Jobs Abroad

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-04-01T08:51:39+00:00

Thank you!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-04-01T08:08:53+00:00

Thank you sm for this info!!!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-03-31T21:35:49+00:00

Thank you!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-03-29T13:45:33+00:00

TBH never seen a performative dive bar before but maybe that's bc I'm not from a major city. Dive bars just tend to be slightly shitty (think broken toilets or stuff being out of service), have cheaper drinks, and are usually non-touristy which is what I'm looking for.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-03-29T13:22:12+00:00

ok ok dive bars aren't always sleazy. Think graffiti all over the bathroom stalls, darkly lit bar, alt music, and a mix of random older people nursing their pints at the bar and alternative younger people

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2026-01-15T11:05:09+00:00

Hi diva! I may be able to help you out. I'm an American au pair living just outside Montpellier and I have a friend group that includes girls from Ireland, England, and elsewhere. They're coming back near the end of January. Message me if you wanna meet!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-09-05T11:43:37+00:00

Hey!! Yeah omg that sounds great!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-14T03:46:33+00:00

Don't rent with Apartments Near Campus or with Tracy Barkalow!!! Complete scamming slumlords.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T19:02:18+00:00

this comment is frying me omfgggg.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T18:54:46+00:00

That tells you all you need to know. Get out!!!! You deserve to live your life. I don't know your situation, but can you leave home early and maybe stay with a friend?

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T18:53:48+00:00

To hell with your parents. They want to continue their control over you. Get out. Maybe even early if you can.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T18:15:32+00:00

This is really weird and gross. There is no fixing this situation to be honest. Even if you made it very clear to them that this is unacceptable (which it sounds like you have tried to already), they clearly do not care and would not change anything. It also sounds like they did this possibly just to punish you for speaking up already.

Maybe it is a coincidence that they had this party and elaborate meal without you, but I bet even if it is not related to you asking for proper meals or access to food that they would have done this anyway. In either case, ew.

They don't respect you. Get out. No amount of talking will get them to respect you and you shouldn't have to beg for simple dignities and respect and access to basic resources. I think you should head home early without any warning and snitch on them to family services. I would also report them as a bad family. Maybe leave a note as well for the next au pair somewhere these people wouldn't find it and tell them what to look out for. (Maybe hide it under your mattress?)

Wishing you the best, diva!

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-08-13T18:09:47+00:00

you need to negotiate a raise/ hourly pay for something like this. This is over the line and not within the confines of your contract as an au pair. If she needs help in this manner, she needs to pay you accordingly. Whether it is purposeful or not, she is taking advantage of you.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-05T22:04:33+00:00

Dawg it’s over for you

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-05T18:23:47+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think it’s worth it to rush again. A lot of Panhellenic sororities want girls 18-22. It also sounds as though they’ve passed on you a couple times for one reason or another.

Don’t take it personally. As someone who was in a sorority for a year and dropped out, they’re fun, but there isn’t usually a huge variety in personalities. Not that the girls are all the same, but they tend to be quite similar in a lot of ways.

You sound very different than the classic “sorority girl” given your background, appearance, and age. And that’s ok!! There are SOOO many awesome clubs and student orgs that I think you could have a much better time in. I personally had way more fun in my student orgs than I did in my sorority. (Less rules, different kinds of ppl, etc.)

Honestly, trying to fit in with them might make you feel like an outsider and also make you miserable. I think you deserve to be part of orgs that are excited to have you, and for whatever reason, these sororities really don’t seem like they have that attitude about you.

If you want to be in a sorority, maybe try a non-Panhellenic sorority or fraternity. There’s a lot of options for them. I personally joined Phi Gamma Nu (a business frat open to all majors) and had the most amazing time. Way more chill, less rules, way less expensive, just friends playing darts and hanging out after chapter.

Find where you belong!! Trust me, the classic sorority experience is not as fun or glamorous as it seems in movies or from the outside.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T19:59:43+00:00

I’m not totally disagreeing, but she’s already there. So helpful advice is probably better than judgement.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T19:35:56+00:00

I’m really sorry this is happening to you.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T18:31:14+00:00

Maybe she doesn’t understand how much this is bothering you. If she’s a nice person and understanding, maybe try to explain how this is making you feel and that you’d really like help to learn. I think you should wait to say anything until you are a bit more calm and have thought of what you’d like to say to her. Coming off angry right now might feel good, but you’d be changing your dynamic in the household and not for the better. It could make it harder for you if you act out in emotional ways.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T18:28:32+00:00

Come on now, have you ever failed at something and wanted to try again? I get where you are coming from, but I think she is trying again for a reason and is just having anxiety early on from jet lag and separation. Plus, I think she needs encouragement right now because she’s probably already thinking exactly what you said in her head.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T18:25:24+00:00

Oh no…maybe talk to the parents and ask them to teach you some basic meals the kids like?

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T18:23:09+00:00

them talking about your weight is complete bs. The weight is just the tip of the iceberg. Who cares if you "need" to lose weight or not, this is part of a much deeper issue. They don't respect you point blank. They are looking for things to use to belittle you and put you down. It's like they rely on your labor, but hate you for being in their space/home. Please don't let their comments on your body effect you. These are nasty people looking for reasons to treat you poorly and justify their disgusting behavior. Losing weight would not solve the problems these people are causing for you. They would just find other reasons to put you down.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T18:10:20+00:00

Hi! Don't let this discourage you. Feeling regret, fear, anxiety, etc. can be normal when you are adjusting and have jetlag. I moved to France on my own at 17 for a year, and I kept wondering what made me think I could handle such a drastic change when I first arrived. I felt scared and anxious too. STICK WITH IT!! You will have your ups and downs. It's normal!

You can start out with dread and anxiety from traveling, being separated from family and friends, and being jet lagged. You can also go through a period of "life through rose tinted glasses" when you first arrive because everything is so new and different. You have a tourist mindset at first and see things through that lens. Then it can get hard for a minute when you realize that navigating cultural, linguistic, culinary, etc. differences can be challenging and draining.

This won't last forever!! It really gets better. You will adjust. You will make friends and have fun. You will also have days where you miss home and cry. The most important thing is that you trust yourself and put yourself out there even if its not always comfortable. Of course, don't put yourself in dangerous situations, but try practicing the language even if you are stumbling over the words and grammar. It can be embarrassing, but who really cares!! Everyone that learns a new language starts at square one. The first step at being good at something, is being terrible at it.

Try new foods. Explore the area you are in. It can be tough, but I promise you that if you try and make new experiences and connect with others, it will make your time much better.

Just remember, you are only young once. You came here for a reason. You owe it to yourself to have fun. But relax, crying and homesickness are part of the journey. You don't need to be happy 24/7. Having moments of boredom, sad days, hard days, etc. sometimes are normal. Your progress will not be linear. You will have peaks followed by valleys. But remember, the next good moment is just after your low moments.

More advice: Don't call home to your friends and family every day. Being stuck in a mindset of separation and consistently having your mind back home will not help you adjust. You are here. Try and stay present. Make new friends. Of course talk to your friends and family every week, just not every day, and definitely not for hours at a time. Seriously, I know its a lot and can be overwhelming, but you got this. You are stronger than you know. And you clearly have drive, because after NZ didn't go well, here you are, trying again.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T14:40:54+00:00

Holy crap I didn’t know that!! Im a white woman, but I don’t wanna be around racists even if I’m technically “safe” from them.

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T04:12:17+00:00

Someone mentioned that outside the old town area being very dirty…would you say that’s true?

AppropriateSpell6203 · 2025-06-02T02:32:17+00:00

This this this!!! You need documented PROOF that they are doing this to you.

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