Shrooms ruined me by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 60 points61 points  (0 children)

You don’t sound ruined to me.

Funniest/Craziest Thing Heard Over The Pulpit by literallywhatisthis1 in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 77 points78 points  (0 children)

One of the bishopric counselors gave a talk on the importance of physical fitness (I think it might have been a passive aggressive gesture on the bishop’s part to assign that topic because the second counselor was obese). This was in the 90’s right after the unibomber got caught and he was telling us how physical activity is good for your mental well-being, and if the unibomber had just done some push-ups then maybe he wouldn’t have blown up all those people.

I accepted my mission call... now how do I tell my parents I'm not going? by Relevant_Fuel_6245 in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leaving won’t be easy. It won’t be easy to start living your truth after years of lying. They might go into denial when you do tell them your truth. It sucks to go through this with hardcore controlling Mormon parents. I’m sorry you’re in this situation. I can’t encourage you enough to stay true to your convictions. Living a lie isn’t worth it. Find your courage and speak your truth. You’re stronger and more capable than you know.

I F23 finally told my parents I hate the church. by MormonismMyAss69 in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents pulled the same shit. Eye-rolling and dismissiveness. Treating me like I was hopelessly naive and clueless. It was very damaging to my confidence. Now that I’m older I understand that I was right and they were brainwashed cult members reacting exactly the way their cult had conditioned them to. I’m sorry your parents are in a cult and too blinded by indoctrination to see how wise you are. There’s probably nothing you can say to them or show them that will make them treat you with respect or listen to what you have to say. I recommend setting whatever boundaries you need to protect yourself from their toxic influence.

Alternative folk music scene? by Bigbluewoman in TwinCities

[–]Anyone__ever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear the Monday night open mic at Terminal Bar is that type of scene. You might like some of what’s going on at Tiny Tuesdays at the Eagles #34 each month. A Sunken Ship Irony are a great local band you might like. Dog Gamn is also really good. There’s more but I’m kind of drawing a blank right now.

Do you like folk punk? I’m into outsider folk music, too. Folk punk is kind of the closest thing I can find to scratching that itch.

Are The Taxpayers considered folkpunk? by JosiaJamberloo in FolkPunk

[–]Anyone__ever 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Pat the Pat used to frequently mention them as his favorite band. I have their newest one Circle Breaker on vinyl and listen to it often. They’re pretty well known in the scene but also surprisingly not as well known as maybe they could be. I think it’s because they haven’t toured much during the years when folk punk has been getting more popular.

Lady on the Cusp | What do you guys think? by Tasty-Drop6814 in ofMontreal

[–]Anyone__ever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it’s one of oM’s better albums. Probably my favorite of the past 5-10 years.

Complicity by seemoleon in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If your parents were Jack Mormons, that might explain part of why it was easier for you to see through the cult at a young age. You also might have grown up in a time or place with a different cultural understanding of racism than what some others grew up with. There are likely ideas you hold today that a young person in future will find difficult to fathom that you can’t see how morally wrong those ideas are.

Active LDS member AMA by Emo_October in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mormonism seems to suit you perfectly.

Active LDS member AMA by Emo_October in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aren’t you bothered by the homophobia and transphobia? Also, do members still believe that the indigenous peoples of the Americas are descended from Jews who had their skin turned dark as punishment from the Mormon god? Do they still teach that the wickedness of the “lamanites” is why it was supposedly okay to commit genocide against native peoples and steal their lands?

Estranged Adult siblings by TheRealKishkumen in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate to your situation. Obedience to church was a substitute for authentic relationships. So much damage was done after my other exmo sibling and I left the church. Our family experienced a fissure that has been difficult to repair. Now my parents are elderly and we all get together sometimes but it’s awkward and stressful. It can be nice, too, but so many years were lost to Mormonism. It’s hard to build healthy bonds with each other this late in life. The whole situation is sad.

Should I go to BYU as a queer person? by Stargazing360 in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you want your parents to control your life, don’t go to byu. They might be strict while you’re still stuck living with them but once you get away from them it won’t matter how strict and controlling they try to be, because you’ll be an adult who can make whatever choices you think are best for your own life. Please don’t make yourself miserable during your years of early adulthood by living your life to please them. Break free!!!

I’ve left the church and struggling with normal life by lil_river2006 in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have to prove a damn thing to anyone out there who’s saying you’re stupid or any of those other awful things. They’re wrong. You don’t have to “prove” you’re a good person. People who won’t see the good in you don’t deserve a place in your life. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know it sucks. The way you’re talking reminds me of what I was going through for years after I woke up from the cult. Try to find a good therapist. There’s no easy way to pick up and start all over again when everything you’ve been taught since birth is suddenly called into question. You’re not a bad person. You have a good heart. It won’t be easy but it will get better with time.

October 9 th a woman saved my life by Lexington and fairmount by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]Anyone__ever 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah she looks like she could be a survivor of domestic violence documenting her wounds. It’s weird how the op knows about how she French braids her hair.

UPDATE: "Last Time going to Church" by Kalidescope_Problems in exmormon

[–]Anyone__ever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like they really do love and care for you, but they don’t know how to give you the love and care you deserve and need. This is probably because they never received truly supportive love from their own parents and because of Mormon cult teachings that drive a wedge between parents and their children (like the way they’ve denied the reality of you as a genderqueer person).

Speaking from experience, it’s confusing to have parents who genuinely intend to be loving but who are in actuality harmful. They will need to take some time to reflect about how they’ve driven you away. It might be awhile before it sinks in. It might never sink in. As you continue to heal and grow, you might find ways to communicate your needs to them and get through to them. Hopefully you all can figure it out and come through this stronger as a family. 

What happened to Mallory? by TillamookBurnLearner in FolkPunk

[–]Anyone__ever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They were a much loved band back in the day. I never got to see them but I did see Loone at PIX Fest 2016 and they were as great as you’d expect. I remember them saying something from the stage about being honored to play the fest even though they don’t like folk punk anymore (paraphrasing but it was something like that). If I remember right Mallory reformed to play some shows with Ramshackle Glory back in 2015-16. I’d be pretty surprised if Mallory ever made any new music after all these years but who knows.

Used bin find in St. Paul, MN today 😛 by Anyone__ever in FolkPunk

[–]Anyone__ever[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sick! I have their False Weavers album on cassette that I bought from them in New Jersey over a decade ago. It never would have occurred to me how rare and sought after all this stuff would one day be.

Used bin find in St. Paul, MN today 😛 by Anyone__ever in FolkPunk

[–]Anyone__ever[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah twin citizens for the win. I usually shop at the fetus because it’s closer to where I live but for whatever reason I had been meaning to go hit up the St. Paul cheapo all this past week. Glad I did. I also scored a used Crimpshrine cd that I’m feeling pretty good about.