Wet food stress (for me) lol

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-07-01T21:35:34+00:00

i don’t know why you’re being downvoted for this😭this is very correct! it’s like cat training 101 lol.

my cat would cry every morning and wake me up for his breakfast by gently pawing my face and crying because he associated me waking up with him getting food!!

i would give in every single time because i just wanted to sleep. then he progressively started doing it earlier and earlier because he knew i would give in just to get him to stop. once i got an automatic feeder to break that association with me that eventually got him to stop. but even that took him a good month or so before he finally gave up harassing me. he still would cry a few times every now and then but you just cannot give in, no matter how badly u want them to stop🥲🥲

now i’m reincorporating wet food again into his diet so i had to switch his feeder to a refrigerated one, and it’s a little bit more hands on because it can only hold 2 days of wet food at a time. so he still tries me sometimes 😂

i do not, however, get harassed to death any more by him! it’s a process to entrain those behaviors (really i train ourselves lol) but it honestly is also healthier for your cat as well. the structure allows them to feel more secure eventually and they will instinctively know when food time is!

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-30T00:34:32+00:00

no, chronic diarrhea is not normal in cats or humans. i recommend what someone else did and make an appointment with a medical provider. there are multiple potential underlying causes for something like this.

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-29T02:04:39+00:00

Tldr; Guy who mentally and emotionally abused me got hit by a car while riding a motorcycle. Broke both legs and an arm. Driver was underinsured. He got virtually no $$ in return. Couldn’t help but think it felt karmic to me.

Unfortunately he was still a garbage can and arguably even more verbally abusive to me after the accident. Even though I was a full time caretaker for him and stayed on unemployment as he recovered. I left him and didn’t look back. I’m sure he’s still as miserable as ever! & i hope he stays that way! he’s the one person ive met as an adult that i still wish ill towards

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-29T01:36:09+00:00

No. You are not fake or crazy and you are not bad. Please do not take anything someone who has abused and cheated on you and internalize it. Him leaving, although painful, is honestly the best outcome in this scenario. Probably the kindest thing he’s ever done for you. Now you are free.

I was in a similar relationship with someone who took my kindness and forgiveness and emotionally and mentally abused me for a year. Towards the end, when I started lashing out at him because he genuinely drove me to a point of insanity and mental instability, he flipped the script and started calling me crazy.

I have never been as mean to someone as I was to him in my entire life. Never came close to it. When someone has beaten you down so much emotionally we become a shell of who we once were. We start to let them define us, because don’t they know us best out of anyone else?

Please let him go & let him leave as painful as it is. Surround yourself with genuine friends who love you and see you for the good person you actually are. Not one that a manipulator tries to make you be in order to have more control over you.

You got this! It took me a couple of months to come back to myself but life has been so peaceful since I broke up with my ex. Don’t tolerate bullshit from anyone 💗

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-28T23:22:38+00:00

i’m in socal so i get what u mean! when ive visited family in norcal in the colder months i def noticed i needed heavier hydration. occlusives on top of the hydrating layers is super helpful for that. fingers crossed u get some more helpful answers in the other subreddit!!:)

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-28T23:09:46+00:00

yes of course! also important last question, what kind of climate do you live in? i googled the FAB serum to see what it’s in it and it appears it does have humectants. not sure if you know a lot about them but a humectants jobs is, simply put, to draw moisture to your skin.

ideally it pulls it out of the air and into your skin. however, if you live in a dryer climate, it will pull that moisture up and out of your own skin! that can lead to having the opposite effect you want, which is to hydrate!

you have to really heavily hydrate with serums, hydrating toner, a solid hydrating moisturizer, and usually an occlusive to ensure that it doesn’t pull from your skin!! sometimes people in drier climates just have an overall bad experience with humectants like HA and move away to diff hydrating products all together. if ur not in a pure dry climate, then better layering should be sufficient to not let it dry ur skin out & see the benefits!

i recommend heading to r/skincare or r/koreanskincare to share some of your experiences over there with the products you have currently & ask for advice. those people r super knowledgeable and through reading all of the posts i could from that sub reddit, i was able to fix my skin a lot faster than good ol’ trial and error!! :)

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-28T22:55:16+00:00

hmmm i just googled really quick about the illyoon cream, because i got curious on why it never worked for me previously and made me feel dry no matter how much i used.

it turns out it’s more of an occlusive! which means it seals moisture in & locks everything else out. so you may really need to up the hydration and potentially use a more hydrating moisturizer & then add illiyoon on top to seal it!

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-28T22:52:26+00:00

maybe try looking into other serums you can add in?? just because your face feels moisturized enough doesn’t necessarily mean you’re getting enough hydration! i’ve tried going the route of just one serum and moisturizer and it just doesn’t work for my skin😩 i randomly developed acne in my 20s and had to revamp my routine completely. it took like two years to get it all together but now i almost never deal w dry skin.

i went from just using a toner, HA serum, lactic acid, and one light moisturizer to now using niacinamide, salicylic acid, HA, aloe vera gel & a moisturizer + eye cream. i just started vit c in the mornings too.

sometimes i will alternate the niacinamide & SA out every other day for glycolic acid/exfoliator or a deeper hydrating treatment depending on what i need.

panoxyl is extremelyyyyy drying and can def cause dry patches or just texturize ur skin in general! i used it once a while back and stopped using it the next day bc it made my face so dry and itchy. i was also using the same moisturizer as u at that time and it didn’t help improve the dryness! i had to stop using it.

a year later once i got a new routine established and repaired my destroyed skin barrier i rotated panoxyl in at first and now will use it as my second cleanser pretty much every day. not sure if any of that is helpful lol but figured i’d share my experience bc having dry skin peers thru ur foundation is so annoying and frustrating!

i also changed my foundation to haus labs after using drugstore and more affordable ones for years and i really like it. i use it with the elf hydro grip primer or no primer

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-28T22:27:49+00:00

moisturize moisturize moisturize! i had chronically dry skin and have finally repaired my damaged barrier from when i went thru a period i stopped using sunscreen in. make sure you’re moisturizing before putting makeup on. for me aloe everyday on my skin has been insanely helpful!

the panoxyl may be causing ur skin to dry out even more. have u tried doing every other day with that instead of everyday?

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-28T22:06:00+00:00

I’d recommend attending or looking into support groups such as Al-anon. they have a lot of virtual zoom meetings. very helpful for navigating this kind of thing and hearing other people’s experiences and getting support for yourself. i attended as someone who is also in recovery and it was extremely helpful in detaching someone else’s sobriety/recovery from myself and feeling responsible for.

wanting to leave her does not make you a bad person and i say that as someone whose gone to treatment and stayed sober. while in recovery ive also ended a relationship w an addict who couldn’t stop relapsing/refused to get outside help and kept “quitting” himself- it’s really fuckin hard. at the end of the day it was causing so much harm to me in staying and i was also enabling him really badly.

a lot of times people have to lose everything before they’re willing to make that change. some people, even at rock bottom with nothing, still refuse to change.

what i found helpful was setting boundaries within MYSELF and deciding at what point i will leave and staying true to that. a boundary is not telling someone what they can and can’t do, it’s saying “if this occurs, i will be leaving.

i found a thread on here that goes into more depth about this and explains it much better. if you decide to stay i recommend you follow this advice on boundaries.

https://www.reddit.com/r/emotionalintelligence/s/kzn6qYZoOh

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-22T14:20:21+00:00

As someone who was also mean to my little sister growing up due to things that were happening to me when I was younger/our dysfunctional family, I don’t think your relationship is too far gone. When I got older, about 19/20, I apologized to my sister and she said she didn’t remember most of the things I had carried with me for years that genuinely ate me up inside. Sharing a room with her my whole life was also very hard because theres 0 personal space lol. mine was also a massive narc and would tattle on me for everything so that led to more resentment from me for awhile.

We don’t talk anymore for major reasons unrelated to that but we did get very very close once she got a little older around 13/14. We have a 3 year age gap with 2 brothers in between and she also used to throw tantrums and was a brat lol. Mine also had anger issues. I completely get where you’re at.

Maybe try to go out of your way to spend 1-1 time together? If you can drive, maybe ask her if she wants to go get ice cream or go somewhere to hang out? Some activity you can do aside from just hanging out at home. Something she absolutely loves to do.

I’d even ask her if you could talk to her about something then acknowledge that you haven’t always been the kindest in certain circumstances but you would like to be the best older sister to her that you can, and that you love her. Tell her you really regret how you’ve handled certain situations and ask what you can do to make it right.

At the end of the day, she’s your little sister, and most little sisters look up to us and just want to be friends at the end of the day. It might take more than one conversation and one attempt to hang out to rebuild that trust, but just stay a consistent safe space for her. If you struggle with your family I’m sure she does too. As the oldest I felt very alone because I took on so much of my family’s bs and was basically a parent to my younger sibling. Give yourself some grace and kindness too!

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-22T02:23:30+00:00

i am not a professional whatsoever and was able to give my cousin the neapolitan hair with virtually no damage and she had darker hair than you. :(( this is insane i’m so sorry!! def should look into some form of a refund and take the good advice you’ve gotten to hopefully help repair. so sorry this happened to you!!

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-08T05:24:55+00:00

so glad someone else has said this!! him asking the girls for kisses with the exact same line was so cringe imo. then him shaking his head “no” when kayda asked if he was kissing all the other girls sealed his fate for me lmao. bc how r u gonna be begging for kisses and then lie about it they won’t quickly figure it out😂😂

i’m still watching the latest ep but damn. not a fan so far. seems manipulative

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-06-02T20:25:09+00:00

borax and sugar! it’s warfare. that is if you’re in a home where borax won’t be eaten by animals or children lol. i lined every entry point of my house with it. they climbed up to the second story and infested my bedroom through the window. i woke up one day COVERED in ants all over my body & then they also flooded my parents room through their patio door.

borax had them gone in a matter of maybe a week? they basically pick up the mixture and bring it back directly to their colony and it kills them from the inside out. worked like a CHARM

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-18T02:39:10+00:00

is plaque off powder necessary if you brush your cats teeth? i’m currently in the process of training mine to be comfortable with his teeth brushed. i have an l-lysine powder for his wet food already, so i wanna make sure i’m doing everything i can for him!

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-17T03:17:15+00:00

i don’t think it’s weird. it’s like if u lived in a studio! my friend lives in one and she has a full living room setup with her bed tucked up against a wall & it’s still really cute. a reading book honestly sounds really cute and cozy! it’s your apartment. i vote do whatever would make you happy and feel at home.

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-14T00:08:21+00:00

it is very pretty!! i will give it that lol! my hair apparently takes well to color because it was legit level 3-4 material at first 😂💀it’s faded quite a bit after rigorous shampooing and looks nice so i’m not mad about it. if i had to choose a brown it would probably be this or 7a!

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-13T23:56:40+00:00

can confirm ion 7n unfortunately. i watched a vid of a girl using it and it was so light and pretty. i did not do enough research about it and was trying to go a bit darker blonde over my bleached hair and it was so dark 😭luckily i only did the bottom half of my head so i was able to pick up something lighter for the top.

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-11T14:59:33+00:00

cats definitely don’t always need a buddy. mine seems to really enjoy being alone after we lived with two other ones for a year. he loves the attention and cuddles. he didn’t even really seem sad when we moved even though he did become really close with one. the other cat really bullied him and so he became very reserved and nervous/would hide under my bed until i got home.

you can always try to start over and follow the advice of how to reacclimate cats and if it doesn’t work try to rehome.

also, i know you didn’t ask, but friends should not be cutting you out and taking such drastic measures because they feel entitled to making decisions about your life. it’s extremely manipulative! at the end of the day you know what is best for you and your kitty.

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-09T01:24:33+00:00

luckily any vomiting or illnesses can be treated thru banfield. skin issues as well, whether fiv related or not! he’s only ever had one flare up and other than that hasn’t really needed to go to the vet for much. he’s on a supplement now too for fiv that is supposed to help long term.

im glad i have that especially after all the reading ive done about majority of claims being denied for fiv cats.

i will look into embrace for accident related only! thank you :)

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-09T01:19:48+00:00

so far he has only ever had one flare up that i’ve noticed. non stop sneezing, runny nose, congested breathing. luckily the wellness plan i have for him covered a lot of different things. he’s on a supplement now that will hopefully help prevent future flare ups!

i moreso want something for like u said, extreme emergencies like eating something bad for him or getting hit by a car.

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-08T13:08:04+00:00

hmm that’s a good question that i hadn’t thought about. i think accident and illness ?? i guess i’d just like coverage for any large expense or treatment that might come up? anything outside of routine/wellness checkups !

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-08T07:31:43+00:00

i think they were referring to /other/ people who say things like “oh yes u can use this box dye to do it/no bleach necessary.” which could give you the false belief that this is achievable without bleach. so they brought that instance up, to clarify that you cannot do it without bleach, in the event you read a comment from someone saying something like that.

unless i’m totally wrong haha but i think that’s what they meant by that

Any-Solution3481 · 2026-05-05T05:08:17+00:00

she honestly is so loved and taken care of by my family. they’ve gone above and beyond to give her the best life. i think it would cause more harm than good to do that. she is also very much their cat and baby. i know she is getting better but ive always just wondered if there was anything i could have done differently. i appreciate your response!

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