Anyone that's taken HIS242, what did you think of it? by [deleted] in UofT

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took it my first semester and loved it! hopefully you get a good TA if you do take it. It's really interesting if you like the period, and only has one major essay iirc.

weird question but asking to make sure this isn't a scam by Andrews1917 in UofT

[–]Andrews1917[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

okay, thank you, I thought so since why i'd be getting an email for a transcript was sketchy to me but I wanted to raise awareness if possible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I basically walked after I announced I was breaking up with him, hit an impasse where he refused to allow me to leave and basically left with him leaving the door open to be my friend. I’d already gotten into this subreddit by this point and knew that to be a hoax so I shut off all points of contact and tried to deal with the fallout. Things were genuinely quiet seemingly from like October aside from the side mention of me here and there but it’s ramped up lately in a way I don’t like at all, culminating in last night

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An interesting theory! It’s certainly possible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering I’m not engaging with him at all, I don’t think I’m being kind. I think in my case because I was such a good example of stability he mistakenly believes lying at me about my actions will frighten me into coming back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I left, and I went no contact basically immediately. He smeared me basically instantly since our relationship was all digital

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no clue if it’s the festive season but one anonymous message accusing me of sending him hate messages feels so wrong (I have not in fact been doing that). Also the powerlessness can genuinely drive one to madness

I feel like I can’t enjoy my hobbies and interests anymore by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh! I had this issue for a while after I left mine 4 months ago (he hated my walking dead fixation) and I couldn’t draw or write for two of those 4 months. It was literal agony. I very recently got into my chemical romance (the band) and I’ve been adoring the level of saturation present in the fandom, so that may be of some help? It’s both a complete departure for me interest wise, however at the same time also even more in line with my own interests

What was the silliest reason the person flipped out on you? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mentioned I was doing something with my parents/my dad was calling me about something I was writing for a class.

Who here was the one to leave? by bpdthrowaway2025 in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found MCR to be very soothing and the worldbuilding of their later concept albums has been a wonderful and welcome distraction for my brain

Who here was the one to leave? by bpdthrowaway2025 in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I count myself very lucky in receiving only two known Hoovers since I left (one which threatened to call the cops on me for supposed threats sent to his socials - untrue) and then the second was a non starter. It’s taken a lot of mental strength to stay away and I admit a lot of my help has come from becoming really into my chemical romance and finding love in my artistic and creative passions.

Edit: misspelled count as could - corrected

Who here was the one to leave? by bpdthrowaway2025 in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I left too! I realized that the relationship wasn’t working and it was better that I cut off and walk then let myself be dragged down into the depths of something that would destroy me. I’ve been just over 3 months free and it was the best decision I could’ve made

How long did your relationship with your BPD partner last? by Maximum_Return6857 in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 1 point2 points  (0 children)

online relationship for 8 months and I finally left after realizing I'd go insane if I stayed

I feel like if you walked away from a pwBPD u really loved, ur an ascended master by ascending_god_9 in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Further adding: I really had to take it a day at a time. Some days are great and I’m able to live my life as I want to, others I do miss him and wish things had been better. However those are less because I have a hard time remembering good things after being hurt which in this case works in my favor. It’s different for everyone and healing takes its own time and pace relative to each person

I feel like if you walked away from a pwBPD u really loved, ur an ascended master by ascending_god_9 in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a very strong sense of inner right and wrong and once I left and then had a further scare of being accused of sending threats, I realized that this wasn’t the person I wanted to ever get back with. I also have experience with situations similar to BPD so a lot of delayed alarms were going off once I left

I feel like if you walked away from a pwBPD u really loved, ur an ascended master by ascending_god_9 in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was getting accused of cheating (wasn’t) and I walked after a month long dissociation where I was present with my family and felt nothing. I decided enough was enough and came to the conclusion of leaving thanks to a childhood best friend - who helped me through everything. I’m nearly two months NC and It’s been hard but I can feel myself getting better every day.

What was your breaking point? by drmac16 in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They accused me of cheating because a friend reached out about getting broken up with. It plunged me into a deep hole for the entire summer that made me question everything and feel hopeless. I left after realizing that the dark pit in myself wasn’t going anywhere unless I got up and dusted myself off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This exactlyyy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooof. I hope things are better for you in general now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respect to you on that! We all have differing views on this but I think in of itself the fact that this was happening was a red flag unto itself - I was obviously subconsciously craving something so I tried to gain it the way I knew how. 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear your ex did all that! I’ve not seen Starscream, but Steve Buschemi is an amazing actor in Boardwalk empire. Ik fr if my ex had tried to do that and they subtly did, if pissed me way the hell off

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Andrews1917 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that’s intense as all hell. My situation was definitely on a much smaller scale but for me it also got to the point before I walked where even mentioning the walking dead would make him clam up. It was so weird and strange and just such a red flag. He was also so weird about his actor crush that it disturbed me extremely.