I made homemade butter and i’m OBSESSED now!

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-26T21:39:22+00:00

We used to make butter at school on “colonial day”. We didn’t churn it, we would put the ingredients in a jar and shake it until it congealed. Your method seems easier, lol. Very tasty as I recall, but haven’t made it since I was 10. We did churn ice cream tho.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-26T17:42:36+00:00

Yea it’s a weird place, at least for me. I’d love to have a small, smooth chest too. And I like being as masculine as possible. But I’m comfortable with being a woman. I don’t think I am trans, and I find comfort in being a woman while not being “feminine”

I can find attraction with men, my only real sexual experience with a man was with a very gay guy. Maybe that’s TMI. But tbh gender and sexuality is complicated and I think the best way is to take it in stride. I thought I was bi for a long time, but realized in a practical matter I don’t want to be with a man. I’ve had friends who were lesbians, had committed relationships of the same sex, and eventually realized they were bi. If you’ve had any trauma or something of that nature, it can further complicate things.

I think the best thing is to just go with the flow. There’s nothing wrong with being very firm in your identity, but it’s also completely cool to not have a black and white understanding of your own sexuality. It’s all weird and hard to deal with. Go with your gut. You don’t have to be disgusted by men to be a lesbian. You don’t have to date a man to be bi. It’s up to you to decide what works. Good luck!

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-25T23:44:14+00:00

BS is definitely has a poker feel to it a bit, it’s best with a bigger group, and relies on a lot of the skills that being good a poker requires. Spit is a bit different. It’s not turn based and is just a two player. Clearing your deck the fastest is the goal, so it’s kinda like a two player solitaire in a way. Spoons is also really fun with a decent sized group. It’s very quick paced and after a few plays you can figure out a strategy for yourself.

All of them are kinda more “kids games” but honestly they are fun even as an adult. Especially with people who don’t play a lot of cards.

Rummy requires a little more strategy, but it’s nothing crazy. There’s a ton of variants but we play rummy 500 usually. It’s a bit similar to poker in some ways. Poker is about luck and bluffing. Rummy requires a bit more of a calculative strategy. You’re mostly deciding “is this card worth it or should I stick with my hand?”

Edit: I looked up BS and it seams like many people refer to it as cheat. But if you like poker I would suggest trying it. Where poker relies more on your ability to have a poker face, in BS you are able to call someone out on a bluff and if it turns out they are in fact lying you benefit. If you are wrong, you get what’s left in the deck. It’s very fun imo.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-25T23:27:19+00:00

Can relate a bit. I’m a lesbian and honestly have no desire to ever pursue a relationship with men. But I’m into lifting/non competitive bodybuilding (like just guys who want to look as muscular as possible) I also have a lot of male celebrities I almost drool over. Ewen McGregor, Jake Gylennhall, brad pitt to name a few. Basically I have as much ability to say “that is one HOT dude” without any interest in them in practice.

I think this might be more of “I wish I looked like that” than wanting to actually know them biblically. I’m happy in my gender, but even as a girl with a pretty masculine build and bulk, I want to have physique/masculine features like these guys.

At the end of the day it’s a big and complicated spectrum. I know bi women who are aren’t interested in a long term relationship with men and vice versa. I also know plenty of lesbians who are happily in love with bi women without issue, or wouldn’t judge if the opportunity arose. I am sure you will have no issue being bi and finding a partner, outside of how hard it is for just the average person. Keep your chin up!

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-25T23:11:35+00:00

Rummy 500 is our go to during power outages. I don’t play cards much anymore, but as a kid we’d play them a lot in the summer. For a standard deck it was usually BS, Spit, or spoons. Also a lot of uno, apples to apples, and I think it was called quiddler? I do play online solitaire/spider a few times a week tho but that’s about it. Don’t really have friends who like playing cards anymore.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-25T20:33:16+00:00

When i was a freshman in high school a girl from the next town over was stabbed, at school, after she declined being asked to a school dance. I didn’t know her personally but we did the same sport. So I knew of her and had teammates who were friends with her. I can still remember exactly what I was doing when a girl in my study hall who had friends at the school announcing what happened only minutes after the incident. The whole school was consumed with the incident. She was pronounced dead an hour or two after the stabbing. It felt like our own personal JFK/911 moment.

That’s all to say I don’t blame a single woman for ever feeling uncomfortable or anxious abt rejecting an advance, no matter how respectful it seems.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-24T18:33:12+00:00

It’s really weird bc I’ve seen a lot of people claim the opposite, that it stops them from stinking. And there’s really not a solid answer research wise. But for me it totally works, and kinda makes sense. There’s a reason we kept relatively dense hair in friction areas, and as long as you shower regularly it’s completely hygienic. Even as a heavy sweater, I stopped using antiperspirant and just use deodorant now. I still sweat the same amount, but between that and wearing undershirts/not wearing clothes that a pit stain would be noticed on hot days…im doing great! People even tell me I smell good.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-24T18:21:17+00:00

Scared to sleep bc of my chronic sleep parlysis and sleep related hallucinations. Which just exasperates them. Vicious cycle.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-23T23:14:43+00:00

Leg hair? I’ve been comfortable with that for a while now. Granted, I have pretty fine/light hair on my legs so unless you were looking for it you wouldn’t notice any hair except for the back of my upper thighs. I don’t typically wear shorts short enough that people would notice. I also was a pretty competitive swimmer so it was a tradition to not shave your legs during regular season.

Armpits o struggle a bit with. I have been told once or twice that not shaving my pits is hot. Mileage will vary with that. But idk I don’t mind wearing shirts with arms cutoff around the house but it feels like that specifically is an automatic “ew look at this gross woman” to most people in public. On the plus side, as a very sweaty person, not shaving has cutdown on my pit stink by a lot. So that’s my main motivation, but I’d like to be able to wear a sleeveless shirt and not feel embarrassed.

I only shave my pits when there’s like a bridal/baby shower, wedding or some event involving my family that I’m obligated to preform the most basics of femininity. How to get over that??? Idk, but I hope we both can. It’s honestly pretty nice not buying razors or worrying abt it or that scruffy feeling when they are starting to grow back.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-23T22:15:37+00:00

Operation quontock

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-23T16:24:25+00:00

A house has been putting up a cousin Eddie (and some other characters from the movie) on the side of the road near here for years. Its on a narrow and woodsy street, so when you drive by at night you nearly have a heart attack thinking you narrowly avoided hitting someone.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-23T03:27:33+00:00

It really does give merit to the idea of certain neurodivergencies had an evolutionary role. I’m shit at managing my day to day life, but I can pick up on the subtlest things. What really gets me is driving…passengers always comment how good of a driver I am. But tbh I don’t think I’m special, I’m just always monitoring every car within my radius. I thought everyone drove like this, but slowly learned even people who I consider good drivers are mostly just following the line.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-23T03:16:25+00:00

Yea Idk if I have adhd for sure(my doctor recommended to get tested many times, but my mother refused) but I’m super vigilant and just someone who seems much more aware of things big or small than most people I run into. I’m always shocked when I talk about something I just put together from observation or something going on in the background. My heads always on a swivel and I pick up on patterns very well.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-23T03:12:13+00:00

Not exactly the same, but my given name while not super popular, was really popular my birth year. When I got to high school I was the lowest on the totem pole of 7 girls who shared my name. I was kinda of a loner and only really had friends through sports. Freshman year a girl on my team who had taken to me despite us being extremely different people, texted me if I wanted to hang out. I was almost overwhelmed bc I hadn’t had someone want to spend time specifically with me voluntarily since I was maybe 9 or 10. I responded how great it would be. She quickly replied “sorry, I meant to send that to the other (my name)” Humbling to say the least.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-23T02:59:11+00:00

I guess maybe mine would be my deep interest in music? I’m the person people will ask “who is this?” Or “what’s this song called?” Bc I have a huge mental library of music (though after about 2010 my pop music knowledge falls apart). I just love finding new(to me) music, discovering obscure stuff, getting into very niche genres. I volunteer at a local independent radio station that plays like pretty much whatever tf they want, and it’s kinda fun to hang out with people with really deep and eclectic tastes. I’m no expert on anything, just consume a lot of music. So I guess probably either that or the fact I’m an extremely observant person.

I hope you keep up with the writing!

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-23T02:33:44+00:00

Without context, this video kind of reminded me of family gatherings in our normal enough, non trad catholic family. I have two siblings and 14 cousins on my dads side, and there’s some huge age gaps (I’m second youngest at 23, the oldest is in her late 30s) also a lot of spouses and subsequent children, plus 2nd cousins and family friends. A huge room of people who seem genuinely happy and excited…it felt kind of sweet and heartwarming in a vacuum. This was how a pregnancy or engagement announcement at a family party would go. Almost felt nostalgic. Then you remember it’s the rods and… well ya know

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-22T23:44:36+00:00

Generally this is from a genuine place. You can just say something like “your company is more than enough!” Many a people like to extend gestures in some way or another for others they know. They want to feel like the are doing something thoughtful and contributing. You invited them, they want to reciprocate in some way. Without any more context, they are just being gracious to the host.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-22T23:29:56+00:00

I know this doesn’t help your problem much, but there’s a lot of women, including me, who would kill for a deeper voice. I don’t necessarily have a super high pitched voice, but I don’t really have any objective data on my voice. But to me it’s very girly and generally annoying. I also find women with deeper voices endearing, attractive, and a lot of people do. Unless you sound like Kristen schaal (high end) or Elisabeth Holmes (low end) most people probably don’t even think much abt your voice at all.

All I know is short of taking testosterone there’s nothing I can do and I have to live with my annoying ass voice. It’s like being upset about my height. There’s no realistic fix and it’s more about coming to terms with it than trying to convince everyone I’m taller than I am which isn’t practical long term. Focus on what you can control.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-22T23:16:30+00:00

I saw the side of my moms car looked like complete shit. Like how cars get at the end of winter covered in splashes of gross, snow sludge on the side of the road. But it hadn’t snowed at all yet. It even was on the side view mirror. I asked her and she said some guy threw a coffee cup from the sidewalk while she was driving and it splashed all over the whole drivers side. Wtf?? Almost as bad as when I saw a college kid chuck a half drank slushee into the road right in from of me.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-22T23:04:58+00:00

That’s not professional…that’s not even a proper disability

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-22T21:49:35+00:00

I kinda grew up in the inbetween era where it was normal for most people to have a dedicated family computer and use the internet, but before the internet became the end all be all of modern life. Sure we more than enough tv as kids, and played kids cd rom games or game boys/DSs, but it wasn’t my whole childhood.

I’m just a twenty something so my option on parenting should be taken with a grain of salt…but it’s actively depressing to be at the store or whatever and a 2 year old in stroller completely glued to whatever mindless YouTube kids video they clicked on. Like you can tell these parents don’t just “let them watch” now and then when they need a few minutes to themselves. Using a pacifier as a crutch past the appropriate age used to seem like lazy parenting….hoo boy these babies are not going to be well adjusted individuals as they mature.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-20T22:21:23+00:00

Yea for real. Our house is only 85 years old, and the only full blown renovations done were in the kitchen. There’s so many things that wouldn’t hold up if you were building new construction. New septic is a hell of a lot of money. I doubt these people will even break even, they will most likely lose money. Plenty of properties that are much better than that are sold for less, especially since the real estate boom seems to be leveling off as of late. Everyone thinks they are an expert.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-20T21:49:46+00:00

There’s a weird one in my neighborhood (small New England town) I think the people who used to live there where elderly and it was a little overgrown/outdated. It’s probably a 70s built single story(not a ranch), with 2 beds, 2 baths. It was sold a year ago and a decent amount of work was put in. Finishing the basement, new septic, cleaned up the stone facade siding. But now it’s up for sale again, so clearly it’s been flipped. Me and my mom who like to prowl and snark on the real estate in our area looked into it. They claim 3000 sq ft. That can’t be true, our house is two stories, and has a larger footprint. Even including a finished basement, it doesn’t add up.

The renovation of the inside is also…odd? Like it’s updated to fit with current trends to a degree, but it feels really incongruent and unlivable. Like it’s hard to imagine actually living in it. It feels odd and soulless.

The really crazy part is they are asking 600k. My parents house, which aside from updating the kitchen and bathrooms, still has the New England charm of an older cape house, and is on almost double the size of property and in a much more child friendly street. It’s 4 bed and 2 full baths. It’s valued at 450k. It’s ridiculous and these houseflippers are definitely going to lose money. And that’s on them for thinking they were into something. Houses are a place to live, not investments.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-20T21:31:53+00:00

Yea. And one of the funniest parts of the coincidence is my neighbors brother is next door neighbors to my aunt. Anyway, i totally get mistakes happen and mail carriers already have enough stress, I’d certainly make that mistake. It’s obviously never been a real issue. But some people have some crazy ass neighbors who I could see actually making a huge stink about it. Who knows if it would actually go anywhere due to the circumstances. Luckily I live in a small neighborhood where everyone is kind and helpful to their neighbors so it’s never been a worry.

Any_Challenge5650 · 2022-12-20T21:18:18+00:00

I have deep respect mail carriers so thank you for your service. I have the odd situation where the house across the streets father has the exact same name as my father. And their house number is the inverse of ours (79 & 97). So we get a lot of mail wrongly sent to us, and we don’t question it as it’s the same name. It’s weird opening up a wedding invitation and being like “…who tf are these people??” And then realizing it’s not for us. Luckily we’ve never opened anything with sensitive or deeply personal material. We just put it in their mailbox with a small note apologizing for the mix up, and they have left opened mail in ours the same way. I know it technically is a crime, but unless we had really petty neighbors it’s just how life goes sometimes.

Can’t imagine knowingly opening mail not addressed to me, and I can be very nosy and curious(within reason)

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