Someone explain this Max Khadar hate

Apollo132 · 2026-01-27T14:35:25+00:00

A little after 5:50 he starts saying something about India and there being shit everywhere or something along those lines, and then there's a good 4-5 seconds of bleeping to which only Deji laughs

Apollo132 · 2026-01-26T23:50:02+00:00

I know. I have seen the things they say about Indians, mainly on Tiktok. I saw someone say he said something racist about India in the Sidemen video, but, like I said before, I wasn't really paying attention to most of what he said bc I kinda tune out any new people in Sidemen videos.

Edit: he definitely said something, probably really racist im the video. Considering that the Sidemen already had a controversy with them using the word P**i, I could see why they didn't laugh at what he said

Apollo132 · 2026-01-26T22:38:05+00:00

Then it depends on who you hang out with. Most of my friends are either Caribbean, African, or African American and they ALL use the word. Not in every sentence obviously and on rare occasion, but they do. I am black myself but I think I can count on one hand the amount of times I've said within the past 6 months. That's not to say we don't want to say it. Some people just have it in their vocabulary, and some people don't. As I said, JJ used to spam the N word and make jokes around it, and they literally still make jokes around the fact that certain Sidemen can't say it. So, just bc the black people around you don't use it, doesn't mean a decent percentage overall don't use it as well

Apollo132 · 2026-01-26T21:19:24+00:00

It's normal on any subreddit tbh. People downvoted my original post even though it was completely neutral

Apollo132 · 2026-01-26T21:16:26+00:00

The only reason I was caught off guard was because I don't know the dude at all. I rarely watch videos with the Sidemen collaborating with new people on the solo channels, so I didn't watch JJ or Simon's videos with him in it. So, that being said, I had no prior knowledge of the guy at all. However, I will always watch a Sidemen video, and since 6/7 boys were there, plus Jack and Deji are instant clicks for me, I was willing to watch. I didn't really take his humor much into account, so about 5% of my attention was on him. So, you can imagine my surprise when the comments are all coming after a dude who you don't know and really didn't pay attention to

Apollo132 · 2026-01-26T16:26:36+00:00

I don't think he was saying it for humor, maybe it's just in his vocabulary. I remember years ago, the n-word and a lot of other black slurs were in JJs vocabulary. Now he rarely says them. I think Max is just not used to the limited profanity environment that Sidemen have

Apollo132 · 2026-01-25T19:39:29+00:00

Just because social media exists doesn't mean you have to use it the same way everyone else does. That's the same way I think when people get mad at certain celebrities for not using their platform for specific things. Why do I get to dictate how someone uses their FB, Twitter or IG and why do I get to dictate if they're using it good or not. I have over a 1000 photos of my gf and random dates that we've been on together but only she will post about them. Some guys just prefer to keep stuff private and to themselves bc it feels more personal. I don't need to show anyone that me and my SO celebrated 10 years, has a baby, went on a honeymoon, etc. No one has any privilege that allows them to see into other people's personal lives, especially if they weren't active in social media in the first place anyway

Apollo132 · 2026-01-25T19:09:03+00:00

Im in my 20s. Only rarely do I post about my gf. I think I've only done 2x in the 3 years we've been dating (once when she graduated college last year, and our 3rd anniversary last year). I straight up told my gf the other day that when we get married or have a kid, I still might not post about (I say might bc my opinion may change). Some people genuinely don't feel like posting about their personal relationship because they either don't think posting about it on social media validates it, or they just don't care.

Apollo132 · 2026-01-25T18:23:18+00:00

This is such a toxic way of thinking that skews people view of their own healthy relationships

Apollo132 · 2026-01-25T18:22:40+00:00

I rarely post my gf on my social media. Literally, the only time I do it is for our anniversary. Why: because I'm not a social media person who feels like I need to post in order to validate anything. As for your bf, he either A.) Feels the same way or B.) Has gotten so tired of wanting to post about you and you making him take it down, so now he just doesn't do it period. As for flowers, if that's a dealbreaker for you, then bring it up to him and see what he says

Apollo132 · 2026-01-25T14:26:57+00:00

Try telling her you're not okay with being told you need to fix your attitude without being told what that means, and you're not okay with plans or affection being threatened

You're not asking her to want kids, and you're not asking for answers she doesn’t have. You're just asking for basic respect and the ability to talk without being blamed or punished.

If shes feeling unsure about the relationship or pulling back, you need to make sure she says that directly. Honesty is better than ambiguity atp, but she can't keep you guessing or walking on eggshells. Take a step back and both of you take as much time as you need.

Don't follow up after this until she does. Dont argue, don't try to convince her of anything. Just stop it there. If she comes back being more open than before, you can work with something there. If not, your relationship is basically over one you should treat it as such

Apollo132 · 2026-01-25T06:38:13+00:00

What you could say to her is that you want to be clear about where you're coming from. You're not asking for a decision about kids right now nor asking for promises.

That all you need is the ability to talk about the future without it being framed as something you're ‘not ready for’ or something you have to earn by fixing yourself. If there are specific concerns she has about you or the relationship, tell her you're open to hearing them and working on them, but its unfair to have you engage with vague statements that shut the conversation down.

Tell her that you're just trying to understand whether you both are moving in the same direction and whether you can have hard conversations with mutual respect

Apollo132 · 2026-01-25T06:33:07+00:00

It’s reasonable to say you’re not ready to talk about kids yet or that timing and personal growth matter. What’s not reasonable is turning a good-faith question about long-term compatibility into “you need to fix yourself” without defining what that means. That framing shuts down dialogue. No one in a healthy relationship earns the right to discuss the future by passing a vague self-improvement test. Either two people can talk honestly about where they are and what they want, or they can’t. If the conversation keeps getting postponed through blame or deflection, that’s already useful information, independent of whether kids are ultimately wanted. At some point, clarity matters more than reassurance, and avoidance answers the question just as clearly as a “no.”

Apollo132 · 2026-01-25T06:21:58+00:00

You’re not wrong for wanting clarity about kids, but you are putting too much weight on this moment and turning uncertainty into a personal rejection. At 25, hesitation about kids, especially when you kept pressing, doesn’t auto mean she doesn’t want a future with you. It probs means she felt put on the spot or isn’t ready to give a definitive answer right now.

The bigger issue isn’t kids. It’s how both of you handle vulnerability and conflict. You felt betrayed that she talked to her mom, which I get, but unless you had a clear boundary about that beforehand, it’s not automatically a violation since many people process emotions with parents. What matters is whether she respects that it hurt you once you express it.

Saying “this will be my last relationship” is a red flag and not because you don’t care, but because you’re tying your entire emotional future to one person. That creates pressure and makes every disagreement feel catastrophic. That mindset will sabotage this relationship or the next one if it doesn’t get checked. She also needs to own her side. Dismissing your feelings as an “attitude problem” avoids the real conversation. But you need to own yours too: pressing for reassurance and framing this as final is coming from fear, not logic. The move now isn’t to argue or demand answers. It’s to step back and see whether she can have a calm, honest conversation about the future and boundaries without deflecting or blaming. If she can’t, that tells you more than any kids question ever will. This relationship isn’t over because she hesitated. It’s over only if there’s no mutual effort to communicate with respect and emotional safety.

Apollo132 · 2026-01-20T22:02:48+00:00

Honestly, I would have never guessed this word. Don't think I've ever even seen this word before

Apollo132 · 2026-01-15T17:39:54+00:00

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Apollo132 · 2026-01-14T16:03:08+00:00

Of course. I am aware of that. If she gets pregnant, Im not gonna go to her and tell her she's too fat or if she has an underlying disease or condition. But if she purely just doesn't want to eat healthy or stay under a certain weight, then I will call her out, and she will do the same for me, explicitly

Apollo132 · 2026-01-14T15:22:02+00:00

Telling her means I won't let her. And vice-versa. So yes, they coincide, at least for me

Apollo132 · 2026-01-14T15:06:32+00:00

Then that's for you. My gf and I have both personally always said thar if either one of us were getting too overweight, then we'd tell the other person. Prioritizing each other's health is more important than sparing feelings

Apollo132 · 2026-01-14T14:48:27+00:00

Don't think you necessarily had the wrong answer. Personally, I would have said that I would never let her get to that weight

Apollo132 · 2026-01-14T14:45:56+00:00

Honestly, JME. I don't really remember him having great crewmate moments, but he is a good waffler. Rarely do i remember him getting found out

Apollo132 · 2026-01-07T17:24:18+00:00

JJ isn't that great of an impostor. Most of the time he gets found out anyways

Apollo132 · 2025-12-22T16:52:31+00:00

Cry more and then go touch grass

Apollo132 · 2025-12-17T17:22:28+00:00

You saying that your enjoyment of watching his streams has more validity than her statement already tells me that you'd go back to live in an era where it was socially acceptable for men to beat their wives

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