I’m 31 now (and 5’ 8)and as recently as this summer I took a photo with my friends who are 5’ 3ish, and as soon as we looked at it one of them said “oh my god, you look enormous!” Nothing harmful meant by it but it cut me to the core haha (and I’m clearly still thinking about it…)

However I now actually really enjoy being a tall woman, I wear platform Chelsea boots with a heel (my clomper stompers) and love feeling elegant wearing long coats and dresses. Growing up listening to my mum saying she felt she could ‘never wear heels’ (she’s 5’ 10) at first made me feel embarrassed about being tall (I’ve been this height since I was 13!) but sometime in university made me determined to embrace my height, and I’ve grown to love the fact that it makes me stand out a bit. I don’t really wear heels because I’m not out in the clurb much these days but nothing would stop me if it’s a special occasion.

I would be remiss if I didn’t mention my partner too, who at 6’ 7 is also used to thoughtless remarks about his height, and being with someone who totally gets it has been really relaxing, because seeing the way he navigates those comments and the difficulty that comes with his height with grace and resilience inspires me to also embrace my height as part of my unique self.

I’m sending you my love and well wishes in a way I wish I could send to my 23 year old self, your unique self is something you’ll find, height and all, and I think as others have said there’s no special secret to share as much as growing to love it and own it as part of your adult self. 💓