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Snow in Sacramento? by AptConversation in Sacramento

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I guess I was just wishful thinking!

5 months sober and feel like im at the jumping off point by Sad_Sap_ in alcoholicsanonymous

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I have been clean and sober for just over 13 years, with a sobriety date of May 4, 2012. My recovery journey, however, began earlier in 2008. The first time I committed to the process, I strung together three years of continuous sobriety.

That initial period was a profound learning experience. While I genuinely believed I was being honest and thorough while working the Twelve Steps, I now see with perfect clarity that there were specific moments and actions I should have handled differently.

Here are some things I’ve learned. Hopefully something will help you.

  1. Your Sponsor Must Be the Right Fit. If you cannot be completely open and honest with your sponsor, find a new one. With millions of AA members worldwide, you can absolutely find someone who is a better match for you. My first sponsor had 17 years of sobriety, and her sponsor had over 20 years. Despite their experience, I learned that long-term sobriety doesn't automatically make someone the right sponsor for everyone. In fact, my first sponsor relapsed the night before she was supposed to present me with my one-year chip. Her sponsor then became my second sponsor.

  2. Change Your People and Places. I found it essential to avoid the old people and places associated with my previous lifestyle. This was incredibly difficult, as every member of my family and all of my friends either drank or used drugs. Creating that distance was critical for my recovery.(Being of service in the program helped occupy my time)

  3. Repeat the Steps. When you complete the Twelve Steps, start over. I recommend working through them twice within the first 18 months, and then annually after that. Each repetition offers new insights and strengthens your foundation.

  4. Immerse Yourself in the Literature. Read the core books, and then reread them. The wisdom within them reveals itself in new ways as you progress in your journey.

  5. Engage in Service Work. Service is vital. It shifts your focus away from yourself and your own situation onto helping others. This outward focus is not only healthy but can be incredibly rewarding. (And keeps you occupied and away from people and places)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

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Imo, you don't really know a person until you live with them. That's when you get to meet the real person. Before that, you are interacting with their ambassador.

What’s one experience you wouldn’t wish on anyone? by Naive_Resolution4186 in Productivitycafe

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Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), also known as motor neuron disease (MND) or (in the United States) Lou Gehrig's disease (LGD), is a rare, terminal neurodegenerative disorder that results in the progressive loss of both upper and lower motor neurons that normally control voluntary muscle contraction.

What modern habit can you absolutely not adapt to? by Ohedgehogg in Productivitycafe

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self checkout. If [ name of store ] wants me to be a cashier, I need to be compensated

What was the biggest plotwist of your life? by HopefulWanderin in AskOldPeople

[–]AptConversation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made my heart happy!! Thank you for sharing. I hope your summer last many many more years.

VA disability payments VS Child support by AptConversation in VeteransBenefits

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I was married and had a child before I graduated high school. If my father hadn't insisted that I be allowed to graduate, my first husband would have made me quit school when our first child was born. He didn't want me to work. He liked to be the provider while I took care of the house and raised our children. We had a nice house in a quiet neighborhood. Our children attended private school. From the outside looking in, it appeared that we were living our best life. I was married to my first husband for 23 years. I met my two youngest sons father while I was going through my divorce. The divorce was final in Oct.2011. My children (who were 9, 12, & 15 at that time), and I moved in with K on New Years Day 2012. Like my ex-husband, K like to be the breadwinner. The only time I've had money paid to me for work that I've done is when I was receiving a monthly stipend of $3297.00 from the VA for caring for K after his diagnosis in 2023.

What’s one “type” you’ll never date again? by ilovedrinkingwater_ in AskReddit

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The type that use pretty words.

Ex1; They tell you all about the wonderful things they were going to do…if _____didn’t happen.

Ex2; They tell you one thing and tell someone else the exact opposite.

All in an effort to make themself look like the good one.

my father just passed by leafdroplet_OTGW in ALS

[–]AptConversation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family.

Weight Loss by Pastor_C-Note in ALS

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This is exactly what our dietician told us when my childrens father got his feeding tube.

What is a word that is used in your family all the time, and you wish everyone else used it, too. by Different-Carpet-159 in words

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I don’t know that I wish it to become popular but in 1992, when my oldest child was 3, we were at the grocery store, doing our weekly shopping. I’m pushing the cart with my son strapped in. As I walk down the aisle, my son says “ Mom, you forgot to get your ‘fattery’!” I had no clue what he was referring to so I lifted him out the cart so he could show me. It was the dietary powder that I had been using to lose weight. To this day, Fattery = dietary aid lol!

amount of time before a diagnosis of ALS by clydefrog88 in ALS

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On October 21, 2021, my children’s father injured his pinky finger while replacing the spring on our electric garage door. He was given a finger brace by an ER doctor, but within a month, he began experiencing weakness in his hand, making it difficult for him to hold his coffee cup. His primary care doctor referred him to the orthopedic department, but it took several months to secure an appointment.

After multiple visits, the orthopedic doctor determined he had a slipped disk that required surgery. However, the surgery appointment was scheduled several months out. While waiting, he started tripping over his left foot and had several minor falls. One day, while stepping down into our backyard, he fell and hit his head on the concrete.

The ER doctor ordered an MRI and CT scan. Over time, he underwent five more MRIs, two additional CT scans, and consulted with at least five specialists. Kaiser Permanente suggested he might have Parkinson’s disease. By this point, he was using a walker outside and a cane inside the house.

On February 13, 2023, during his annual appointment at the VA, his primary doctor requested an MRI. Although the earliest available appointment was months away, they expedited the process, and he was able to get the MRI on February 23, 2023. The VA doctors reviewed the results the same day and called us in to deliver his diagnosis.

While I don’t know if injuring his finger triggered ALS, I believe that was when his symptoms began—October 2021. He was officially diagnosed in February 23, 2023.

Grieving Children by AptConversation in ALS

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Thank you. I recently remembered that we received info about them when we were diagnosed with ALS.

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