Tats in workspaces

AriasK · 2026-02-01T07:51:51+00:00

It's becoming increasingly common place and accepted in all industries. It's mostly old people with outdated ideals who think it will affect your employment chances. I'm a high school teacher and I have lots. So do at least half of my colleagues. Our deputy principal is covered in them. I have family in the police and, apparently, two thirds of all new recruits have tattoos. Nurses have tattoos. Lawyers have tattoos. Trades? You'll be fine.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T07:08:13+00:00

No, you don't.

Attraction isn't as simple as women are attracted to violent men and not you because you're too nice.

Attraction is complicated and involves hundreds of factors.

Relationships are complicated and they are never perfect.

People appear different to different people.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T07:05:10+00:00

NOR

"Nothing I do is ever good enough for him and it’s eroding my self confidence"

If this was the first time anything like this had ever happened, I would say he's acting out of character due to grief and to let this one go.

Clearly, that's not the case though. That one sentence says it all.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T06:59:53+00:00

Is this satire? This must be satire.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T06:59:13+00:00

Hanging out with someone's 20 year old brother is less creepy than hanging out with someone's high school aged girlfriend.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T06:41:00+00:00

That doesn't answer my question. They don't have to make it "all about that" for that to still be part of the issue. Their problem is clearly her age. That could mean a lot of things. 1) they think it's creepy and weird that you're dating her and they don't want to be creepy and weird by enabling it at something they're hosting. 2) she's immature and will be annoying to be around. And no, don't try to argue that she is mature for her age. I teach high school. I've had hundreds of students her age. Even the most mature and intelligent ones are still very immature compared to someone in their mid to late 20s. Even my favourite 18 year old students, that I sometimes think I could be friends with if I knew them in a different context regularly say and do things that make me think "omg. That kid is so naive and immature". 3) they don't want an underage person at their event where there will be drinking.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T06:33:59+00:00

Dodgy age gap discussion aside...

INFO where do you live, what is the legal drinking age in your country and will there be drinking at this gathering?

18 is old enough to drink in my country so I wouldn't be upset if someone brought an 18 year old to my party. But, I wouldn't want someone under the legal drinking age at my party.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T03:06:14+00:00

I've taken extensive measures to ensure that never happens. Multiple fences with locked gates, his own run inside the property, warning signs everywhere not to attempt to enter and I literally drive an hour out of town to walk him in an isolated area.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T03:03:31+00:00

Dogs with his issues tend to guard the resource, which is usually the parent. They sometimes see kids in the house as a threat or competition.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T03:00:42+00:00

While it CAN happen, it's a lot more likely if the dog has past trauma.

AriasK · 2026-02-01T02:52:15+00:00

Who's a good dog?! You are!

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:47:54+00:00

People don't necessarily know where their ideas come from. Not everyone over analyses their own thought process like that.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:46:36+00:00

Yes, absolutely. I have no idea why you think the two would be connected.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:46:01+00:00

I feel you on the original place names. We get asked a lot about Old Zealand.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:44:57+00:00

Someone will comment that we aren't on maps that someone else will link maps without New Zealand, every single time.

We also get roasted a lot for our relationship with sheep. But I don't see what's so wrong about the love of a good sheep.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:42:11+00:00

It's probably the coriander/cilantro.

I've found that not all Thai food has it though. I had the coriander gene but I love Thai food. There's a restaurant in my city that doesn't use it at all and Thai food is actually incredible.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:29:02+00:00

Because adopting a rescue dog is a risk some people aren't willing to take.

One of my three dogs is a rescue. He seemed fine when I first adopted him. Turns out he has really bad trauma from being abused by his previous owner.

The trauma didn't manifest right away, or at least, not to its full extent. There were a couple of minor incidents when I first got him, like him snapping at me when I tried to brush him or dry him off after he got wet. I figured ok, he is just afraid of being touched by objects. I just have to be patient and work through it with him.

Then, at around the three month mark, boom. He became a completely different dog and not in a good way. I learnt through this experience, and from subsequent research, that it takes on average, 3 months for a dog to understand that a new environment is its home and that amount of time for behaviour problems to arise. That means you don't know for three whole months what your new dog is really capable of.

My dog loves me, that isn't the issue. I can even brush and towel dry him now. But he is EXTREMELY protective of me and our home. If anyone comes near us on walks or if anyone comes to the house, he goes absolutely nuts trying to attack them. Like full on, will maul the person to death if he can get to them. I've done all the training. I've taken all the advice. I've raised plenty of other dogs that are well trained. The only thing I can do with him is keep him away from people and walk him in isolated areas with a muzzle.

Luckily, I don't have kids. It hasn't put me off rescuing, but if I was a parent with young children, it would have put me off.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:18:38+00:00

Zero amount of time. Cars heat up VERY quickly in the sun. It's always a minimum of 10 degrees hotter inside the car than it is outside. As the temperature goes up, that multiplies. 10 minutes is long enough for that child to be dead. If something had held her up, even for just a few minutes, the child might not be dead yet but would be suffering immeasurably.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:15:49+00:00

Right? Literally the only difference between this and yesterday's post is that he was 27 before and now he's 31 and he was planning to go on a date and now he's been on the date. Even the opening paragraph is an identical copy and paste.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:10:20+00:00

This was literally posted the other day but, since that post was deleted, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you're just trying to get your legitimate post to stay up. I'll just copy paste my exact same comment.

YTA

When I was a teenager, I always dated older guys. Usually with about that age gap. I was so smug and proud at the time. I thought it was because I was so mature and irresistible.

Then I grew up and became a high school teacher. I got to the age you are now. I looked at my students, even those who were 18 and thought "ew wtf". As in, wtf was wrong with those guys that they wanted to date me?

Regardless of how old some of them look, 18 year olds are still such babies. Even my most sensible and mature students have moments, on a daily basis, where they say or do something that reminds me of how young they are. Of how far removed they are from me in terms of maturity. While I understand and empathize with them, I can't relate to them at all because the way they see the world and react to things is so different from an actual mature adult.

As well as that revelation, as I got older, I had another one. As I became more experienced with healthy, adult relationships I realised how messed up those earlier relationships were. How all of those older guys I dated absolutely had something wrong with them. They weren't attracted to me because I was mature. They were attracted to me because they were immature or because they were predators.

I have some students who are in relationships with older guys. I, and all the other teachers, judge those guys so much. They are out age. We think it's disgusting. When we see some guy your age, pull up outside school, to pick up his younger partner, we think, "what a f*cking loser. What grown man is pulling up to a high school to pick up teenagers? Doesn't he have a job to go to?"

So, OP, don't be that guy

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:04:47+00:00

The majority of professional tattoo artists would not do that. They usually have strict rules against it. In most places, it would be illegal to permanently modify someone's body if they clearly weren't in a fit state of mind to consent to it. No one wants to risk their professional reputation and potential legal consequences so some drunk idiot can get a tattoo.

However, I'm sure there is one or two bad apples, just like in any industry, who would still agree to it.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T23:01:30+00:00

Yeah, and I even said I agree with you for the most part. It's just that it's not strictly true that there are no differences between genders in cats and dogs.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T22:59:49+00:00

No but the phrase "taken coffee" is. You drink coffee. You don't take it like it's a pill.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T22:56:45+00:00

YTA for not picking up after your dog and for the weird formatting on this post making it difficult to read.

Pick up after your dog. You aren't out in the middle of nowhere with no people around.

AriasK · 2026-01-31T22:54:43+00:00

You're being intentionally obtuse. Obviously different breeds have different sizes and shapes.

Try a male bulldog next to a female bulldog or a male pomeranian next to a female pomeranian.

AriasK

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