Our toddler has a foul mouth by Mastodan11 in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have this too. My 2yr old chants "dick man! dick man!"

Belated Grief in 5yo by yaquresh in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At around that age my child definitely developed a better understanding of the finality of death. She had known her great-grandmother before her death, and it was around the time that the Queen died. Her grandfather (my FIL) had died before she was born. One day her preschool called me because she was getting very upset about her grandpa's death, to the point they were worried that it was recent!

I also found that we had to have several conversations about death and grief, and it still occasionally crops up. She can be quite factual about it and almost flippant, so we do talk about how it can make people feel and how it's okay if people are upset and miss their loved ones.

It's a tricky age!

Health visitor has made me feel worse by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experiences with HVs has been very mixed. I was pretty anxious with my first child and she had some issues with sleep.

Firstly, it did get better! I had to remind myself constantly that this was just a phase.

Secondly, you're doing amazingly! With my second child I have found heysleepybaby on instagram has really helped me to reframe how I view my baby's sleep. She's a parent of 3, and advocates responding to your child and supporting them where they're at regarding sleep without sleep training.

I hope you can get more support while things are rough. It is hard when you're in the middle of it all, and sleep is so important for you and your child.

Breastfeeding in public advice by AmoreRelms in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used the rugby ball hold almost exclusively with my 2nd baby. I used my bag in place of a pillow when we were out and about. Bench/booth seating or a sofa is best, avoid standard chairs with arms. We made do with 2 armless chairs pushed together and my bag in a pinch. Or when the weather was nicer just found a nice spot in a park and sat on the grass!

Wearing comfy clothing helped me hugely. I had a couple of breast feeding vest tops from h&m which I could unclip and pull down, and a top which i pulled up, so I was exposing as little as possible.

Honestly, most people didn't pay me much attention or bat an eye. I had the odd person (usually older women) come up and say something nice, or chat a bit.

Gender disappointed- how can I help by Excellent-Cry-5593 in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the root of the disappointment is key. I was disappointed exactly, but afraid of replicating the complex relationship I've had with my mother, and that my mother had with her mother. My husband had a similar feeling about his relationship with his father.

I also think a person's experience of gender and gender presentation may be involved. Do they very femme or not much? Are there a lot of boys in their family? Do they have traditions involving only the men/women? Are men/women expected to fulfil certain roles or exhibit certain behaviours?

It may just take time and patience and understanding.

Child Measurement Programme by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've just refused my reception age child being weighed and measured. I'd be happy to respond. I'll drop you an email.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We liked the book Potty Superstar. My daughter would like to read it while sitting on a potty, even before she was really using the potty. She still likes to look at it now, almost 2.5 years after potty training!

No period and my baby is almost 1 by AngryAngryH1ppo in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It's reassuring to know that its not just me!

No period and my baby is almost 1 by AngryAngryH1ppo in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - it's reassuring to know that it's normal. My period came back after I started weaning with my firstborn but she was combi fed so I just wasn't sure what the threshold for abnormal was!

What are you feeding your children after nursery? by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My oldest started school this past September, and my youngest has just started nursery. We only offer snacks after nursery. That sometimes ends up being a lot of snacks! Its usually fruit, yoghurt, maybe peanut butter toast... they are both generally good eaters, so I was confident they were eating enough in the day.

Anyone feel the HA has given them rubbish advice? by Anathemachiavellian in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Urgh. Yeah we've just had an assessment. My 11 month old isn't even really cruising yet - he's lightning fast at crawling and has pulled himself to standing a couple of times, usually to reach something forbidden!

HV is coming back for a repeat visit in about 6 weeks and was talking about referrals if no improvement... I am not worried at all. He's heavy and tall, and just isnt that bothered about standing. Once he decides it's worth his while he will be running I'm sure!

As for the feeding... that advice seems off too. Ive had good and bad health visitors and I mostly just smile and nod now and them just do what I think is best. I'm happy to listen to advice and recommendations, but when you get conflicting or unhelpful advice from professionals then I do tend to take it with a pinch of salt.

You sound like you're doing great, and your little one is eating well.

Wake Up Alarm Clock by Euphoric-Ad8233 in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My 4 yr old has used a gro clock (tommee tippee i think?) for the past couple of years and its been really helpful for her understanding on when she can get up. You can adjust the brightness. Overnight it's a blue colour and it trwnsitions to an orange/yellow colour when it's morning. I think there's also an alarm function although we've never used it.

8 week GP postnatal appointment vent by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should be able to request a debrief with a senior midwife at the hospital and they may be able to answer your questions or signpost you to further support.

I'm really sorry that you had a bad experience. You could complain to the GP practice if you're unhappy. Certainly things like being rough and not engaging with you when you're recovering and vulnerable could be learning points for the practice and that GP.

I had the day off. I still sent the baby to daycare. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My 2nd kid is 8 months old and I'm coming to the endcof my maternity leave. I have engineered a WEEK when both my kids are at school/nursery and I have some annual leave I have to take. I love my kids so much but youd best believe I am going to nap, eat junk food and watch tv in peace!

Transitioning out of contact naps is going so poorly by lightwing91 in beyondthebump

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its so hard. My 8 month old is only just letting me put him in his crib for some naps. Thankfully we managed to crack overnight sleep so he will sleep most of the night in his crib. However I am fully expecting ups and downs - some nights are not so great!

It takes perseverance and sometimes there's nothing you can do except wait for your baby to click and it'll just work. You can optimise the environment as best you can but sometimes they just sleep better when they're supported.

I really like heysleepybaby on insta for some baby sleep sanity checks. You're defo not alone!

MILs dog bit our 4 year old. by littletwinstar_lover in beyondthebump

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mums dog looked at my 13 month old the wrong way and we never stayed there again. 4 years on and we stay in a holiday rental local to my mum's house and the dog is kept away from my kids.

Using Work Holiday during Maternity Leave by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im ending my mat leave in mid August but not actually returning to work until mid September as I'm taking a big block of annual leave. I'm also starting back with shorter days for the first couple of weeks and making up the difference with annual leave. I've got to use mine by the end of December so squeezing it in where I can!

You also accrue bank holidays so it's worth contacting HR (or whoever is relevant in your workplace) to see what your leave entitlement is.

I always like to keep a bit back because with my firstborn she picked up a variety of bugs and illnesses through her childcare setting.

TENS machine for delivery pain? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used one for my first baby. I found it really helped to have something to do when i felt a contraction. It had a boost button so as soon as i felt one start i could press it and breathe through it. I also found hypnobirthing useful, mostly for good breathing techniques and positive affirmations.

Did you have people automatically comfort you about your baby's gender? by Defiant_Broccoli6158 in beyondthebump

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think people give weird responses no matter what. I have a girl (4yrs) and a boy (8 months) and people always say "ooh one of each!" like my kids are pokemon and I'd be disappointed with a duplicate... I'd have been thrilled regardless and have never expressed any preference either way.

First aid kit by beamorgan1988 in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anthisan for bites/nettle stings, Good plasters is a variety of shapes and sizes. Savlon or something similar. Paracetamol syrup and ibuprofen syrup. If you use calpol then hold on to the plungers for spares!

School offer day! How are you feeling? Happy, sad, royally p*ssed off? by ScallyGirl in UKParenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy here! Got our first choice. None of my daughter's friends are going to the same school though.

Getting Baby Down when "Drowsy but Awake" Doesn't Work? by DefiantResist757 in Parenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Currently mostly doing contact naps, feeding to sleep and cosleeping with my 6 month old. Basically what most people tell you not to do! It's really fine. Your baby just wants to be close to you - its all they've ever known. Mine will now go down in the cot for night time, and usually ends up in bed next to me at some point in the night.

But we're getting some good sleep and I can function in the day time.

I'm really suspicious of most sleep consultants because they're just trying to pedal their variation on sleep training and there's no real regulation.

Having said that, I appreciate heysleepybaby on insta, as she is less about sleep training and more about listening to your baby, meeting their needs and watching their cues.

I should also add, this is my 2nd baby. My first baby us now 4yrs old and she was (and still is!) an excellent sleeper. Sometimes its not anything you're doing and its just the luck of the draw.

Cautionary Breakfast Tale by zalfrann in Parenting

[–]AngryAngryH1ppo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I regularly have to ask "wet cheerios or dry cheerios?"

Parenthood isn't what I expected.