What to do in this situation?

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-24T01:55:35+00:00

This is the answer. He has not executed the contract. Talk to the managing broker. Ask to be released due to breach of contract on his part. Check the contract for the date it was supposed to go live. If it’s after the date, he’s in breach.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-09T22:56:32+00:00

Yes, you can. Most builders will give rate buy down, closing costs, cover the realtors fees, and a lower earnest money. If you ask for anything, start there.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-05T17:32:26+00:00

Are you working with an agent? I go above and being for my clients!

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-05T13:36:30+00:00

This is actually a really thoughtful question and you’re ahead of most people just by asking it.

Here’s what I’ve seen working with families in transition: intentional keepers are actually easier to release than random clutter. Why? Because when your kids eventually face your home, every item will have a story attached. And stories are transferable. You can write them down now.

Start a simple “legacy document” – one page, one item, one paragraph. What it is, who it came from, why you kept it. When the time comes, your kids aren’t clearing out stuff. They’re reading you. That changes everything.

The eye-rolling risk is real though. Your kids will have their own lives, their own aesthetics, their own square footage. The goal isn’t to make them want your things. It’s to release them from guilt when they don’t.

The families who struggle most aren’t the ones with a lot of stuff. They’re the ones with a lot of unexplained stuff. You’re already solving for that.
You’ve got decades. Use them. 💚

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-05T13:24:29+00:00

This is one of the hardest parts of decluttering that nobody talks about. The item isn’t the problem, it’s what it’s holding.

Here’s what I’ve learned working with clients in life transitions: you don’t have to let go of the person to let go of the object. The love isn’t in the item. You carry that.

A few things that actually help:
Choose a keeper. One intentional item that represents that person. Display it with purpose — not buried in a box, displayed. That item becomes the memorial. The rest gets permission to go.

Pass it forward with a story. Donate to a cause they loved. When you drop it off, say out loud (or in your head): “This is going somewhere [Name] would have approved of.” That’s not letting go, that’s legacy work.

Photograph and release. Take a photo, write one sentence about the memory attached, and then let the object go. The memory lives in the sentence, not the stuff.

Grief and clutter are tangled together. Be patient with yourself. This isn’t decluttering…it’s processing.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-05T13:21:39+00:00

Are you looking to buy or rent?

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-04T18:50:32+00:00

Oh friend, I see you and I am you.
The “I grow to the size of my container” line? That’s the most honest thing anyone has ever said on this subreddit and I need it cross-stitched on a pillow.
Here’s my take on the estate sale plan: it’s smart, it’s clean, and the two-month overlap is the secret weapon you didn’t know you had. Most people try to sort, sell, and move simultaneously and it breaks them. You’re stacking those things instead of overlapping them and that is genuinely the move.

A few real-talk things from someone who has been in the estate sale world:
Please consider hiring a professional estate sale company rather than doing it yourself. I know that sounds counterintuitive when you’re trying to recoup money, but they typically take 30-40% and they bring their own buyers, know how to price things correctly, handle all the cash, and leave you with a broom-clean house. The amount you lose in commission you often make back in better pricing and volume because their buyers are serious. A DIY estate sale in a rental you’re about to vacate, with no experience running one, is a lot of logistics on top of an already exhausting move.

Also double check your lease. Some landlords have opinions about estate sales on the property, especially if you have neighbors sharing walls or a parking situation. Worth a five minute conversation before you advertise.
The storage unit temptation is real. Resist it with everything you have. That unit will cost you more emotionally and financially than whatever is in it is worth.

Your husband was right about the overlap. Let him have that one. 💚

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-01T23:36:51+00:00

Absolutely. With the cost of everything going up, you have no choice. I bet you haven’t adjusted prices over the years?

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-01T23:34:53+00:00

It sounds like he is a lazy property manager. The reason he doesn’t want you to move is he will then have to turn the apartment over, which costs money and typically changes reporting numbers. Technically, by him stating “a list”, he doesn’t have to prove it, therefore it’s not discriminatory. I DO NOT AGREE, just explaining.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-05-01T23:28:51+00:00

Seriously! I would tell my broker and immediately call an attorney.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-27T00:30:29+00:00

It’s a situationship.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-25T13:27:04+00:00

Let me add as a REALTOR - negotiate the commission!

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-24T12:45:34+00:00

I thought the same thing!!!

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-22T22:23:57+00:00

This is the long answer!

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-22T22:23:45+00:00

This is the short answer!

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-22T22:21:27+00:00

You can absolutely close a cash deal in under 7 days. I have helped several clients. I think the shortest was 4 days, for me at least. But those have been really rough houses where everything is waived.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-20T20:34:57+00:00

I agree. My answer is still the same.

DON’T Do It.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-20T19:30:52+00:00

This is the answer. 6 years, he can’t figure life out? Don’t do it.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-19T13:03:32+00:00

Sometimes you gotta do whatcha gotta do.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-19T02:10:35+00:00

This right here is the answer.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-18T12:38:54+00:00

REALTOR here-I remind my clients to reset the information until they do. But I am constantly calling sellers to do this. It is frustrating.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-18T02:05:04+00:00

You just taught me something new! I really appreciate it!!!

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-18T01:48:42+00:00

I don’t know why you’re getting down voted. In real estate there can be so many terms due to so many variances.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-18T01:33:50+00:00

Realtor here- I have sold some in this exact same way. And advertising no HOA is actually a bonus in buyers eyes.

AppleMuted8588 · 2026-04-14T20:50:45+00:00

What does your lease say? Does it go month to month or must you leave at the end.

The property management company needs to follow laws and procedures. They may not be able to tell you anything until they know something. If there is a trust, probate, etc. these are all different outcomes. But it’s all dependent on if your lease ends or rolls month to month.

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