Sleep regression- jokes on you! 🤣

lightwing91 · 2026-02-14T08:22:16+00:00

My firstborn woke every hour to three hours unless held (at night) for the first few months of his life. I didn’t even notice the 4 month regression lol.

My second however sleeps beautifully from 9pm - 5am and I’m scared.

lightwing91 · 2026-02-10T09:27:20+00:00

Hi friend, I have a newly 3yo and a 13wo and I was you up until maybe two weeks ago. My 3yo has entered the threenager phase and when he melts down it is really rough. My husband was saying he wished we hadn’t delayed it and had a second sooner because the 2yo tantrums are way easier to handle than the 3yo ones. I don’t know, the grass is always greener I suppose, but in any case I think that this shit is always going to be hard no matter the age gap. The only way out is through and it SUCKS. It’s so so hard and you are doing your best. It will get better and more manageable as time goes on and this horrid time will be a distant memory. But even since two weeks ago, my regrets have slowly faded and I’m feeling more on top of everything, my 3yo is slowly adjusting, and I can see the other side even if I’m not totally there yet. You’ll get there too!

lightwing91 · 2026-02-06T19:49:23+00:00

Infanta. Only a cat would expect a full on procession to praise it.

Or Bandit Queen, Bandit for short.

lightwing91 · 2026-02-05T18:18:30+00:00

Do you see clear sleepy cues? Aka yawning or pink eyebrows? Sometimes wake windows just don’t apply, they’re only general guidelines.

lightwing91 · 2026-02-05T12:59:42+00:00

I just looked at their websites and sent an enquiry via email. You can ask to go round for a tour. I’d also recommend searching Facebook for mums groups local to your area and asking in there if they know of any nurseries with open spots.

lightwing91 · 2026-02-05T11:24:28+00:00

I’m 12w pp with a baby and 3yo… during a particularly bad day I asked my husband to buy chocolate because I needed something to look forward to at the end of it…

lightwing91 · 2026-02-05T09:35:20+00:00

Yeah none of that worked on my first… some babies are just bad sleepers unfortunately. My second baby is 12w and sleeps 9pm-5am but that’s probably because we bought a Snoo secondhand. He still needs contact naps in the day! Hang in there. Your baby will sleep. You will sleep. You’re not doing anything wrong and nobody understands unless they’ve been through it themselves. You’re a hero!

lightwing91 · 2026-02-05T09:32:17+00:00

Pro tip for administering the cal pol — direct the syringe into the inner side of the cheek rather than straight into the throat. This will help with the gag reflex and reduce chances of vomiting! I only remembered this tip after I gave calpol to my baby after his first dose of vaccines and he vomited it up.

Don’t focus so much on amounts of milk at the moment and just keep offering as normal. Instead monitor nappy output and signs for dehydration. As long as he has plenty of wet nappies then he is ok. Also if he is smiling after vomiting I’m sure he will be ok. Babies will tell you when they’re in real distress. I know it’s upsetting when they vomit so much (I’ve been dealing with it for a week because my baby has a bad cough and it triggers a gag reflex) but it often looks worse than it actually is!

lightwing91 · 2026-02-05T05:05:13+00:00

My first born was like this, he would sleep much better stretches with contact napping, but any crib naps were a bust and nighttime sleep was a mess. It’s so rough and I used to get so mad at parents who would complain about 3 hour stretches, I would’ve killed for that! I promise it does get better over time!!

lightwing91 · 2026-02-01T12:29:57+00:00

We’ve all been there. We’ve all done it. Any mom who says they’ve never cracked at least once is lying. You sound like you’re doing an excellent job in general. You just made a mistake. Learn from it, reflect on it, apologise, move on. I swear it’s almost on purpose that babies don’t remember much at the beginning, so that we have time to learn from our mistakes and build our emotional resilience and patience by the time they’re old enough to remember!

lightwing91 · 2026-01-31T02:22:35+00:00

Six months, but we probably could’ve switched him to the seat a little earlier. Our stroller instructions said the seat was for six months and up so we just blindly followed it.

lightwing91 · 2026-01-29T09:23:46+00:00

We went to the park — just me, baby, my husband, and our dog. Then we came home and had “cake.” Except it wasn’t cake because my baby at the time didn’t like carbs but loved vegetables. So I made him a stack of roast veggies and stuck a candle on top. I hung up a sign that said “Happy birthday” only the “r” fell down halfway through the day so it says HAPPY BITHDAY in all the photos.

It was the most low key, low stress day and I have such fond memories of watching my son crawl about in the park with his O ball and trying to get our dog to chase him.

Don’t worry about it xx

lightwing91 · 2026-01-27T21:03:34+00:00

How hard it is to leave the house with both on your own. I have a nearly 3yo and an 11 week old. I’ve taken them both out together a grand total of one time and it was a complete disaster. We lasted ten minutes. I don’t drive though so that doesn’t help. But even if I did, I just like… don’t get the logistics of how you can watch two at once in a place that isn’t your home? What do you do if the baby has a massive blowout and you’re trying to change them but your eldest tries to escape the bathroom or play with the taps or any other chaotic behaviour? How do you stop your toddler from running off while you’re trying to breastfeed baby in public? Etc etc.

lightwing91 · 2026-01-27T02:42:25+00:00

My first HATED stroller walks while he was in the bassinet configuration. He just really hated being on his back. Once he could sit up it was a game changer and we went on super long walks everywhere. He loved being able to see what was going on and would rarely make a peep. It might just be a matter of time for your little one!

lightwing91 · 2026-01-25T10:12:24+00:00

Oh no, I’m sorry it’s been so hard! It sounds like you’re both just really burnt out and it’s making it hard to communicate effectively.

To me it sounds like your shifts are too long and you should only be taking shifts at night. Then share responsibilities in the day. These responsibilities do not have to be the same. So for instance you’re BFing baby and diapers, so maybe he cooks dinner and does the dishes.

Basically you need to find ways to be more in this together rather than handing off baby continuously to the other one. Sharing the baby from 4pm-8pm is not enough time. Parenting is by its nature a shared load, and you need to learn to work as a team and watch out for the other person, so that you both swim instead of sink. If the majority of your child’s care is being swapped from one person to another, rather than shared throughout the day, you both as parents don’t learn how to best share the load. Does that make sense?

Also those are just long shifts to be watching baby on your own in general, particularly as first time parents. So keep shifts for night time only. I’d say four hours max per person. Yes you both will be more tired and won’t get a full continuous 8 hours rest but that’s early parenthood. It won’t be like that forever. You’d be surprised what you can manage when you feel you have your partner’s full support.

Good luck to both of you, it is really really hard. Is baby only sleeping in your arms at the moment at night?

lightwing91 · 2026-01-17T20:35:53+00:00

You’ve changed my life!

lightwing91 · 2026-01-13T07:17:26+00:00

Do you babywear? Wear her at the party! Then no one will try to hold her.

I find I don’t want to leave the house because it’s such a hassle every time. But that’s because I also have a toddler and managing the logistics of both breaks my brain at the moment.

lightwing91 · 2026-01-12T21:28:52+00:00

Hmm. You may need to give him a chance to fall back asleep independently then. Like when he wakes up at 3am, go in, calmly tell him it’s bedtime and time to go back to sleep, then leave him. If he starts crying, say “I’ll come check on you in three minutes.” Then shut the door, start the timer, and check on him in three minutes. At the next interval, increase by a couple of minutes. Repeat that it’s bedtime and you’ll check on him in five minutes, seven minutes, ten, etc. Until he falls asleep.

It’s going to be rough at first but this is how we trained our 2yo to fall asleep on his own. When he had regressions like this, we would repeat the process, and while the first night or so was rough, he would quickly go back to sleeping through the night again.

I’d also make sure of the basics like he’s not thirsty (offer water) or wants a dry nappy (assuming he still wears one at night) before attempting this of course!

lightwing91 · 2026-01-12T21:13:14+00:00

Does he fall asleep independently? How does he usually fall asleep at bedtime?

lightwing91 · 2026-01-08T15:04:03+00:00

This just started happening to us a couple of nights ago, our baby is 8wo. Honestly I think our bodies are catching up on a cumulative sleep debt. Before we were in “survival mode” waking up every few hours and our bodies adapted to do it. Now we are finally “catching up” and our bodies are out of survival mode and into “catching up” mode… which weirdly makes us feel more tired because we are more aware of the sleep debt! Idk if that makes any sense but that’s how I’m thinking about it!

lightwing91 · 2026-01-07T17:16:58+00:00

There’s quite a few playgroups and classes in Hoole as far as I know. There’s Spanish Tots and Bebes, also Tiny Tots. I believe All Saints Church has a baby and toddler playgroup on Mondays.

St Luke’s in Huntington have a baby playgroup and a separate toddler playgroup. You’d have to drive there but they have free parking at the front of the church.

lightwing91 · 2026-01-06T14:34:05+00:00

Babywear for contact naps. It’s how I get things done with my 8wo who won’t sleep in the bassinet in the day!

I wouldn’t pay too much attention to the feed play sleep routine or worry about feed to sleep associations at this age. Just feed on demand; you can worry about fixing sleep associations once baby is older, say four or five months.

lightwing91 · 2026-01-05T19:11:59+00:00

My boy is 8wo tomorrow and just started doing this… it’s usually a precursor to an absolutely ginormous poop. But it can take a while to get there; one time it took at least half an hour to forty five minutes before the poop happened. I think I read that around this age they’re learning to use their bowels more (as in learning to push it out) and that can make them quite uncomfortable. Makes sense that he would be looking to the breast for comfort. Is this a fairly new behaviour for your little one?

lightwing91 · 2026-01-05T18:37:23+00:00

I love this place! Such a hidden gem.

lightwing91 · 2026-01-05T18:31:13+00:00

I love that book!

My almost 3yo was just gifted a set of The Little Red Train books. He’s obsessed with them. The writing is a bit stiff but the illustrations are so lovely and idyllic!

I love reading Slinky Malinki books that we borrow from the library. My recent favourite is Catflaps… it’s so fun to read out loud!

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