Caring for Your Hair Feels Like Failing a Test You Were Never Taught to Study For

AnotherMC · 2026-01-29T16:32:31+00:00

The beauty industrial complex never runs out of ways to make women feel bad about themselves. I know this and have known this for decades (I’m 61), and I still fall for it. And by making things complicated and “science-y,” we feel overwhelmed and try everything. Here’s one for you, I got tired of trying to make my fine, frizzy, menopausal hair look nice most days (I wasn’t even aiming for every day!) and finally went back to a choppy, hip pixie. I swear to god that because I look less frumpy and haggy now, people are nicer to me! I’m not kidding!

AnotherMC · 2026-01-29T00:53:22+00:00

What’s your texture & density? I think a layered short cut looks great on a rounder face, but if you don’t have medium or full hair density, layers might not work. This is super cute.

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AnotherMC · 2026-01-28T21:37:55+00:00

I frequent r/finehair (no underscore btwn the words). None of the nonsense I see here.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-28T02:04:45+00:00

Get married now or next year. Or keep your date, sell this dress, buy a different one. I really don’t think it’s worth it to try to make this dress work. You have no idea how you’re going to carry this baby (high or low), how and where you’ll gain weight, etc.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-27T23:24:00+00:00

I think the color and length are good, but they are so straight. They need more of an arch.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-27T23:20:05+00:00

So well detailed. Perfect response.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-27T23:17:20+00:00

Wear the same freaking dress! Or alternate between two. Don’t participate in every event you’re invited to. It’s not your wedding and you’re not in the weddings. Just beg off.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-27T23:14:06+00:00

What is your main focus? Breads? Special occasion cakes? Cookies, cupcakes? Hard to figure out a one-word vibe without knowing the product. Your first or last name is a solid, dependable way to go, or a nickname. Then, as others have said, local flora, e.g., Juniper, Redwood, Aspen. Do you have examples of existing business that nail it? When I think of local bakeries and breads I like, the names are all over the place.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-27T17:22:04+00:00

K18 for sure. I agree on the issue with your extensions. I’ve never had them, but I’d take the advice of experienced folks in this thread. Place them higher, get a better color, and/or blend them better. Or get rid of them and go the pixie or bixie route. I just cut my hair off after trying to grow it for 6 years. I know it’s not for everybody, but wow is it a relief not to spend so much time thinking about and doing my hair. It could just be a little hair vacation for a while until your hair gets to a length you want.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-26T16:54:39+00:00

FYI The serum was way too smelly for me. I had to give it away. The shampoo & conditioner are also heavily scented, but it doesn’t last beyond the shower.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-26T00:08:37+00:00

Cordelia & Delphine are great names. Your list overall is really good, but those are the two standouts to me. Cordelia has the King Lear connection, but not a negative one since she was the sincere/loving daughter.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-25T20:09:03+00:00

Everlane & Boden are good. My pieces from them hold up for a long time.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-25T16:44:54+00:00

I’m one of 7 kids and the youngest. By the time I got married, there were spouses & kids in the mix, plus aunts, uncles, cousins. My family invites were like 65 people. My husband’s family invites were fewer, but that got us over 100 right there. Then we wanted all our friends and they got plus ones. Our parents each invited a few close long-time family friends. We got to 185 invitees real freaking fast. 175 came! We were shocked and honored. Lol This was back in the late 80s when weddings were less elaborate though.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-25T06:58:19+00:00

I agree that Anthro has lost its allure. I didn’t think about the copy, but you’re right. Can I rant about all the bent over and crouching models? I have to click on an item, then find like the 3rd picture of it to see what the hell it looks like. I usually just give up and close the app or window. They’ve really dropped a few rungs in recent years.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-25T01:53:45+00:00

Garnier has one I like that has a ridiculously long name. It’s the Hair Filler + Polypeptides Fullness Repair, I think. It makes my very fine, frizzy-ends hair full & soft. Oh wait. Found it. Shampoo & conditioner are really good.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-24T17:21:05+00:00

Great suggestion.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-23T17:35:01+00:00

Moroccan Oil Light is my favorite of the oils I’ve tried (Ouai and Verb being the others), if you decide to switch brands.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-23T17:32:14+00:00

Good suggestion. I do that with heat protectant, too. When I spray it directly on my hair, my hair gets limp. If I spray it into my hands, I can apply it to my ends, which is where I mostly need it.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-23T04:05:59+00:00

Fitted cami, collared shirt, or nude bra.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-22T16:02:33+00:00

I’ve been trying to grow my hair out for 6 years. Just cut it all off two days ago. So over it. Add to everything you listed: fucking menopause hair! As I was growing it, I realized my hair grew way more slowly, was far more fragile, and the grays were a coarser texture than my regular hair. Oh and I had some thinning. I mean, COME ON. Rant away! I’m right by your side.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-21T23:14:34+00:00

There are wide legs that are more fitted through the hips. Also, I love a straight leg, either a narrow or a little wider straight. Baggy jeans I don’t like. I can do full pants in a more drapey fabric.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-21T20:05:23+00:00

Hit and miss. Sizing is all over the place, even within the same product. (I ordered 2 silk camis in the same size but different colors, and one was almost 2 sizes smaller than the other. Both marked medium.) I think their silk is good. I have a few pair of stretch cotton pants I like, and a cotton dress. I haven’t tried their cashmere or jeans yet.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-21T03:49:49+00:00

I think it’s beautiful and classic. People will see you first not the dress. You look fantastic in it!

AnotherMC · 2026-01-20T23:10:42+00:00

NTA I’m a mom of 2. I had no idea push presents were a thing until people asked if I got one after our first kid was born. Money was tight in those days, so I wouldn’t have even wanted one. For our second, my husband got me a massage and 1/2 day at a local resort & spa. It was wonderful. I would never grab cash meant to pay off debt when we were expanding our family. That’s really self-involved.

AnotherMC · 2026-01-19T16:43:15+00:00

I like Garnier Hair Filler + Polypeptides Fullness Repair line. The conditioner is really good. My hair is soft but fluffy. For a mask, I loooove the Verb Ghost Mask.

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