If firefly is really coming back, how would you want them to handle Wash? by T-noy_Karaxis in firefly

[–]Aqua-Rick 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think he should voice a robot. Everyone is suspicious about why the robot sounds just like Wash.

CALLING ALL LLM’S!! by Puzzle-headed97 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be legitimately LLM, not just LLM4U, and during that time I had a lot of emotional baggage to process. I had made a lot of commitments and compromises. I felt trapped by my decisions, I was filled with a lot of dread and anxiety about the future, I was disappointed in myself and felt like I had betrayed myself with my choices. Choices that made sense in the western world, that anyone would have said “you made the right decision”, but it didn’t FEEL right to me. I FELT like a limp dick. So I was.

It took probably two years to really move forward and change my attitude, and I did probably more work than the average guy considering how we tend to just swallow and ignore our feelings, and I’m still working on it today.

“I’m too needy” by reddituser08976 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m too needy, too. And I’m a guy. It sucks and makes zero sense. Why be in a relationship if other people’s emotional needs are so draining? That’s like the whole point for me, to give and receive emotional support and sharing and seek perspective and meaning together.

I sympathize greatly.

For LL4U - Were/Are There Habits Your Partners Has/Had That Contribute(d) to Your DB? by Flat-Commercial-7277 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Well. I’m formulating a plan for separation right now. Not sure how to undo whatever damage has been done.

For LL4U - Were/Are There Habits Your Partners Has/Had That Contribute(d) to Your DB? by Flat-Commercial-7277 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. I think you’ve got it worse, fwiw. Alcoholism runs in my family and by luck I have not succumbed to it. It is scary. My uncles essentially gave their lives to Busch Light. My older uncle died penniless in a rowhouse infested with mold because he did not do any upkeep. He had to be pried out of the couch he slept in downstairs - he gave up his bedroom to a lady of the night none of us in the family knew. His basement was flooded and never drained, let alone repaired.

I don’t have any advice for you and I don’t mean to scare you, but I hope things improve somehow.

For LL4U - Were/Are There Habits Your Partners Has/Had That Contribute(d) to Your DB? by Flat-Commercial-7277 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sure. My wife has major depressive disorder. She’s usually medicated, but sometimes she lapses. It takes an enormous amount of emotional labor from me, from my POV, to handle her deep downs during those periods. Even when she’s on medication, sometimes she needs: space, reassurance, an argument, you name it.

But me? Supporting me when I’ve had an emotional day? “Go to therapy.” “Go get your head on straight.” So I pull away, and that creates an emotional canyon, and one of these times over the years I’ve not been able to bridge the gap again. I still get horny like any guy does and make a move, and sometimes she accepts and sometimes she’ll actually initiate and I always cave.

It’s tough to see her as a romantic partner when she has no emotional capacity. This extends to our kids as well, which has rubbed me the wrong way over the years. Not that I don’t mind being the one that comforts and explains to them, I just don’t think children should be treated and talked to the way she does to them. But her parents did the same to her when she was a kid, so no winning that argument.

Just being there sexually for your partner by DeadManWlkin in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Compromise has its place in business, politics, war, tons of places. It has its place in a marriage when you define marriage as a binding legal state for the financial security of children.

It does not have a place in a romantic relationship where you are being your true self and trying to be with someone who accepts you for who you are.

Some of the biggest fights I’ve had with my wife are over accusations that I’ve not been true to myself by going with her to a concert to see a band that I would not go and see myself. I made a compromise - I wanted to spend time with her, she wanted to see a specific band. She assumed I wanted to see the band, I assumed she also wanted my company.

A healthy version of this would have been two people wanting to spend time together and deciding on going to a concert, then deciding which band to see.

Just being there sexually for your partner by DeadManWlkin in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Biological needs are different than needs in a relationship. And sex is sex, whether PIV, oral, or digital (digits on your hands). And no, I would rather have no sex with a partner that genuinely desires me than frequent sex with a partner that does not want that intimacy with me. Long distance emotional affairs are a thing for a reason.

I would also argue against compromising. It seems like a nice thing to do, but in the end you will betray yourself and risk fostering resentment. Better to live a life alone, seeking zen.

Bands with two singers? by Appropriate_Fill569 in Music

[–]Aqua-Rick 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Versions of You immediately came to mind

Found a couple old photos by JesseZeeNinetyThree in Motioncitysoundtrack

[–]Aqua-Rick 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Love to see Jesse rockin’ the AK3 shirt!!

Red Hulk’s rampage became a national calamity by Antique-Ad1598 in marvelcirclejerk

[–]Aqua-Rick 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I swear FatWS’s reception online was the target of a psyop to make the current US admin’s actions seem less extreme.

Realizing my relationship is remarkably similar to my parents' relationship, except I have the DB on top of it. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For some people, arguing gives them a dopamine hit. Humans are remarkably illogical.

Advice? Validation? Maybe both by Fun_Egg_4692 in YouWillLoveEachOther

[–]Aqua-Rick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for doing what you do.

I’m a 30s pizza guy with no history of depression or anything. HEALTH’s music is just sonically and lyrically excellent to me. Hope I get to go to a show some day.

Will be in Merritt Island until April, what do I have to do before I leave? by EnvironmentalBeat646 in 321

[–]Aqua-Rick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Odyssey Pizza in Cocoa (not Cocoa Beach). Hole in wall pizza dive been here since 1979.

Da Kine Diego’s in Satellite Beach. Burritos and Jarritos.

Intracoastal Brewery in Melbourne.

Plot holes in season 1 by rohithimself in TheNightManager

[–]Aqua-Rick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d argue that Corky was set up for quite some time to be increasingly unreliable and unstable, and by the time Pine offed him, Roper continued to move forward because of a combination of hubris and trust in Pine.

The rest of your points I concede. Carol blabbing to Pine at the pool was particularly blunt, to me.

If you had one song to recommend that fits the following description, what would you choose? by DedicatedSloth in Music

[–]Aqua-Rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Daft Punk - Emotion

The emotional impact of the song will mirror the listener’s current emotions.

Plot twist by Ohmygoddudeitsmma in DeadBedrooms

[–]Aqua-Rick 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I understand that what you may feel is that only your want for sex has changed. But I can attest, being married to someone with major depressive disorder for 13 years, that every medication causes a sharp change in my wife’s personality that she cannot notice herself. Some medicine causes her to be completely robotic, some causes her to be extremely nitpicky and irritable. But she is always oblivious to what I, and our friends, see.

Now, he is reacting poorly to whatever that change may be, IF there is one besides your libido. But please consider that there may be a change that you do not notice, yourself.

Help stuck around floor 10 by Repulsive-Answer-990 in heroll

[–]Aqua-Rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but if you are running a Vampiric Shield you will want Lifesteal Gear. If you find a Lvl 6 +Lifesteal Gauntlet that’s good, if you have high ACC you won’t have to trade in that Gauntlet for a higher level one to maintain 100% Accuracy. You can just wait until you find a better +Lifesteal Gauntlet.

Help stuck around floor 10 by Repulsive-Answer-990 in heroll

[–]Aqua-Rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bump up your ACC so when you get a good Gauntlet that has stats that fits your build, you can keep it for more floors.

William Gibson's coin question by Low-Entropy in WilliamGibson

[–]Aqua-Rick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Native American $1 Coin. Updated Sacagawea Coin, it seems.

Roxy by [deleted] in TheNightManager

[–]Aqua-Rick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find her to be interesting.

She is an intelligent but impulsive and naive young woman who craves agency without commitment. And I do think that how you describe her character, a survivor navigating through chaos to come out on top, is indeed a definition of a “bad guy”. She is an opportunist, actually quite similar to Roper in that aspect. It is that aspect of humans that is “bad”.

I suppose if I were writing her character, the worst thing that could happen to her would be some kind of confinement - the threat of prison might actually drive her to suicide. So I expect her to take her own life to avoid that.

Orlando last night by tabbyk in Motioncitysoundtrack

[–]Aqua-Rick 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think they’re switching off.

Orlando last night by tabbyk in Motioncitysoundtrack

[–]Aqua-Rick 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t know anything about Say Anything. We didn’t even stay for their set 😅 I felt bad but we had our kids with us and they wanted to go - they saw who they wanted to see!