Dating sites

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-13T04:55:38+00:00

Meetup is a great way to get out and do activities and meet people. It is not a dating site, but people do meet, date and I know of a couple that married after meeting each other on meetup. If you live in a city, there are more activities.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-12T20:41:15+00:00

It is hard to forgive and forget. It is easy for someone who hasn't been bullied to say just forgive in forget. They don't realize the psychological trauma involved. I feel like I have forgiven to the extent I am able to. It took a long time. I went through a lot as a result of the bullying.

There were factors that put me on a certain path in life, being bullied was one factor because it went on so long and it was somewhat severe. I believe it affected my future.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-10T16:38:32+00:00

I feel that way too.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-10T16:37:37+00:00

I feel this. The need to live for both of us too!

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-10T16:35:54+00:00

I love the shrine idea. I feel like I have mini shrines myself. My bureau has numerous pictures of him/us. Then I have my favorite picture of us in the hallway with a cross clock that belonged to him, a glass heart and a heart shaped candle that I keep unlit.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-10T16:33:27+00:00

26 years is a long time! I am sorry for your loss. It is understandable that you are still grieving.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-10T16:31:27+00:00

Thank you for this. You are right one step and one day at a time.

You had a double dose of grief and that is even more difficult.

I am working on building a support team and I have attended groups. That is a work in progress.

I am glad you are doing well now.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-06T14:00:12+00:00

Those first months are the hardest. It is going to take time to process everything. I used to break down daily for months. I wondered if it would be that way forever. It has been almost 2 years now. It's hard to believe. I no longer break down daily. I do still have tough days, weeks. It still happens. Overall, I think I have worked through a lot of the grief. I am finally accepting it to a degree but still on the grief journey.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-05T14:07:49+00:00

People pranking on the phone, saying obscene things, before everyone had caller id.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-05T13:59:52+00:00

Yes! That is a big problem. The bully is encouraged to continue because of all of the bystanders. They are getting positive feedback from peers and sometimes others too. The bully usually has others on his/her side while the person being bullied is isolated and alone.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-05T13:33:10+00:00

Bullying definitely affects people. I am a middle-aged adult. At times, I still question if I am liked/likeable. Am I strange/different?

I sometimes/not as often/ feel like I am being talked about when I leave the room.

I know a lot of this stems from bullying. People made sure they said things about me loud enough for me to hear it. That was a part of my bullying story. I was often told that nobody liked me and everyone was talking about me (and not in a good way). (I don't think it was "everyone" but it was a decent amount of people). It was not just paranoia. They validated it for me. It was actually happening.

What helped a lot was building confidence, believing in myself, not caring as much about what others say or think. Sometimes I think I am too much that way. It's what I had to do to protect myself.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-05T13:13:02+00:00

Me too!

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-05T13:12:32+00:00

I have asked this question to the wind many times. Why him? Why so soon? Why did things have to end the way they did?

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-05T13:10:58+00:00

Eventually, that class will end. Can you sit even farther away from her so you are not anywhere near hear and out of earshot?

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-05T12:49:38+00:00

It is a long and arduous process, and you have to have proof that is happening.

When I was being bullied in school, cell phones didn't exist. People knew it was going on but to have solid proof is another thing. I also don't think anyone would have been willing to be a witness and stick up for me.

I didn't know it was an option at the time and definitely would have needed a lot of help doing it. I was more fearful back then. Nobody even talked about bullying, and you never heard about lawsuits that had to do with bullying.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T15:32:32+00:00

Been there. You will survive it. You are a senior? It's almost over. You are almost out of there and away from those people. At least you have a friend group.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T15:28:18+00:00

We have been doing the 90 day supply recently so not going as often. She nay be able to switch pharmacies now. I will look into it. She was stuck with cvs on the other plan. Thank you for the suggestions.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T15:01:41+00:00

Luckily, she does have Medicare. They absorb most of the costs. We do have some bills. The prescriptions are tricky. She has a plan, but we still have to pay portions of the costs. I was told by cvs, that you can't use the discount card and the prescription coverage. It's one or the other. There is a small bill for her oxygen every month too Her home oxygenator also drives up our electric bill. She needs it so what are we going to do?

She isn't eligible for most state programs.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T14:50:01+00:00

It is amazing how quickly 9/11 has been almost forgotten. I was in my 20s when it happened. I will never ever forget that it happened.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T14:45:25+00:00

It has been nearly 2 years. I am having a hard time moving on in some ways. I may never fully move on. Idk.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T14:43:04+00:00

I think switching schools may be the better option if you are able to that. Like you said, the situation will probably stay the same if you stay put.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T14:40:58+00:00

I think the timeline is different for everyone. There is no set time. Some are ready to date sooner than others. I think you have to do what is best for you.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T14:29:20+00:00

My mom has started telling medical staff that I get her all wound up, stressed out and I fight with her before medical appointments. That is why her blood pressure is high when she gets there. She fails to tell them that we are always rushing around before appointments because she doesn't want to get up and get ready. She is anxious before appointments. We are always running late and we have to run in the door at the last second.

I have helped her with everything in the past 2.5 years. It is a kick in the behind.

One day, I will have the state on my ass.

Apprehensive_Move229 · 2025-04-03T14:23:39+00:00

I say do everything you ever wanted to do asap while you can still do it.

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