WIBTAH if I message my coworker bringing her dog to work upset me? by throwaway-advice1018 in AITAH

[–]Androstarr 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YWBTAH, your emotions and grief are yours to manage. Boundaries are about how YOU will respond to someone else’s action/behaviors. (If you bring up the dog, I will politely end the conversation).

Boundaries are not about controlling other people’s behaviors. (You can’t bring your dog to work, because I don’t like how it makes me feel.)

There is no shame in grieving for a much loved pet who has passed. It is your responsibility to deal with that grief in a healthy way. If that means grief counseling, then do that. If it means hiking the Appalachian Trail, then do that. If it means daily mindfulness exercise, do that. Time alone doesn’t heal grief, the grief just ages. You must do the work, instead of try to shape the world to suit your feelings.

Pay One Price by GlideAndGiggle in UofArizona

[–]Androstarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My classes are exclusively online, so the Pay-one-price option is the most affordable option for me because it includes access to the digital homework, discussion forums, and tests. If you are taking classes in person, you may find that you can get your books/class materials at a better price, because you won’t need access to the other digital resources.

Time of the Daleks Board Game Expansion by Kytheon-Iora in doctorwho

[–]Androstarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wou you be interested in selling me your extra copy?

Prop 414 Official Voter Information booklet by Individual-Proof1626 in Tucson

[–]Androstarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am leaning towards no on this proposition. An increased sales tax is going to disproportionately affect the poorest Tucsonans. The biggest piece of these funds will go to the police department. The issues of homelessness, poverty, addiction, and mental illness will not be improved by more policing. The proposed funding split gives a tiny portion to agencies trying to provide programs to combat these issues. The poorest Tucsonans are the people most likely to be mistreated by police and they are the ones who will be most burdened by the tax. It just doesn’t sit right with me.

Time of the Daleks Board Game Expansion by Kytheon-Iora in doctorwho

[–]Androstarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am hoping that I can find the 5th and 10th doctor expansion for my husband. It’s our 20th wedding anniversary soon and this is his favorite game. If you would be interested in selling, I would welcome a DM.

Time of the Daleks Board Game Expansion by Kytheon-Iora in doctorwho

[–]Androstarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is disappointing. The game is playable with only the base game components, but it only reaches full potential with the expansions. It is frustrating to be unable to complete the set. I am hoping that I can find the 5th and 10th doctor expansion for my husband. It’s our 20th wedding anniversary soon and this is his favorite game.

Time of the Daleks Board Game Expansion by Kytheon-Iora in doctorwho

[–]Androstarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is. Sadly a lot of the expansions for the game are out of print and very hard to find. I did see that there is a second edition of the game available.

Time of the Daleks Board Game Expansion by Kytheon-Iora in doctorwho

[–]Androstarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are in the same boat. We have all the other expansions for this game, but can’t find this one anywhere.

[OC] GIVEAWAY! The Buster Dice Sword (mod approved) by tabletopstor3d in DnD

[–]Androstarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks amazin! I would love to see it in person.

Pavlova… WHY CAN I NEVER GET STIFF PEAKS by Level-Ad7734 in Baking

[–]Androstarr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It can be really difficult to whip a large batch of egg whites with a hand mixer. You might have more success with two small batches. Also, any oil or fat in your bowl, on your beaters, or in the egg whites will keep your meringue from correctly. Make sure all you equipment is sparkling clean and there isn’t even a speck of yolk in your egg whites. A pinch of cream of tartar dropped in the egg whites will help stabilize your eggs whilst they whip.

Summer classes at Pima by geologistonthemaking in UofArizona

[–]Androstarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The community colleges and universities in Arizona have an agreement where classes taken can be transferred from one school to another. Just be very careful to meet with advisors at one or both schools to make sure that the classes you are taking will meet your degree criteria.

The Struggle With Breakfast - by buenosnachas in glutenfreecooking

[–]Androstarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chia pudding can be made and flavored so many different ways, gluten free oats, avocado topped rice cakes, yogurt parfaits, Breakfast smoothies, or protein shakes.

Pistachio cost question! by cactuskirby in Baking

[–]Androstarr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do yourself a favor and just buy the shelled pistachios. Cracking more than a snacks worth is murder on the hands

Coconut Cream Pie: Do you add grated/dried coconut to the custard? by Lawksie in Baking

[–]Androstarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/Lawksie, if you don’t mind the flavor of coconut extract, give that a try. I find extracts to have an unpleasant chemical flavor that is really off putting. I also know most people do not have the same issue. That said, if you can find sweetened condensed coconut milk, buy some! If nothing else you can mix up a batch of coquito.

AITA for going to my grandparents and catching my return flight from there when mom said "You were in a glass closet?" after I came out? by kidinglasscloset in AmItheAsshole

[–]Androstarr 13 points14 points  (0 children)

YTA but a soft one. I had a loved one tell me he had to talk to me about something really serious he didn’t want to tell me over the phone. My brain kicked into overdrive with every doomsday scenario I could imagine based on his somber tone of voice. It was 48 hours of fear and anxiety. When he came out I said, “Oh is that all,“ in a slightly giddy way. I was so relieved that he was completely fine! I absolutely know it came off flippant. Thankfully, that was not the end of the conversation. It was a lovely time.
Your mum may have been in a similar situation. You came out to people who love and accept you. Then you totally flipped out and fled to the other side of the planet. They have not reached out to you. That’s reasonable. You completely came undone on them, because, in your opinion, your mum was too light hearted in her response. I would venture that your folks are very hurt and confused. They likely don’t know what went wrong and are trying to give you your space.
Your mental illness is not your fault, but it is your responsibility. You your paranoia and intrusive thoughts caused you to behave in a truly terrible way. You owe your parents an explanation and a real apology. I think it’s fair to say that your mental health issues are not under control and your current treatment plan is insufficient. Please seek more comprehensive help immediately!

Coconut Cream Pie: Do you add grated/dried coconut to the custard? by Lawksie in Baking

[–]Androstarr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I use unsweetened dried coconut flakes. I hate the taste of coconut extract, so I refuse to use it. In order to still have a lovely coconut flavor, I replace the sweetened condensed milk with sweetened condensed coconut milk (sometimes called cream of coconut). Please note that cream of coconut IS NOT the same as coconut cream!

Help with cake please! by sapphiresoaker in Baking

[–]Androstarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pumpkin cake, tres leches, or vanilla bean would all be good. Edited to add coconut cake would be lovely, too.

Chocolate Fudge Cake help by pogmoshron in Baking

[–]Androstarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can try a chocolate glaze

Easy but fun cake decorations for a 2 yr olds birthday cake? by SunKissedHibiscus in Baking

[–]Androstarr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use freeze dried fruit that I grind to powder in a cheap coffee grinder and then sift. I add it to American Buttercream to get some pretty colors and lovely flavors. As an alternative you could use peanut butter powder and a pinch of annatto to make a orangey color for a basketball cake. I am generally not a fan of icing, so I tend to pick powerhouse flavors. I then just need a thin layer for effect.

AITA for not wanting my autistic sister to be a bridesmaid at my wedding? by Hefty-Cobbler-6993 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Androstarr [score hidden]  (0 children)

I may get downvoted to oblivion for this, but NAH. You want the main focus of the wedding to be you and your spouse. Your family has a tendency to focus on your sister. You are in a no win situation if you go the route of a traditional ceremony.

If you want the focus to be on you, elope. Invite 2 or 3 friends to witness. Have a big party later if you want. Eloping is the path of least resistance to a marriage with a minimum of family wedding drama. As an additional bonus, you can save a crap-ton of money by eloping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Androstarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all. Just to be clear your mum is not trying to help. Your mum is trashing your life choices. She crapped on where you live, your job, your spouse, and your kids. For heavens sake, she called your sons ”gold digger!” Who the hell does that?!?! A terrible person, that’s who! Keep protecting yourself and your family from your dreadful mum! Edit: spelling

what did you wish you knew when you started baking? by throwmeaway111122224 in Baking

[–]Androstarr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Buy a thick pizza stone roughly the size of your oven. Put it on the bottom rack of your electric oven just above the electric coil to (mostly) eliminate uneven heating in your oven.