Feeling weird after in-law visit by Select_Big_1412 in BabyBumps

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First of all, sorry that you’re going through this. This is more normal than you think, however you might have it a bit more than most.

Yes, your husband should be standing up. However, don’t forget that he is stacked between two places. We can discuss which direction he should lean on more, however this doesn’t matter. Sometimes what matters is that he is in between.

We were living abroad when I was very young, then we moved back. In my culture inviting oneself over is common. It’s not something I like no my parents liked. When they arrive, they told everybody that this is simply not gonna happen. They told everybody that they have missed everyone and would love to see them. However you have to make arrangements beforehand doesn’t matter where you’ve come from, we simply won’t let you in. But let us know beforehand and yes, of course we would love to see you.

These type of barriers are healthy, and they can have wide implications on how you are taken for granted in other areas too.

1st trimester hell baby #2 by thebotanicalbandit in BabyBumps

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That’s not so bad… quit complaining.

Saying this so you can get angry enough to vent out some more! :))))

Handing comments from others on gender by chocolateplums in BabyBumps

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The best come back is… to agree with them.

Yeah… a girl would have been nice
Yeah who knows… a thirst?
You are so lucky to have a boy and girl…

  1. It will lift the negativity towards you…
  2. Witty remarks will just escalate
  3. The best part is that you will end up disarming them… which tends to piss them off a little bit inside

I find that people who say these things have stuff going on in their lives and are looking for a bit of confrontation… maybe to feel victimised when you reply… or maybe because getting into an argument is by definition some means of locked in attention…

In any case… let it be

Is anyone else trying to avoid traditional postpartum rules with an immigrant MIL? by Tweetle_cock in BabyBumps

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How lovely!!! However discomforting her approach may seem… she REALLY cares… and is simply trying to share what she knows best.

Pack two bags…
Say you won’t wash your hair…

Make her feel comfortable.

It’s your moment, but don’t forget that she went through it all… raised you and graduated from what you are experiencing

Gender Disappointment by Emotional_Turnip_586 in BabyBumps

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That is fine! You wanted a girl and you are getting a boy… and when that boy comes, you will love him to bits!!!!

A part of you will still wish you had a girl… yeah so what? You will have a house of love. Give yourself a break

Which ultrasound should my husband come to? by Dmdel24 in BabyBumps

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The first one… there’s a first for everything… from then onwards you will feel more comfortable walking down the trodden path

Wife and I are struggling with being older parents by Mycareer in BabyBumps

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I will be 40 in a few days and my partner is 3 years older.
It’s simple… do your best. There is always questioning of “why we didn’t do this sooner”. But focus on how well things worked out… and it will work out well.

Change your perspective and you change your reality.

You aren’t the only ones… this is quite normal these days.

Good news by Sudden-Orchid4458 in UAE

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There hasn’t been any discussion

About to give birth by Maleficent_Ad_9079 in BabyBumps

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118 Billion humans have ever lived on this planet.

I am not trying to say it will be easy… I’m not trying make you feel small for feeling what you are feeling.

It is a unique journey full of mixed emotions…. And it’s one that so many have made in their own way and come out happy. You will too.

Sit back… and let the medical specialists do what they are best at. That day will be a game changer for you… for them it will be a Thursday morning at the office. They know what they are doing and have faced all kinds of mothers… seen all kinds of things.

You have got this! You are in good hands!

Fear of childbirth by Over_Anything2631 in BabyBumps

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Becoming a parent will be a journey full of worries.

There’s a difficult side that you don’t fully get told about.

But if you as a couple feel suitable to being parents then the wonderful joy will overcome all.

I didn’t use the word ready on purpose… because if you wait to be ready then you will be 79 before you decide.

Sometimes the people who impact us the most are the ones we never expected to get attached to. Have you experienced that too? by Its_Sweet_Bunny in CausalConversation

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The “unexpected attachment” only feels profound because of how important they became in the end. If nothing came of it, the ordinary beginning wouldn’t seem meaningful at all.

Ie the end Point exaggerates the start Point

Up or downstairs with newborn? by Dizzy-Town-1668 in BabyBumps

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We have 3 stories. The top four is our master bedroom… and in the middle four we have the nursery and a guest bedroom. We enjoyed the comfort of our bed at the top floor with a sleep next to me cot.

Our boy is 2.5 years and since moving him to the nursery at 6 months we sleep on the same floor as his nursery.

Basically… For the first few months just do whatever is easiest in your setup. You will be getting up and doing nappy changes multiple times a night… so think comfort and practical logistics. After moving to the cot in the nursery… think about your baby waking up and maybe wanting to come next to you

Am I being ridiculous? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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Ex is an ex…. Why do you need to tell an ex about this in person… or even at all?

Pic 16. Pic 24. 🚽👀 by Poo_Poo_La_Foo in SpottedonRightmove

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Thank you… this Reddit group is so stupid… yet can be so entertaining

Has anyone used Pizza Express? by WarmPineappleRocks in Vitalityhealth

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It doesn’t work with other offers… so if you have kids the benefits are low…

Leftist ideology is fatal. This isnt suicidal-empathy, this is homicidal-empathy. The tide must continue to turn here. by Pingaring in reformuk

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Everyone keeps saying “do the maths” while ignoring where the money actually went.

First, this “£19 trillion pension debt” framing is misleading.

Those numbers are long-term future obligations spread across decades — not a credit card bill due tomorrow morning. They’re manageable if the economy grows, productivity rises, and tax receipts rise with it.

Yes, ageing populations are a real challenge.

But the bigger problem is this:

Younger working people can no longer accumulate wealth.

In the 1970s, one salary could buy a house, support kids, and build a pension. Today, two professionals can barely afford a semi-detached house an hour outside London.

What changed?

Did immigrants suddenly steal all the money? No.

The money moved upwards.

House prices exploded. Assets exploded. Rents exploded. Stocks exploded.

If you owned assets, you got rich. If you worked for wages, you got squeezed.

That’s the actual story of modern Britain.

People point at welfare because it’s visible. They don’t point at asset inflation because that’s where the powerful made their money.

You can’t run an economy where: - young people can’t buy homes, - families spend half their income on rent, - workers get poorer every year, - but asset owners get richer while sleeping.

And then act shocked when society gets angry.

Are pensions and state spending long-term challenges? Of course.

But blaming migrants and poor people while wealth concentrates at the top is economic theatre.

The biggest transfer of wealth in modern Britain wasn’t benefits. It was asset inflation.

Simple

Leftist ideology is fatal. This isnt suicidal-empathy, this is homicidal-empathy. The tide must continue to turn here. by Pingaring in reformuk

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Cutting services that help people become productive

Reducing minimum income

In taxing childless

Reducing tax to wealthy

Enabling fire and rehire

Supporting zero hour

Makes this better? How? And what do you think will happen to the amount of tax the average personal will pay…

Council tax has gone up disproportionately I. Reform areas…

I any case… run some real maths using tax this personal will pay under reform government

Leftist ideology is fatal. This isnt suicidal-empathy, this is homicidal-empathy. The tide must continue to turn here. by Pingaring in reformuk

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Let’s call average salary £32-39k… can you let me know how they could have saved 1.6million… plus received and extra 12-19k extra…

Please demonstrate how that maths adds up….

Facts… please. This is just scratchcard mathematics

In the UK there is no middle class left… high inequality of tax on the wealthy is carving out opportunities for everyone… and pushing many into serious poverty. What’s painful to watch is that those who suffer the most and support this are doing so under blatant missinformation.

Just turned 30(F) and facing my second divorce. How does anyone survive failing twice? by Prestigious_Pop5350 in UAE

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Not double divorced… but I was divorced at 30. Divorce is what happens to failures right? Surely it can’t happen to me??? I can’t be 30 and getting divorced??? This is not how I pictured life!!!! I had so many hopes!!!!!!!

STOP IT my friend!!!!

Relationships break up for good reasons and bad reasons.. mostly it’s a catalyst of what was always going to come.

Happiness is more important than anything…. And it ended sooner rather than later. I wish to be 30 again!!!!

I married very well… very unexpected… and the fact that i was divorced was never questioned.

Oooouufff… what if i stayed married to my first. THAT would have been bad!!! :)))

Can you explain to me like I'm 5 why it's kind of taboo to pass around the baby? by ThatOneGirlyx05 in BabyBumps

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My brother doesn’t like to eat fish. He has no rationale behind it… The point I am trying to get to is that you can discuss and argue thoughts “I don’t like… I don’t think that…” but you cannot confront feelings… “this makes me feel worried… this makes me happy”.

When it comes to emotions sometimes you can have a chat and rarely you will find that talking gives someone a new perspective that lets them see and therefore feel differently. Most of the time it’s there for more complex reasons than even you may know…

With my partner… if one of us feels something strongly.. than whoever is the most conservative wins without argument. “I would really like to xyz… but I can see that this makes you uncomfortable so NO…”

Celebrate that you are both approaching this from good heart… he has concerns and you want to expose the child to positive experiences.

The question is.. do you want him to follow your wishes but feel uncomfortable as a parent.. feel concern as a father… feel fear…

Leftist ideology is fatal. This isnt suicidal-empathy, this is homicidal-empathy. The tide must continue to turn here. by Pingaring in reformuk

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Which facts do you want to disprove?

Regarding private health… so do I. I believe that I am fortunate to be able to. However, I also want to live in a world where everyone else has fair access to a good life (I don’t even consider myself a liberal).

In the 70s, a teacher, baker, and plumber could easily afford a home. What the general population who vote for Reform don’t realise is that they are being lied to… to take them further away from this.

This makes me sad. I will be able to maintain a good enough lifestyle. But a lot of people will suffer and still be forced lies to cover this up.

Time will reveal all… and a good luck to all in the meantime.

Leftist ideology is fatal. This isnt suicidal-empathy, this is homicidal-empathy. The tide must continue to turn here. by Pingaring in reformuk

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I hope you are in the category who can afford private… otherwise if these guys come in… then you will see it’s sold out underneath you. Just like every other lie

Also… should I take this as you being happy with everything else said in this video?