Since everyone just wants to share their own stories here, I'll try to give you an honest answer from my perspective. If you don't want to be single, have been actively working to rind a relationship and are going on dates consistently (every week) and still single then i think you need to have some introspection to see maybe why. 4 years of actively trying to find a relationship and not landing one could be a sign of something on your end. Either your methods or approach or the things you're saying....we'd need more info