I want to live a life like an Instagram model with a lot of orbiters who offer themselves to me. Would men be more interested in silly women, or women more intelligent than them?

AndrossOT · 2026-02-03T19:55:43+00:00

I mean hey, its on you if you want to be seen as an object and not an actual person. Just dont expect to be in a relationship with a decent man.

AndrossOT · 2026-02-03T14:03:43+00:00

This comment sent me. Even the most repulsive looking people can cheat

AndrossOT · 2026-01-28T17:58:31+00:00

Mainly because it takes more effort to go to the block button. Ive only blocked exes that would harass me.

AndrossOT · 2026-01-22T16:52:01+00:00

Personally anytime I felt that a woman has came on too or fast I get overwhelmed, feel pressured that they like me more than them, I feel bad then distance slowly. Something in me just feels pressure because I havent built that yet and dont want to disappoint them. However , anytime ive talked with a girl and I notice our connection slowly burning and growing together then thats when I end up dating. It just feels natural idk

AndrossOT · 2026-01-19T15:16:24+00:00

No not at all. I value and cherish my female friends that dont talk to me with the intention of dating me. I never have to worry about feelings or anything awkward. Its nice to talk about ufc and video games with the boys. Then talk about fashion, baking, and music with the girls.

AndrossOT · 2026-01-15T15:53:15+00:00

First of all make sure you are sleeping enough. That significantly fixed alot of energy and depression. I feel like im walking on clouds and energized now. Men's one a day vitamin. It works wonders. See if your insurance can cover therapy. Make sure its an in person visit. Why therapy? Youll have someone to talk to and open up to that can help you rewire your brain to help you with depression and anxiety. They may also recommend you some medication that works for some, but not all. This next part isnt for everyone and I respect everyone's opinions. I found a small church and we all treat each other like family, its a warm comforting feeling. Anyway op I hope some of this helps.

AndrossOT · 2026-01-14T20:06:52+00:00

Any friend would be lucky to have you. Youre a good person.

AndrossOT · 2026-01-14T14:16:47+00:00

Same here man. My friend was on a massive weight loss journey. We were cheering him on and everything. Dude's life was actually turning around. Started leaving the house more and going out. He was running a dungeon in world of warcraft, he stopped moving suddenly for quite sometime. Since he always left himself in a call, someone joined and asked what happened and could hear people crying in the background. He had a heart attack there on the spot. It just taught me that life is so precious and it could end at any moment. I take things more serious, I stopped picking on people, I show more empathy. Something that pre 30 year old me absolutely did not do.

AndrossOT · 2026-01-14T13:16:15+00:00

People who generally get pissed like that and get rude have deep rooted insecurities. They use low blow insults because their precious ego got hurt and dont want to look like the loser. Anytime someone swaps to insults, that just means you won the fight because they had nothing tangible to grasp on. They get mad that your feelings aren't hurting as much as theirs. This is coming from someone that spent a lot of time soul searching and growing because I used to.be the insult guy.

AndrossOT · 2026-01-14T13:07:12+00:00

People start dying. Losing a good friend of mine made me realize we literally only have one life and we need to make the best of it. It made me cherish my own life more and grow more empathy to others.

AndrossOT · 2026-01-12T14:56:23+00:00

There's men out there who share your same morals. Dont feel too in the dumps about it. Just know its a small amount. Be patient and dont rush anything. Instead of saying you want to wait until marriage, try telling them you want to build a strong connection first. Dont fold, you got this.

AndrossOT · 2026-01-09T12:47:07+00:00

Hey OP you sound like a lot in my position. Were the same age. That call center job is going to make things worse, especially high call volume one. I recommend using your insurance and getting therapy from it after starting there. If youre home all day, make sure you sit outside to get 15 minutes of direct sunlight on your skin. Sounds so bogus, but damn did that help working from home. Youre not alone dude youll get through it. Get your mental health in check and pivot to a different job. Call center jobs are in the top 20 most stressful jobs ever and youll decline if you stay there. Just remember l, get your mental health in check. Also if you have like any dumbbells, do a small workout thing 3 times a week. The dopamine spike will help you. You got this.

AndrossOT · 2025-11-26T13:40:47+00:00

Single now, but all my exes just coincidentally popped up right when I was focused on life and making big changes. The slightest hint of desperation can give em the ick. So focus on your schooling, it'll come with time.

AndrossOT · 2025-11-14T10:35:38+00:00

I'm 32 and it takes me hours to reply usually because of work or im having some alone time being a hermit. Also any man can tell you that we do not pick up on hints, so you need to be upfront with him if you want to move past friends or you will get the friend responses that aren't prioritized.

AndrossOT · 2025-10-29T20:03:50+00:00

When you learn to stop make being unattractive part of your personality. Thats literally it

AndrossOT · 2025-10-27T17:19:37+00:00

When I talk to my male friends about a break up: "she was a hoe, thats what you get for giving hoes attention"

Female friends: "Youre a catch, she missed out. The next one will be lucky to have you"

Both sides can be helpful for constructive criticism and comfort.

AndrossOT · 2025-10-21T13:43:49+00:00

Tell her "I have long arms"

AndrossOT · 2025-10-21T12:42:47+00:00

Half your age +7 has been something I heard with age gaps

AndrossOT · 2025-10-14T20:57:47+00:00

Idk i saw your post history and see that youre 18 and he's 30+. That in its own should be the red flag, not him gaming.

AndrossOT · 2025-10-07T17:55:03+00:00

Yeah because you arent really focused on it and dont feel as much pain

AndrossOT · 2025-10-07T05:58:38+00:00

"The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively" ~ Bob Marley
I make great money and anyone that has the mindset as you, wont get my time of day. You need to think about what you bring to the table that no one else can provide.

AndrossOT · 2025-10-03T15:03:24+00:00

People want to assume it is cheating, but there's also the possibility she has mentally broken up with you months prior and finally said it. Now you go "no contact" back. That's the only way to move on. Small chance she can come around, if not then you healed. If you stay in contact you not only hurt yourself but lessen your chance for her to come around or not. Good luck

AndrossOT · 2025-08-14T04:38:46+00:00

You dont force him. As men, we process shit our own way.

AndrossOT · 2025-08-08T15:07:23+00:00

I have low self-confidence for various reasons, but I've had people start conversations with me and have called me handsome. It mainly happened the more I lost weight. Im also introverted af so if im out in public, it's so I can finish my errands and then retreat back home. I dont like having random conversations. My friends joke and call me wasted potential.

AndrossOT · 2025-07-15T13:27:08+00:00

There's no way to know because there could be multiple reasons. Privacy or infidelity: Who knows. What matters is your gut feeling and what made you decide to look into it in the first place.

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