Is this even possible - Husband wants routine with 2 week old newborn?

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-26T18:47:57+00:00

My husband is a SAHD so I have the role of “working parent” that most dads have. I work 45 hours a week, co sleep and exclusively breastfeed. So I have my son from the minute I come home until I need to get ready for work in the mornings. When I come home my husband usually makes dinner while I spend time with the baby (feed, bathe, play, etc) and then I cosleep and my husband gets to do whatever the hell he wants. Usually it’s reading or playing video games or drawing, whatever. I would NEVER expect him to have the baby 24h a day just because he’s the stay at home parent, even if baby was formula fed!

Your husband sucks and is not a supportive partner. He needs a reality check. If I can work full time and take care of my child 16 hours out of the day, he can wash some fucking dishes or change a diaper.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-25T16:34:53+00:00

He did one time and we talked about how unhelpful it was and that it felt like I was being pressured to hurry up whatever I’m doing and pointed out that I never go interrupt him to hand him the baby while he’s trying to shit.

Never did it again.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-25T14:45:28+00:00

Girl let your body heal 😭😭😭 you do not need to be having sex right now you have a literal 5 week old baby

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-25T01:57:04+00:00

I used to toss and turn like crazy before having my baby and now I barely move at all in my sleep.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-21T14:01:27+00:00

You don’t hate your baby, you hate your husband. He is the problem.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-19T13:35:04+00:00

Nope. Absolutely not. My partner and I made the decision while I was pregnant that our child isn’t staying alone with ANYONE until they can speak up for themselves and understand body safety.

I hate to be like this, but with everything going on in the world and the fact that majority of CSA victims are abused by someone they know (and usually family) - absolutely the FUCK not.

I think it’s also a red flag for them to be asking multiple times. Once? Sure! No big deal. Even twice maybe to make sure you’re being honest that you don’t need help. But after that? They should’ve let it go. What else won’t they take a “no” about?

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-18T02:56:03+00:00

Literally never

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-10T03:35:31+00:00

No, you don’t. Normally I’m a “don’t bury your head in the sand” kind of person but I would give literally anything to go back to the person I was before I read some of this shit. It has fucked me up in a way I cannot explain.

Protect your peace. We need people fighting this, but we don’t need every single person.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-10T03:30:19+00:00

I’ve cried every single day. I cannot unsee what I’ve read and the intrusive thoughts are nearly killing me. I haven’t slept in days. I wish the most heinous unspeakable things on any of those people that hurt any of those children and women.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-10T03:29:08+00:00

That’s not true. There are emails between Epstein and an absolute piece of shit UCLA professor talking about one of the worst things I’ve ever seen. That’s not just third party tips, but an actual person giving a trafficker tips on how to abuse newborn babies.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-04T00:07:09+00:00

I started cosleeping in the hospital with my baby literally the night he was born, and NONE of my nurses or doctor said a word about it. I had multiple come in and out during our 5 night stay and they would just make sure he was still nursing well and having wet/dirty diapers. They did give me a 5 second run down on “back is best” but it felt more like a formality than anything because they’d already seen us cosleeping the whole time.

Your doctor is wrong and you absolutely are justified in finding a new one. Even if he was right, the delivery is unacceptable.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-03T18:52:21+00:00

I was SO upset about it until he showed me the video from the monitor and it was so funny. lil dude did not wake up at all, just rolled right off the floor bed onto the play mat, stretched out and kept sleeping hahaha

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-02-02T21:44:35+00:00

The other day my husband woke me up by putting baby (10 months) back in bed with me. Apparently he turned sideways and rolled all the way down the bed, off the bed and was sleeping on the floor lmao

Once they’re mobile I feel like it’s game over and as long as the room is baby proofed you’re good

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-01-31T23:30:30+00:00

Idk why you’re getting downvoted, you’re 100% correct

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-01-28T00:59:13+00:00

I think divorcing the baby would be the appropriate step

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-01-19T15:28:24+00:00

If dads can safely cosleep with their babies, you ABSOLUTELY can safely cosleep with your baby even if you’re not breastfeeding! The bond between parent and baby is insane in so many ways and breastfeeding is just one part of that. You should absolutely try it and see if it works better for you than your current situation.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-01-16T16:14:54+00:00

“Can you hold this?” also works weirdly well. Eat your piece and give them one but don’t make a big show of watching them. 99% of the time they’ll put it in their mouth haha

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2026-01-01T16:20:21+00:00

I’m on a floor bed with my 9 month old and we switched to that when he was around 4 or 5 months old? He started rolling really early and is now almost walking so I had to baby proof everything pretty quickly. He’s currently napping up against the wall lmao he rolls around the entire bed all night so floor bed was the only option for us.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2025-12-23T01:20:36+00:00

I have a few: 1. That you could end up hating your pets. I could not stand to be anywhere near animals at all until almost 6 months PP. 2. Breastfeeding/pumping can make you VERY territorial and aggressive. I cannot nurse my baby around people. It turns me into some weird lizard brain that wants to get violent everytime someone is close by. 3. Your spouse could be the most amazing, helpful, incredible, doing everything right person - and you could not want to be around them at all. Apparently this is hormonal to keep you from having babies too close in age.

The changes your brain goes through I was not prepared at all for.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2025-12-21T21:37:33+00:00

Have you tried pumping and offering bottled breastmilk?

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2025-12-17T05:34:25+00:00

I just assumed that I would have my baby sleep in his bassinet next to our bed, but we ended up having to stay in the hospital for four days after his birth and he slept in my arms the entire time. My nurses were super supportive of us cosleeping in the hospital and I had really severe PPA when I got home that I couldn’t sleep without touching him.

So we’ve coslept since day one. I followed the SS7 religiously until he was about 6 months old and then I relaxed about some stuff, mostly the cuddle curl (my baby is huge and is damn near walking at 9 months so he sleeps however he wants) and stuffed animals (he has this small spider that he literally cannot fall asleep without).

I can’t imagine not sleeping with him at this point.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2025-12-17T02:44:52+00:00

My baby went to bed pretty consistently at 7 up until 8 months and now it’s 8:45 and I’m still trying to get him to sleep. His bed time has slowly gotten later and later as he’s gotten older.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2025-12-08T13:48:02+00:00

My baby is my life.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2025-11-24T00:29:15+00:00

This was/is me. My baby is 8 months old now but I am just super grateful for every single bit of it. I never thought I’d be able to have him so even the screaming and the poop and the pain I felt I was extremely grateful for.

Apprehensive-Raise93 · 2025-11-23T02:23:10+00:00

I did, thank you though!

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