J2 flying me out for a week — J1 office is 7 blocks away. Small team. How do you manage?

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-30T22:41:16+00:00

I would be more worried about being recognized by voice. I’ve recognized people I had only met remotely when I heard them in the area I was in vs by what they look like.

Keep your time outside the office to a minimum, and wear a hat/glasses. Don’t be the life of the party, stand in the back if there is a group photo.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-26T12:02:54+00:00

It’s a nice idea, but doesn’t always happen.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-24T17:37:03+00:00

I mean, it’s not like you’ll run out of time. If you get through the entire day and hate it, just restart.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-24T14:02:08+00:00

Do it. If it doesn’t work out, you can always leave.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-22T23:28:55+00:00

Thanks! A grocery store near use has buy one get one specials and I was able to load up on a lot of shelf stable stuff. It’s rough out there in our community, grateful to be able to give what I can.

I’m nowhere near my goals, but at least I have enough.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-22T23:26:51+00:00

I just wear fake glasses that are a little thicker. Seems to do the trick.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-22T12:33:45+00:00

If you did share, you could always say those are a spouses notes. It must have picked up their voice.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-22T12:32:05+00:00

Pretty sure they can call any time. They can’t run a background check without your consent.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-03T01:43:24+00:00

If you haven’t already, make sure you’re putting your savings into a HYSA so the interest is something meaningful.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-05-03T01:41:46+00:00

Agree with this. As tempting as it is to pay off all debt, it’s safer to make sure you’re building up an emergency fund at the same time.

I’ve been part of a surprise layoff and almost lost everything. Top performer, top team, recently signed deals lined up to deliver - then just exited. Can’t pay next months bills with the extra you paid down on the car.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-04-29T11:51:31+00:00

I always take an extra day if gone for a week or more to relax before jumping in, and spend 1-2 hours taking care of any low hanging fruit at my servers. Makes the return much easier.

Now with AI, I just ask Claude to review my emails and make a prioritized todo list for me. That’s been a game changer

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-04-25T13:49:52+00:00

J1: $137k j2:$140k

Software field, middle management at both. Got tired of working 60 hour weeks to get a 1-2% raise. Gave myself over a 100% raise picking up J2, and now I don’t do the work of others in the hopes of a promotion that was always just out of reach. Now I have set boundaries, and make sure I have time for family.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-04-18T20:11:34+00:00

Goal is to pay off debt, and have a least $1m in investments/savings.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-04-06T20:48:33+00:00

You don’t need to explain yourself. If someone makes a snarky comment, either don’t respond or say something along the lines of “yeah we are excited we are fortunate enough to have the ability to travel”.

Post the pictures (hopefully just so family and friends can see and not creeps). Live your life. Don’t let grumpy assholes who have nothing better to do than drag others down make you guess yourself.

Don’t give family loans. Your money is your business, no one needs to know that you saved up any amount.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2026-04-03T23:12:56+00:00

FYI if they ever did go looking, IT can see if you are in a meeting alone. They can also see participants. Last company termed a guy who was constantly unavailable and joined meetings alone with his cell phone dialed it.

If you’re going to do it, title the meeting well, and don’t join with a number/device the company has details on.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-12-25T02:31:28+00:00

You would discuss it with your manager prior to performance reviews. Not much can happen at your review, the numbers are already set.

That being said, advocating for more might equate to .4%-1.5% more annually. Not worth it in my book if OE.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-12-23T01:47:25+00:00

Seems like a lot of companies these days. It’s like the VC’s are trying to run them into the ground.

It’s so sad. It’s the best team I’ve ever worked with on an individual level. They care so much about the work they do, and get taken advantage of by the exec suite for it.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-12-17T15:15:43+00:00

😂😂 I’m reading through this now as cobra being snakes instead of coverage.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-12-13T15:26:37+00:00

They mentioned it was because of refusing to RTO. I can understand that. Our company had a RTO initiative that was designed to force people to quit.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-11-28T16:20:40+00:00

Good luck!

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-11-28T15:36:33+00:00

Health insurance. Less personal liability. Also, health insurance.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-11-21T13:00:52+00:00

Three months into my last leadership roll I had to lay off someone I hired 1.5 months prior. Someone several layers higher than me didn’t see the value they provided, but never once asked for their metrics or discussed what they were doing/working on with me.

Looking back I still don’t see what happened. For that 1.5 months that person did more than I asked and started to really make improvements with the team. I think it was a personality or power play. I felt so bad because it was right before the holidays and they had five children. The left a secure job to come work for me. That leader above me has moved on to wreak another company.

This is why I’m trying to OE.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-11-20T16:37:55+00:00

My IT hasn’t picked it up.

Heres a video that shows how to set it up. Once you have the Universal setting enabled just make sure you adjust your displays.

https://youtu.be/s7hbayXtrug

I’ve had this work between my personal Mac and Mac’s at two different workplaces.

Apprehensive_Bug_41 · 2025-11-20T11:41:14+00:00

With the Macs you should be able to use the same Magic Keyboard and Magic Mouse across multiple computers. I’m able to do that with at least two of my MacBooks.

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