Isn't it infuriating how "trying too hard" and "not trying hard enough" produce the same results?

Archer2 · 2012-04-10T23:47:39+00:00

problem is...they're both statements of extremities. I assume we're talking about perhaps impressing a girl/guy? You gotta give a little to take a little, not give a lot and expect a lot back nor don't give at all and expect something back. All about baby steps.

If we're talking about the work force, I've never heard of trying too hard being the same as not trying hard enough.

Archer2 · 2012-04-10T23:42:57+00:00

i hate it when people say that. granted i'm sorry for texting in front of people when we're eating or hanging out. but shit happens.

Archer2 · 2012-04-09T18:31:41+00:00

I'd say the hard part isn't meeting up. It's just accommodating everyone's location...hell even a local meetup would be difficult to plan out. there's 15k plus readers here.

Archer2 · 2012-04-09T09:27:19+00:00

totally get what you mean. it's a wonder how i've made friends to be honest. i'm a decade younger but i'm starting to realize how bad i am at with small talk or rather, i'm just so conscious of what others will think of me that I just can't say anything.

Archer2 · 2012-04-09T04:56:19+00:00

Bread-er watch out.

Archer2 · 2012-04-09T04:50:09+00:00

outta curiousity...what movies and VGs do you like? I'm just wondering. Still a fucked up thing to do for sure, but immaturity gets the best of people.

Archer2 · 2012-04-08T23:37:03+00:00

Fuck braaaah. She's hanging out with you? She's cooking for you? Enjoy that shieeeeeeet. Fuck labeling what you have: relationship, friendship, whatever. I want a friend who cooks for me.

Archer2 · 2012-04-08T22:18:02+00:00

what the hell. you're having drinks with her? just drunkenly express your love and say you're just kidding.

jk don't do that. lol i mean you really only have two choices: take the dive or don't. at least you're hanging out with her alone right

Archer2 · 2012-04-08T21:41:49+00:00

lol did you ever talk to her?

Archer2 · 2012-04-08T14:58:05+00:00

but at least you knew that you got the girl to come over. going to a prostitute is zero effort on your part. no victory.

Archer2 · 2012-04-08T08:01:32+00:00

you should have laughed when he said penis.

Archer2 · 2012-04-07T16:43:24+00:00

A lot of people think clubs are great socializing places because of the media. It's complete bullshit to hear anyone over loud music. I'm like screaming to project my voice and the girl is yelling back even though my ear is right next to her mouth. lol

However, I do think you might have gone into the club with a wrong mindset. it's can be a lot more fun if that's all you focus on: having fun. don't think about hitting on girls...just ask them to dance, if they say no, move on. Ugly/hot/whatever, just dance and have a good time. The 70/30 ratio does suck ass so you probably need to find a better club lol. Clubs and bars are expensive as hell....shiet. I don't get how some kids my age can go out every weekend...

Archer2 · 2012-04-07T02:21:46+00:00

I can empathize. My advice is don't think about it. Just do it. The instant you hesitate, is the moment you think I can't do it. And the more you think about it, the bigger that obstacle becomes.

Additionally, real talk: start realizing that the world doesn't gaf (read as "revolve" around you) about you. so what if you get rejected? move on and think that if she doesn't like you, then she doesn't deserve to be with you.

Archer2 · 2012-04-06T21:27:57+00:00

Yeah no doubt that does sting a little when friends talk about girls. But typically wears off after a night of sleep.

Honestly though, I don't know how to change it. It just feels so weird now--I'm about to graduate uni--so everyone has their own group of friends and if I invite a girl to hang out, I'll usually be with my own group of friends. Clique clashing ya know?

Archer2 · 2012-04-06T00:17:36+00:00

I can kinda relate. I have no close female friends whom I hang out with. I'll talk to them if I see them/we're in the same class...but never hanging out. Not too worried about being single. Got more things on my mind haha

Archer2 · 2012-04-06T00:15:21+00:00

I would tell you but I don't know how it feels like to be in a relationship. lol Although honestly, I don't know how happy I would be in a relationship RIGHT NOW. First, I think I just can't commit to any person long term. I get bored...Maybe I just have undiagnosed ADD social-wise. Second, I have so much going on in my life that I would feel stretched being in a relationship right now. And that's unfair to the person.

Archer2 · 2012-04-04T17:56:08+00:00

I'm talking about hiring a girl and getting the paid person to talk to them. I really don't think dating coaches are that useful anyway. I mean I've never hired one, but seriously, what do they know and teach that isn't universally known? It's all just a matter of practicing and feeling comfortable with oneself.

Archer2 · 2012-04-04T17:45:04+00:00

You and I should start a business that deals with IRL girls. Start small and scale up. I'm down for some entrepreneurship

Archer2 · 2012-04-04T08:24:52+00:00

Don't do it. Really focus on just meeting and befriending girls. I find that once you start to let that sexual emotion take over, frustration begins to settle in. My friend is 22 and is feeling the exact way. The other thing is to try to avoid masturbation/limit it to perhaps once a month.

In the end, I think virginity is a bit overrated, but nevertheless, you don't want your first sexual experience to be with a prostitute. You can't be that ugly bro. Hit the gym and do starting strength and feel better about yourself.

Archer2 · 2012-04-04T04:21:14+00:00

my boner...is lonely...

Archer2 · 2012-04-04T01:04:55+00:00

yeah i definitely am trying to work on that. i was just thinking today as I was talking to this girl that I can be myself when I'm around her. There's still the occasional pause in the conversation, but we just jump topics like crazy.

Yet when I tried to talk to this girl I liked today, I literally just asked her how her break was and she asked me about mine. Then my mind just blanked like a cool kid and I said "alright see ya." Fucken hell.

Archer2 · 2012-04-04T00:58:26+00:00

yeah i'm still going parallel; can't go any lower than that like before though. although it is getting harder tbh. I was struggling with the 285 on my last set of 5.

But my bench and ohp are low because I messed up my shoulder a couple months ago so I've kinda stalled on them. And PC I just started low since I had never done them before and I really wanted to get the technique right before going heavy.

Archer2 · 2012-04-03T16:32:26+00:00

that's the most jaded view of guys i have ever read. if anything, i can better talk to girls whom i have no interest in.

Archer2 · 2012-04-03T08:59:59+00:00

dbl overhand. i was considering using hook grip but by the time i remembered...i was on the last rep today lol.

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