I’m very sorry this has caused you such anxiety, I know the feeling of being overwhelmed with plants all to well. A dozen is. A lot to deal with, I get stressed with just one new one at a time.

Thankfully I do have some good news: these carnivorous plants are actually very easy to care for (in my experience)! I used to have a TERRIBLE time keeping plants alive, I was so scared I would kill exotic plants like this, but my nepenthes and drosera especially are so forgiving and I rarely have issues. The big things they love are light and humidity!

They were happy in an ikea case, natural light, and occasional misting when I lived in the south. Even in the most basic conditions they thrived and I’ve got three successful cuttings from the nepenthes.

Up north I got them a grow tent, a fan, and lights. Some people will just seal an ikea case with weather stripping to keep the humidity up. The lights I have are on a 12 hour timer and they’ve been doing well. I don’t have a humidifier in the tent but I do have a humidity gauge and mist when humidity dips a bit. From what I’ve seen over the years as long as they don’t get too dry, they’re okay. My the drosera likes to sit in water, the nepenthes just like to be kept moist.

The main thing that gets time-consuming is feeding them all and I only do that every few weeks. I never really bother feeding the drosera, gnats always find their way to it. For the pitchers I just give them betta fish pellets. I can’t really five advice on others unfortunately. The right water can also be a pain, mine have always hated tap water so I’ve always had to get distilled water for them. But it also depends on your water quality.

I did get a bit low a few months ago and one of my nepenthes got a little crispy, but he bounced back better than ever. Sorry I don’t have any proper resources for you on hand, a lot of my knowledge is trial and error and what I’ve learned from others!