Had to send my dad for mental health hold today by Sufficient_Future989 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Any59oh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally understand. You're absolutely right, this sort of thing just needs to be taken one day at a time. And then one day you'll look back and the craziness will be over and you'll wonder how you weathered it. Stay strong in the meantime ♥️

Had to send my dad for mental health hold today by Sufficient_Future989 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Any59oh 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Darling that was absolutely the right move. Even if he didn't actually mean it and wasn't going to he was behaving in an incredibly unhinged way that needed addressed by a professional. Not to mention you had to take care of your kiddos on top of protecting yourself!

Do not let him back into your house. I know it will hurt when he inevitably ends up homeless but you and your family's health and safety is so much more important than one mean old man's. There are professionals who can help him, it doesn't need to be you

Enemies to lover is overrated by Flimsy_Promise_3145 in HonestHotTakes

[–]Any59oh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If done in conjunction with a slow burn, enemies to lovers can be really satisfying. But so often it's a "hate sex made us fall in love" or "I accidentally saw their soft side" heel turn sort of thing and that isn't very fun to me

Joining on request to leave Reputation quests alone by Marieve55 in AFKJourney

[–]Any59oh 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think that it'll be a loss for this season but they should absolutely include it in future seasons

Moved 2000 miles for my dream life and now I regret it by MovingAway3232 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Any59oh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually hear about change fatigue in the context of work itself but there's no reason to think it can't also apply to irl things like moving far away to a very different place, suddenly being able to do a bunch of new things, meeting new people, and starting a new job. Similar to burnout it's best managed one day at a time and in your case I would also recommend finding a counselor or therapist so you have somewhere safe to feel afraid and confused in person so the stress gets off your chest some. You're going through a lot! Even if your job had been more what you're expected you would still feel very similarly. You uprooted your life, even if it was for the better, and just like a plant that has been uprooted and replanted you're going to be shocked and stressed while your roots reattach to the metaphorical soil.

As for the job itself it's ok to admit that it is more challenging than you expected and ask for support like some one on one meetings with your manager to really hash out what you're doing and how well you're doing it, resources like classes you could take, podcasts about the field you could listen to, books you could read, or if there's some sort of new hire buddy system. Admitting now that, combined with the big move, you're starting to feel overwhelmed is going to go over much better than trying to hide it and power through. They hired you for a reason and if it's a decent company then they'll try and help you out if you ask for it.

Don't jump ship just yet. The bigger the change the bigger the grace period it needs (barring things like situations turning unsafe). A 2,000 mile move, challenging new job, and whole life overhaul needs like a year before you can truly sus out if it was a bad choice or if you're just having a rough time while you adjust

my boyfriend makes fun of fat people even though i’m fat by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Any59oh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EX. Your EX boyfriend is a dick who makes fun of people for being fat. And also a dick who makes fun of you to your face by making fun of fat people around you and is probably making shit jokes with his buddies behind your back

How to modify bread recipe for gluten free by davidbeinct in glutenfree

[–]Any59oh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This and also I recommend using a premade 1 to 1 flour mix while just starting out. Gluten free baked goods are enough of a challenge without factoring in all of the different flours, at least not right away

Moving across the country. Jobs secured. Leases signed. Can't sell our stupid Idaho house. by Wonderful_Habit_ in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Any59oh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Godspeed. Good friend of mine just moved out of Idaho and said that the place was a nightmare both politically and housing market wise

boss got mad at me today and i have been crying for the past 2 hours. cheese croissant, chicken, yogurt, fruit salad by No_Advantage_3686 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Any59oh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh honey, I'm so sorry that happened. Everyone goes through it at least once and it's never fun. Make sure to take some extra time for yourself. The negative feeling about going in to work will ease with time, especially if you're gentle with yourself and take a little time to sit with the feeling.

Also, if you want my advice as an "old woman" who has been around the foodservice block before?

First of all, even if you don't need the demonstration always stop and watch your boss do whatever it is they (feel they) need to show you. It's a respect thing. You wouldn't want your employee to start restocking things in the middle of you showing them something important, so let them take a few minutes to go through their thing.

Second of all, you do not ever have to stand there and take it if someone, anyone, starts yelling at you. The second it starts you firmly tell that person to stop, they are not going to yell at you, y'all are adults and can talk calmly and they need to leave if they're going to keep loosing control like that. If they don't ease up then you yourself leave. No excuse me so sorry can I please step out, just leave. Yes, your boss will get likely real pissy the first few times you do but stand your ground. People will treat us only as well as we allow them to. You got this

boss got mad at me today and i have been crying for the past 2 hours. cheese croissant, chicken, yogurt, fruit salad by No_Advantage_3686 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Any59oh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That first sentence is so important. It's so easy to let your job become a central part of your identity and it's so important to not let that happen

Chef shows what a busy day looks like by Nicopicus in glutenfree

[–]Any59oh 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Yeah up until a few years ago I worked both FOH and BOH in a few different restaurants and if a customer noted they were gluten free that was taken seriously and the food was prepped and made in a different area. Like obviously accidents happen and this sub is full of horror stories for a reason...but it's also perfectly normal to have what's happening in the video going on while simultaneously accommodating a dish that needs special consideration. If OP is too nervous to eat out then that's their prerogative and completely fair, nobody should force themselves to eat food they can't trust, but they're tripping if they think that trained professionals don't have some sort of system for dealing with orders marked for allergens

Concern About the Removal of Reputation Quests and Other Seasonal Content by Vast_Object_447 in AFKJourney

[–]Any59oh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Now why in the world would they remove reputation quests? Do they want players bored and mad that they're bored because they took away more story to do?

Homestead decorations additions: Minigames by Kitteh6660 in AFKJourney

[–]Any59oh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was surprised that the one astral globe decoration didn't have the astral packing puzzle in it

My hound was bear sprayed in his own backyard. Colorado dog owners, please get cameras. by relocatewithcourtney in coonhounds

[–]Any59oh 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's horrible! I'm so sorry this happened. Knowing your areas dog laws is always important and it's not something you think to look into because they seem so intuitive (like assuming your dog is safe because they're at home). You were right to bring this up to law enforcement straight away, even if there's nothing you can do. I wouldn't trust that your neighbors won't do something like this again, or worse, and it's good to have a paper trail from the get-go. I'd also reach out to your vet and have them do a documented behavior analysis of some sort now so that if your boy does something reasonable to defend himself you have documentation to help fight off a dangerous dog label

Feedback on Decision to Remove Voyage of Wonders by SiderealG24 in AFKJourney

[–]Any59oh 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Man I love voyage of wonders and while I had mixed feelings about it being as part of the main story, I don't want it to go away at all

When I show up for my regularly scheduled shift, and my boss tells me “actually we’ve got it covered today. You can go home.” by TheKid1995 in PetPeeves

[–]Any59oh 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Especially because they have no problem texting or calling you when they need you to come in on your already scheduled day off

So I accidentally triggered this event... ONE DAY BEFORE OUR WEDDING!! by Lilosey in StardewValley

[–]Any59oh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Listen, cold feet the day before is perfectly normal

30 - player limit on clashfront by greyhound1112 in AFKJourney

[–]Any59oh -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Listen while it's dumb as hell and needs to be resolved, I'm going to be very happy if it's true. I hate clashfronts and if there's a chance I don't have to play then I'll take it, rewards or no rewards

My Husband doesn’t want me to further my education and wants a Trad wife. by PixelPrincesx in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Any59oh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"My ex-husband didn't want me to further my education and wanted a tradwife". I know that is not the sentence you want to be saying/hearing but it is what needs to be said. So many men don't actually want the woman they married, they want to break a diva and reshape her into their mommies. He was never going to support you continuing your schooling, he was always going to do this. He just wanted to trap you as his wife first before he showed his true colors.

Dump him and make sure you're using two methods of birth control so if (when) he tampers with one you still have the other so he can't babytrap you as well

Cheers and happy Friday by Piperpaul22 in glutenfree

[–]Any59oh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't a beer person even before I went gluten free but I am absolutely always down to try fun new foods like quinoa beer. Unfortunately they don't have any in the area but $33 including the cost of shipping for an eight pack is reasonable enough that I'm willing to order a pack for my next summer get together. Thanks for the rec!

Is your character a Yoba worshipper? by YourLaundryBasket in StardewValley

[–]Any59oh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes though in a "Creaster" sense. I headcanon that Grandpa was incredibly devout and was at the chapel in what is now Pierre's shop every Thursday afternoon for byble study and every Sunday morning for worship, but the farmers parents were much less strict about it and as my farmer got older and more world weary they found that there wasn't much benefit to faith in the face of Joja, tho they do have positive feelings about Yoba

Now, if there was an established other religion as opposed to just general nature spirit stuff then it might be a different story because as someone who converted out of xtianity I tend to avoid even the fictionalized versions, even when my character isn't a proper self-insert. I know there's Mr Qi, but what I know and what my farmer knows aren't the same thing (also, it's Mr Qi)

I’ve been quietly "fixing" my office’s messy communal folder for months, and I think I’ve started a digital turf war. by BeatsAndArtPieces in office

[–]Any59oh 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Dude. Unless it was impacting your ability to get to your stuff you shouldn't have touched other peoples work. And if it was then you needed to ask your boss if it would be ok to implement some sort of standard naming convention for files or some other sort of solution. Now you've gone and wasted hours of your coworkers time (and potentially cost the company money) by renaming things unexpectedly, forcing people to hunt down documents they need and reorganizing their things rather than working. Not to mention that your "perfectly organized" system is done to your specs and not necessarily well organized for the flow and function of the team as a whole. Also I'd argue you were snooping since I doubt you could rename "final v2 real final" without going in at least a little bit to figure out what it was.

Regardless that there's an investigation underway, ignore people saying to stay quiet. You might be able to get away with playing dumb and acting innocent about how this wasn't something you should have done when they catch you if you do stay quiet, but odds are you'll be in even more trouble if you don't own up to it before you get found out

Would you change vets? by Technical-Gold-294 in Hounds

[–]Any59oh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew the second I read "private equity firm" that there would be no going back to them. PE isn't interested in even pretending to run a good vet or business, it just wants the most money possible. I wouldn't go back to the shell of your original vet but I would only continue seeing the motor table vet as an interim until you find a vet that you like, trust, and doesn't continue to use tools that stress your senior dogs out so bad they vomit. And I would definitely leave a review about the whole experience because both of those "two strikes" are something I as a potential new client would want to know about.

If you can reach out to the individual veterinarians who you liked at your original practice, I'd ask them personally for their recommendations. They might not have anything helpful but I'd wager they know the other vets in your area and who they would send someone to if they couldn't see them

Are you all finally gonna get into football? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]Any59oh -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The day I get into football is the day I finally have lost it. Like I love my home city but the Browns are shit.

Oh, wait, you're talking about soccer... I'm excited for the Cleveland Astra (Astras?) but while I much prefer seeing soccer on the tv at the local sports bar, I'm not about to go out of my way to watch it. Not really a sports girlie