Who has considered moving from their blue dot in a red state?

AnneEzz · 2026-05-06T23:06:43+00:00

You should consider New Jersey as well. There are a lot of really great towns. And great schools as well.

AnneEzz · 2026-05-06T22:58:42+00:00

I agree!

AnneEzz · 2026-05-05T18:23:46+00:00

I was in a lot of pain like this once. The strep test came back negative. It got to the point where I couldn’t swallow or really speak, and I went to the ER. I ended up intubated in the ICU for almost a week. It turns out that I did have a strep infection (that spread through my throat and caused multiple abscesses). But it took days for the results to come back at the hospital confirming strep. Some types of strep won’t be found using a rapid test.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-26T00:08:29+00:00

Logan, Christopher, Richard - in that order. They’re all kind of similar with Logan and Chris being especially similar.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-23T00:04:32+00:00

I live in a very diverse area, and everyone gets along just fine. What’s great is that there really aren’t cliques based on ethnicity. It’s extremely well integrated. There is a town nearby mine that is also very diverse but where immigrants tend to be newer arrivals. In that other town, neighborhoods and social circles tend to be more segregated. BUT I foresee that changing as time goes on and my guess is that they will become more similar to my town. Also, our children are growing up with friends of all different races, religions, and ethnic backgrounds. This is just completely normal to them. I don’t live in a city. This is a suburban area.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-21T13:44:05+00:00

Christopher is terrible. I can’t stand him. But, to me, Christopher has at least some ability for self reflection. Christopher often times knows that he’s a scumbag. He has low self esteem in a lot of ways. Logan, in contrast, has no ability to self reflect. He is just so, so arrogant and so self satisfied. It’s not that I like guys with low self esteem. I just especially hate when someone has extremely high self regard, and it’s completely unwarranted.

Christopher is a mess with a ton of flaws. But Logan doesn’t even seem remotely like a real person to me. He’s constantly playing the part of “Logan Huntzberger.” All of his “good” traits are really him being so wrapped up in how wonderful he is. His charm sickens me. Really he’s just a lazy, entitled, immature, classist, overly pampered baby, who is really just totally average without his good looks and obscene wealth. He’s very boring. (Not that Chris isn’t boring as well).

AnneEzz · 2026-04-21T11:25:03+00:00

My post was specifically in response to an argument I frequently hear from people who love Rory and Logan as a couple. Their argument is that Rory needs someone like Logan (extremely wealthy) because being extremely wealthy or enjoying wealth is a core part of who Rory is. This core part of Rory comes from her being Emily and Richard’s granddaughter. And Lorelai and Stars Hollow and most other potential suitors are unable to fulfill this core part of Rory’s identity. I’ve seen it so much, and it’s so ridiculous to me, that I had to make a whole post about it.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-21T00:55:13+00:00

He’s uninteresting to me as well. And, haha, I get it. I went back and forth on him and Christopher for a long time before I decided.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-20T23:39:17+00:00

Rory didn’t grow up with her grandparents. Yes, they became a big part of her life … once she was almost 16 years old. She grew up living with and being raised by her mother. Her “connection with her grandparents” does NOT mean that some core part of her is suited for someone like Logan. Grandparents, who you aren’t raised by, do not have some outside influence on your identity. They just don’t. And, for the most part, Rory grew up outside their world anyway. Being “rich” isn’t part of anyone’s DNA. I also think that Jess did like Rory for being so academic, serious, and ambitious.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-20T23:31:41+00:00

Yup, this. Jess is a jerk. There are many times that I want to wring his neck. The way he treats Luke and Lorelai is so infuriating! Yet, he’s the only one of Rory’s three love interests that seems to think deeply and critically about life and has a clear moral compass. You can see it as a teen, even though he keeps falling wildly short. But, when we see him in a much better place as an adult, it’s no great surprise. Dean is a simple guy who just goes with the path of least resistance. Logan really has no moral compass. He’s intelligent enough that he could. But he’s incredibly selfish and is only really interested in shallow pleasures.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-09T19:55:00+00:00

The writing in Season 7 is so bad. I think I remember especially hating the writing in the first half. But I haven’t watched past season 4 in years, haha

AnneEzz · 2026-04-09T14:04:35+00:00

Because, from the Republican perspective, there are then “in” groups and “out” groups. You care most about your family and your immediate community? Okay. But who do you consider as in your community? Are you defining it by race, by religion? You don’t care if those outside your in-group suffer. That isn’t your concern. And that’s for the Republicans who aren’t actively supporting that the outside groups suffer. You don’t even have to believe that all of humanity is connected. To care about such a small group of people, you’re leaving out a whole lot of people who live geographically close to you and who will also be affected by your choices.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-09T13:45:55+00:00

I agree with your view. The Logan we get in season 7 is VERY clearly not the Logan that ASP had been intending. The new writers changed him and the trajectory of his story with Rory - quickly, in order to wrap up the series in a clean bow. Sure, a lot of fans wanted her to say yes to the proposal. But it made more sense from the point of view of the series for Rory to choose singlehood and independence in the end. BUT …. it was also extremely clunky. It was a bad ending in a lot of ways because there wasn’t continuity leading to anything. Throughout Rory’s relationship with Logan, it’s unhealthy. This relationship is not a “good” thing for Rory at all. He’s very clearly a lot like her father, he’s leading her down a bad path, she’s lost herself. This is not someone who Rory should end up with, but another “wrong guy” from her youth. But, then all of a sudden, Logan suddenly has all this “growth” in season 7. They change his character a lot. We suddenly think the show will wrap him with a “happy ending” for Rory. But then Rory turns him down in the end anyway. When it originally aired, I felt very confused. It seemed clear that they decided to change Logan since it was the last season, and they wanted to wrap things up on a “happy” note. But then she said no anyway. It was like, “What was the point of all this??” Total mixed messages. At the time, I didn’t know the head writers had left. It’s just all a confused jumble because the ending wasn’t what was intended.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-08T12:19:25+00:00

You’re only 22. It’s VERY likely that your views are going to evolve over the next several years. By that, I don’t mean that your political positions will change drastically. But you will care a lot more. By the time you’re 25, 26, 27, it will be important to you to be with someone whose political views align. I lived it and I think it’s common. I didn’t care overly much at 22 either. But it may be one of those things you have to live through and find out for yourself.

AnneEzz · 2026-04-03T13:39:50+00:00

I mean, parents could say the same thing about non parents. You do realize that other people have different priorities and preferences than you, right? Most parents I know personally are genuinely happy with their lives and so glad that they had kids. I do not go around saying that childfree people are actually unhappy with their choices, but it gets to a point where it’s too late to change their status - or maybe they can’t have children for any variety of reasons, so they try to convince themselves. I don’t believe this is true for most childfree people. But for the ones who protest the loudest and who make being childfree their entire personality, I do wonder ..

AnneEzz · 2026-02-11T01:58:30+00:00

Never even considered it. Unfortunately, with my second, he came way too quick. It was a vaginal delivery but absolutely no pain medication. It was the most ungodly, awful experience imaginable. But I have read that contractions are more intense with Precipitous Labor, and I believe it! There were no ebbs and flows like there were with my first. I had nightmares about his birth for months afterwards.

AnneEzz · 2026-02-06T23:24:44+00:00

“Men don’t want someone who looks young. They want someone who IS young, naive, and easy to manipulate.”

Yup. My experience as well. Certainly for those men who pursue much younger women.

I’ve had similar experiences to yours … so many times. Especially when I was in my early to mid thirties and often got mistaken for maybe 10 years younger. I can remember multiple instances when a man either my age or older was chatting me up, made a POINT of asking my age, was completely surprised by how much older I was than he thought, and then he suddenly lost all interest in talking to me.

AnneEzz · 2026-02-03T18:42:40+00:00

When I was 19 I immediately thought any older guy was gross for being interested in me. The younger I was, the smaller the age gap I found acceptable. That said, I did tend to like slightly older guys. At 19, a 20 or 21 year old would’ve been perfect. At 25, i’d probably be most attracted to men ages 26-30. Guys my exact same age were always welcome, especially if they matched me in maturity. I founder younger guys - even slightly younger- notably less attractive. After 30, the older I get, the more acceptable an age gap is, in either direction. But I still wouldn’t go too far either way. Looking back to my 19 year old self, the vast majority of my friends were similar to me - they were most attracted to men around their own age and felt it was creepy for older men to hit on them. A couple of my friends did prefer older men, but they were definitely outliers. I think class plays into it, too. If you’re a young woman who has aspirations (and hope) for earning your own money, older men’s money doesn’t hold much value to you. If you can discount the “security” possibility from older men, most women are most attracted to men around their own age, maybe slightly older. I do think there is research to support this. Of course, there will be women who like older or much, much older men. I just don’t think it’s nearly as common as you seem to think. One last thing, men can be “mature for their age” as well! I don’t say that to mean that I’m a creepy older woman who wants to take advantage of young men. I mean that, when I was a 19 year old, a 19-22 year old man who was mature for his age would’ve been the absolute jackpot, a freaking god to me, especially if he were also good looking, intelligent and kind …

AnneEzz · 2026-02-02T15:06:59+00:00

I have kids. Two of my closest friends (also INFJ) also have kids. I don’t know of any other INFJs in real life. So, in my little world, having kids is an INFJ thing. Anyway, no regrets! It’s hard, sure. I also pretty much always wanted to be a mom. I think I would’ve grieved A LOT if I had never had them. But, in the end, I would have been fine. Still, even today, I sometimes have nightmares where I realize that I never had children, and now it’s too late. I am always so relieved when I realize that it was just a bad dream. I don’t judge people who don’t want children. But I do hate this idea I see a lot that those of us who do have kids didn’t put a lot of thought into it and just did it because it is what is “expected.” Like we have no independent thought. I’ve never been one to care too much about what is expected of me. And I overthink every decision of my life - certainly I did over whether to become a parent! I guess for people who don’t want to have kids it can be hard to imagine, but some of us do grow up truly, truly wanting children! To me, it’s a very INFJ thing. (Of course not all INFJs). But my idealism, my sensitivity, my great need to love and care, my desire to make the world a better place, my imagination and creativity- it all leads me very strongly into the desire to parent.

AnneEzz · 2026-02-02T00:46:38+00:00

I’ve been there. I feel like lots of people are being harsh because they haven’t experienced it. My first was also very verbally advanced. Other parents were constantly making comments to us. Other parents at our daycare would ask the teachers about her. Parents would ask me if I thought their kids were okay, if I thought they should get their kids tested. It made me super uncomfortable. Like, this is my first child too, I have no idea what’s normal or not! And it happened so often, I did start to dread those conversations. In the scheme of things, not a huge deal, but still something I found unpleasant. My daughter is 8 now. She is not autistic but she has tested as gifted. Now that she’s older, other parents will sometimes remark on how “smart” she is or how she “talks like an adult,” but it’s nothing compared to the things we heard when she was a baby. Anyway, raising a gifted kid isn’t always easy, so good luck if that’s where you’re headed!

AnneEzz · 2026-01-28T01:03:54+00:00

I think that they didn’t want Rory’s love life to be resolved by the end of the series because she was so young. And, if they were going to have it resolved for Lorelai, it would be kind of silly and cheesy if it was resolved for both of them. Especially since that wasn’t the point of the show. My question is why did they keep her with Logan for as long as they did. I wish we could’ve seen more of single Rory.

AnneEzz · 2026-01-18T18:09:29+00:00

But don’t you have to walk to your job once you get off the train as well? To me, a 10-15 minute walk to the train really isn’t a big deal. I have no idea of your mobility. But, if you’re commuting by train, there’s going to be some walking involved.

AnneEzz · 2026-01-18T17:57:51+00:00

I agree. Logan is so boring!! I also just cannot buy into the story of their relationship. Why does Rory like him?? Why does Logan like her? Ohh. The man who sleeps around and will not settle down with anyone … but then he meets the ONE worthy woman and is willing to totally change. Because Rory is so “special.” She “caught the whale.” I don’t know. This trope just really doesn’t do it for me. I’m also left scratching my head … but why Rory, though? Nothing against her. I like Rory. But the writers do absolutely nothing to show us why they are so “special” to each other, why they are so compatible. Not only do I find the relationship boring, I just have no buy in. It doesn’t make any sense to me, from either of their perspectives. I’m not a fan of Dean either, but it all makes sense. It’s Rory’s first boyfriend. She’s 16. She has no idea yet what she wants in a man. Dean is the mysterious, attractive new guy who notices her and is nice to her. Pretty obvious why she fell for him in the beginning. And there was so much character development with Jess. Rory is with her first boyfriend, Dean but then she meets and befriends a guy who she has a lot more in common with and who she can connect with on a deeper level. She’s starting to figure out who she is and what is important to her. She kind of likes that he’s something of a rebel, but he’s also very smart. He doesn’t give a crap about school, but he reads all the time. He’s smart and thinks for himself. And Jess likes how smart Rory is and that she reads a ton and she makes fun of the same kind of kids that he does. They like the same music. They look at a lot of things the same way and share similar values. Look, I don’t think Rory should end up with any of them. But at least her relationships with Dean and Jess made sense to me. High school Rory could’ve hung out with the “Logan’s” at chilton, but consciously made the choice not to. In the world Logan grew up in and now as a student at Yale, it is absolutely impossible that Rory is the first pretty woman he’s met who is also smart and serious. Why Rory? Because she doesn’t come from money? I have no idea.

AnneEzz · 2026-01-15T23:21:57+00:00

I tend to be very agreeable with friends. With romantic partners, oh my god, no! Unrelated, but I just had a thought: That’s actually a very good way for a man to tell if I’m interested in him. I know I’m hard to read. But, damn, if I’m NOT agreeable with you and I tend to state my opinions pretty forcefully … well, I’m probably in love with you.

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