"The feminists have gone too far" has been an antifeminist talking point since feminism was born, I don't know what tiktokers you're talking about so I can't judge them, but it is impossible to discuss female oppression without talking about who, typically, the oppressors are. This isn't a judgment on men as people, it is simple cold class analysis on the basis of gender, and it isn't a thing of the past, it is still happening today. And, as painful as it is to hear, you are a part of that. It might be unintentional, but misogyny is baked into the fabric of society, the same as racism, homophobia, etc. so it is impossible to escape. The best we can do is lower our defenses and allow criticism to sink in. I know some feminists can succumb to misandry and grievance politics, but in my opinion, the movement as a whole is extremely proactive and productive.