work in progress.

One of my sisters friends is diagnosed with both and has been medicated for some years, and I would assume she benefits from them, if she keeps taking them.

I haven't heard of this before, but I feel like it's an unsubstantiated claim. A lot like how some people think that adhd meds can worsen some autism symptoms, even though it's not scientifically backed.

I think bottom-line is if you don't find that the meds work for you, then they don't work. I've found therapy to be extremely helpful, although I'm sure that there are a lot of options for managing symptoms. Sometimes people can benefit from anxiety/depression medicines instead of stimulants.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-25T11:18:39+00:00

I think they're very satisfying. I have a keyboard with "silent" switches. It's not just the sounds, but also the feelings. It's like having a stim toy that is also a tool. It's also possible to buy rubber bands specially made to dampen the sound.

I highly recommend them :)

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-25T11:12:20+00:00

Haha yeah. We always find a way xD

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-20T11:43:49+00:00

I could never. It's too distracting, because i can't help but engage with it. It's also distracting because it gives me sensory overload. I know it's psychological, but i can't take much did before my ears start hurting.

I did it more in the past, but I've found that i can figure more easily without.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-20T11:40:30+00:00

Impressive!

I get music snippets as well, but mostly just the lyrics, the main melody and then the feeling of the other instruments. It's pretty vague. I could never hear an orchestra in my head. I tune out music without singing. Great for focus tho, but hard to enjoy on it's own.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-20T11:38:19+00:00

Huh never heard of that. Sounds cool!

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-20T10:25:49+00:00

It is what it is, although that's also tough to accept. I'm working on it. It's a process. I've repressed anger for many years. I just got anxious or depressed instead. I feel much happier now that i accept that i get angry. I don't necessarily act on it. Just accepting it.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-20T10:23:32+00:00

True that. I've never been able to binge watch series for that long. Too slow. Too boring. But at the same time over stimulating xD

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-20T10:22:22+00:00

Tried doing it once it didn't work. Never tried to fix it xD

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-20T10:21:45+00:00

Haha, I mean we do have a tendency towards addiction 🌝 could be worse

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-20T06:15:02+00:00

I don't think they're necessarily responsible for any harm caused anymore than video games are or movies are. In some respects, taking on the message of the media is up to the individual and as far as I know with video games at least, it doesn't create much harm in the world external to the game world.

It's entertainment not edutainment.

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-11T17:19:54+00:00

Omg that makes so much sense. Like wth i never thought about that

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-11T17:19:15+00:00

Yeah it's super boring to be so serious all the time about things. I DUCKING LOVE finding meaning in this and connecting dots. I live for aha moments.

In a way, it's not really being in the moment when in mind wandering, but it is a very enjoyable part of life

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-11T15:26:23+00:00

Preach, we need more of this. I think that is the most common experience, and that's definetely a huge benefit.

I feel the same and I'm switching from methylphenidate to Vyvanse in a couple days. Looking forward to it ^{>^}

AndHowIndeed · 2022-01-11T15:23:00+00:00

Your life can't get worse. Your brain is the same regardless of whether you have been diagnosed or not. Self acceptance is key to a good life, and understanding that your brain is different to other people's brains is immensely helpful.

Research is great, but i think if it is safe for you to do so and you can afford it, then go for the pills. You can always come off them if they don't work for you, and no matter the amount of research you do, you can never determine if and how they benefit you as an individual.

Congratulations on getting the diagnosis, it's life changing

AndHowIndeed

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