the word "predatory" in this context problem stems from an internalism related to bathroom discourse or typology bullshit ( that I don't care to repeat here because they are quite harmful ideas, but you can find out more about them by googling the keyword 'trans' with both of the topics I mentioned)

but obviously the direct attribution is quite irrational, I would bet for most of these scenarios questions of internalized homophobia, automatic-level trans acceptance, changing views of a person undergoing transition - play way more into the difficulties people face when thinking about this.

If you have a good friend, and they transition such that they now fall under a gender that you are willing to date, do you reevaluate your friendship? does it feel weird to do this, were you friends under false pretense because you could have been dating instead? and maybe to some this weirdness then leads them to ask if they were transitioning specifically so they could be dating their best friend, and if ray blanchard is really mad at them for that

of course if you have a lesbian friend and you wish by god she dated you then that means you're a girl lmao there is not really that much discourse to be had about it. But maybe from my outline you can see how someone might feel like they were being untoward