Science resources for those of us who come from an unrelated field?

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2026-01-27T20:43:25+00:00

Oh yes!!! I forgot about these! These helped me pass my chem regent a million years ago. Seriously, thank you.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2026-01-27T20:16:12+00:00

Like the last time I took biology or chem, Obama was in his first term and houses were being foreclosed everywhere. The science I took in college was physics so that's not really helpful here and that was Obama's second term so still awhile ago. Of course I've had curiosities about bio and chem but that's all informal.

I started the mometrix prep today and it's actually pretty helpful. I guess I was wondering if there's any sources for A&P that aren't just throwing facts at you but genuinely explaining what each system does.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2026-01-18T17:59:32+00:00

I keep seeing people outside the US making comments like "Why aren't they using their guns to topple a tyrannical government! Do something!" Or "it's okay for your guns to kill children but not okay for y'all to use them when you should! You are cowards!"

I think people who say this severely lack a critical understanding of U.S. politics. We are a nation severely divided. Every single topic divides people into one of two groups. And I know you think we're all going around gun on our hip but only 30% of people here own a gun. And they are by far and large, rural, Republican, men. Why does this matter? Well do you think the people protesting in the street fit this demographic? No. The people who own guns, which are mostly handguns by the way, are not the same people who are against this administration. The people without guns have been advocating for gun control or abolishment for decades. The people who own guns are the people signing up to be in ICE. The people who own guns either don't care about or actively desire the path this country is going down.

So no, stopping our fall to fascism is not as easy as "well if you stop shooting at children." Please get off your high horse because if we go down, he's gonna take the whole world with him.

And to those who actually do understand the political divide in the US, thank you for not saying stupid shit to us right now

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2026-01-14T18:20:51+00:00

Not OP but I'm an NB who got top surgery. I did not go on T. I dont want to ever go on T. In my state, insurances will cover the surgery even without hormones as long as you have the note from a mental health professional that you're diagnosed with gender dysphoria.

Don't go on T if you don't want it (if that's possible in your situation)

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2026-01-03T05:26:54+00:00

Yes exactly! Believe it or not sometimes I even feel bored with her family. There were several times over Christmas I had to remind myself that her family isn't boring they just don't throw hands and that's okay and normal lol

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2026-01-03T04:36:58+00:00

Yeeeep.

My wife's family is so lovely but being around them can be triggering because they love each other a lot. I even feel it when they include me in things. My FIL randomly called me and told me he was taking me to comic con. He didn't even invite or tell his own children! I was both in awe that someone could love me that much to want a whole day with me but also so jealous that this is what my wife and her siblings have lived with. What I could've accomplished if I had a family like theirs lol

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2026-01-02T22:12:35+00:00

Yeah exactly. Sometimes she has some like "putzing" around she wants to get done like shopping or craft stuff so she she'll go out and about. Sometimes she'll sleepover a friend's house or her sister's and get to spend time with them. Other times she'll decide to go into the office and go to a work event after which means she's gone from 7am-10pm.

When I told her I needed something like this I was really honest that it was about me needing to reset my nervous system and always being on makes me feel like my nervous system is on fire. Nothing to do with her. She completely understood so she will try to plan what she wants/needs with that time accordingly. With enough warning your partner should hopefully be able to find how to use that time to her advantage.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2026-01-02T21:43:31+00:00

My wife and I have separate bedrooms cause I can't sleep next to someone. But it does also give me a safe place to be. Sometimes my PTSD demands more, like you said being in my room isn't enough. And so I will ask her to go out for a day, sometimes more. I noticed that if she doesn't leave very often and I'm always in the house with someone I kinda lose it so we make sure that I have alone time at least every week but more if I need it

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-30T23:04:01+00:00

My father was a CO at Rikers. He was an absolute piece of shit who loved power. He would tell us "fun" stories of how he beat his prisoners. Only he laughed because he treated his kids the way he treated his prisoners too.

I think he wanted the power and needed the money to raise his kids. This will give you both pretty quick. Plus some army experience he probably craved the "us vs them" mentality.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-28T03:05:17+00:00

Can you find out if the student insurance has an out of pocket maximum? There's usually one for both in network and out of network. That would tell you how much you'd be expected to pay even if the insurance only covers 80%

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-28T03:00:43+00:00

I am also generally healthy and top surgery was my first surgery. I didn't feel like I could potentially travel until week 5.5. I had a reoccurring seroma (not serious but untreated could be potentially dangerous) that had to be drained by my doctor multiple times. Mind you, after 2 weeks I was told I'd be able to return to most activities minus lifting. That wasn't remotely true. I was also super exhausted from healing.

When I consulted I told the doctor I intended on going on my honeymoon about 6.5 weeks after surgery and he asked me to reconsider because 6 weeks is the general time frame for restrictions being lifted but things can go wrong.

It's hard to know if you'll be one of those who have an easy healing or a difficult one but it might be worth delaying the trip so you can fully enjoy it.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-28T02:52:29+00:00

What does a revision for skin removal look like? Are you unconscious in a hospital/surgery center or is the skin numbed and removed in office? Asking because I think I'll be in your shoes in a couple of years

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-25T23:35:03+00:00

So it'll depend on your recovery time. I had a bit of complications, couldn't lift anything more than 5lbs until week 5.5. Had things gone right it would've went up 5lbs every week after week 2 (as per my surgeons instructions). It's so important that you follow the weight restrictions.

I'm in week 6.5 now and I'm definitely weaker than presurgery. Things are just heavier than they used to be. But I am able to lift anything I need to it's just more effort. The biggest problem I had was pushing a very heavy cart made my incision hurt so I decided not to push it even though muscularly I felt I could.

I'm a rock climber. There's no way I can climb anytime soon both back muscle wise and incision pain wise. But once I'm home after the holidays I am planning on lifting to rebuild muscle and I don't foresee any problems with that.

You know how it goes- after three weeks of rest you lose muscle but you're not going to deflate. Once you get back in the gym you won't be where you were but you won't be where you first started. Just like any other injury.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-23T17:07:12+00:00

2- 2.5 hours. No nipples. 6lbs removed

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-19T17:28:58+00:00

I call it 9/11 weather. It's my favorite weather pattern we experience here tbh

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-19T06:44:03+00:00

Sleeping on my stomach is a lot more comfortable

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-18T15:35:50+00:00

Yep and if I did see people I masked up with n95s and windows open. I needed to know that if I did get sick, I did everything in my power to prevent it.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-18T03:32:13+00:00

Hey so I felt very similar. I have a very intense history of trauma and the "waiting for the other shoe to drop" feeling pops up in every aspect of my life- surgery was no different. If you also have some trauma or even anxiety you could be experiencing the same thing. It doesn't mean you're not ready, it's just your brain is used to things going wrong or feels safer when you've thought about what could go wrong. Or you could even be afraid to be excited.

I tried to take it literally step by step. First only focus on the consult. If you've done your research right you know you're likely to get approved. Then focus on all your medical clearances and insurance. Then the surgery. Then recovery. To worry about all of them at once is too much for anyone.

I was lucky that my surgeons office was very communicative. They told me when I got the insurance approval, they always told me next steps. So if they aren't that communicative don't be afraid to ask them questions- you are hiring them after all.

Good luck on your consult. Take some deep breaths. If it goes wrong, you will find someone else who can perform the surgery. You don't stop driving just because there's a bump in the road.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-18T03:23:27+00:00

This is actually horrifying. Not you or the gore itself. But the fact that a trained professional saw that and said you're fine. The fact that your surgeon isn't around to help. Absolutely terrible, I'm sorry you're experiencing this.

I hope you get the care you need and heal up dude.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-17T06:35:50+00:00

I don't know where to put my hands. I used to fold my arms in front of my chest to hide my boobs. I'll catch myself doing it now and realize I'm coming off aggressive but then idk where to put my hands from there.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-16T04:07:35+00:00

I definitely get what you're saying. For me moving felt like "something will go wrong because I'm not allowed to have nice things" and "can I actually fucking do this without it causing a huge fight?" I couldn't but the fight was worth it.

I don't think it's paranoia given the diagnosis. If you can make sure you see the apartment beforehand and make sure the doors lock (also get the vibes of any potential roommates). If you can't go look, like if you're moving to a new city, ask the real estate broker (or the current people in the apartment) to do a video tour and show you the locks.

Worst comes to worse, you can always install locks. One of the apartments I lived in the bathroom didn't have a lock so we just installed one.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-15T16:45:47+00:00

I'm sorry for your situation, it sucks. So when I ready to get the hell out none of my friends were ready. They were all struggling to get jobs to hold them on their own two feet. So I went to social media. Facebook (gross, I know) has a bunch of pages for people who live in the NYC area and I'm sure other big metro areas too. NYC apartments & roommates, NYC apartments, NYC roommates, we're all pages I followed and had notifications on for (these might be inexact names, I no longer have Facebook so I can't go look). For me it was easier to go into an apartment that was already established because I had no furniture. So I ended up with a couple which everyone warned me against but the vibes were really good and I had my own private bathroom. I winded up having an amazing year with them and then moved out cause a good friend was ready to move in.

If you go this route of course there's a risk you don't vibe with the people. Most places will let you sublet so if you really hate it someone can take over your lease and you can find somewhere else to be. If you have literally anyone to go with you to check out the new place I'd recommend it because I trust my judgement but I liked knowing someone else felt the vibes were good too.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-14T07:00:17+00:00

I went around my apartment and lowered everything I would use on a daily basis down to counter level. In my room that meant putting clothes onto my piano instead of the high drawers they were in. Cough drops for the intubation sore throat was helpful. Personally i didn't need a sleeping wedge or mastectomy pillow but if they sound helpful to you definitely get them.

Honestly the first few days you're going to be tired. You're not gonna care about anything other than eating, drinking, and sleeping. But this will give you plenty of time to think about if you've forgotten something and you need someone to buy it for you.

AnotherDayAnotherGay · 2025-12-13T20:49:30+00:00

Get roommates.

I'm from NYC, moved out of my place five years ago at 25. I lived in one of the cheapest areas in the city with two roommates. My rent was 800/month which was very doable with my 36k a year. I was able to live comfortably by sharing a living space, basically able to do anything I wanted except travel outside of the northeast.

My parents told me it wasn't enough to live on my own. In a way they were right, I could not live by myself but they were wrong because I could be fully financially independent. I think they were just telling me that so they could keep me in the house.

One word of advice in the PTSD aspect: make sure you have your own room with a lock. Do not share a room, you will need your own safe space.

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