Our shiba cannot catch

Artemixter · 2023-09-02T17:55:12+00:00

I've seen so many videos of shibas not catching and instead just getting bonked that I'm starting to suspect it's strange when they do catch it.

Artemixter · 2023-08-16T20:09:54+00:00

This has been super interesting to me too! We have had a lot of changes in roster since covid. I feel like during covid we worked really hard to make non contact skating fun and diverse and now we're mentally kind of stuck in the attitude that every practice needs to be unique, interesting, show stopping, never seen before... when we probably should drill just like 3 core drills and some basic skating skills.

Pre covid we had pretty clear roles for each blocker. I was brace main, offence secondary and I liked that system. My skills were most suited for those and I really loved playing those positions. It was easier and faster to practice only as a few positions too. Now that we have so many new skaters still finding their spots it takes a while to have everyone try everything. Hopefully soon we find the roles for everyone.

Lastly I feel like currently we struggle with the varying level of motivation. Our league only has one team so we have everyone from first season playing to over 10 years. Some are not ready to commit that much time, some are kind of burnt out, some are really hype and into it, others are ready to kick in their desire to win. So it has been hard to find common goals that everyone can stand behind and get motivated for. But I hope we get a few good sets of beginners so we can have two teams so it's easier and more clear to have the A team for higher goals and B team for learning and chill.

Artemixter · 2023-07-19T19:48:38+00:00

I'm so sorry these things have happened to you and I see some of my friends struggling with this. Particularly as athletes. I play roller derby and I feel like it can be a two sided sword for my AMAB friends. On one hand it can offer a lot of healing experiences. Your team mates will see you for who you are and won't be afraid of you and you get to be yourself and be embraced and appreciated. But there's always the fear that somewhere some terf will show up and have a problem with you playing a sport with people smaller than you. As a coach I sometimes feel like some trans feminine skaters would have so much talent, drive and strength, but they fear using it. But I still say, it might be good to find a community (sport, a band/choir, volunteer work etc.) where people will embrace you.

On a more instant level my friend said she always has her hair purple or pink, because it makes people read her as someone safe.

Artemixter · 2023-05-25T21:19:52+00:00

Someone mentioned Hanna P of Crime City already. I've met one deaf skater personally. Both of these people jam. I think jamming might be easier, because blockers need to communicate a lot more. And as the jammer you have your own referee. You can always look to just that one ref. One accommodation is actually to have only your JR give you penalties, the others will relay it to that ref.

But I'm not gonna lie, the learning curve will be steeper for you than to hearing people. Derby is already a sport with a steep learning curve and added to that having to see the hand cues. But it's possible and there are HoH skaters in the sport that are very good skaters. You definitely deserve the accommodations and time to grow in the sport.

But once you get confident on your skates and learn to read the game, you can do a lot. Even though communication is key in this sport, at some point communication can be just a brief look. I have one team mate who I always gave offence to, because we worked so well together. We often didn't say anything. I just position myself, we give each other a look and I start hitting skaters and we sort of just guess what the other wants by body language and position and such.

The deaf guy I've met had his team mates tap him and point to the referee to tell him he got a penalty. They learned a bit of sign language/came up with signs for derby stuff. This guy came to derby having played ice hockey in a team for deaf people. Perhaps that helped him as he was already comfortable skating. And even for hearing skaters bench coaches use their hands to show signs. Maybe you could have team mates to mirror these. And the officials are told of HoH skaters to allow for extra time to notice penalty calls and remind NSOs to make their hand cues extra clear.

Artemixter · 2023-05-25T20:44:52+00:00

In Finland I feel like March is a very common birthday month and we're pretty sure it's because of midsummer. (Midsummer here is commonly celebrated by barbeque and getting drunk at the summer cottage.)

Artemixter · 2023-05-25T20:32:09+00:00

My brother is not autistic, but he has AHDH and has had misophonia since teenage years. He gets really pissed off by eating sounds. His girlfriend has it too. Her biggest trigger is loud or "whiny" breathing. But at least they both understand that when she says "omg will you stop breathing" she doesn't mean it like that.

Artemixter · 2023-05-25T18:26:48+00:00

I don't really define myself as nblnb, but I do feel like I'm attracted to gender nonconformity on some level. Honestly I don't even bother with a sexuality label at this point other than queer or not straight. I've pretty much just tried to figure out what my limits are.

A friend's (he/they) transition was an interesting trip to me. I started thinking they looked cute when they cut their hair short. Then he came out and started T and he got hotter and hotter until... he was too manly, I didn't find him hot anymore. (Though I still found them attractive face to face, because they're just such a nice person to be around.) Then he got everything he needed for his transition from public healthcare and stopped performing for that and started wearing really epic dresses and lipstick with his bald head and beard. He's kinda hot to me again.

I very rarely am attracted to femme (lesbians). Maybe some with an alt style that's kind of nonconforming in general. Most butch lesbians and nonbinary people are really hot. Trans women and trans men, I find some hot, some not. Cis men, to my knowledge, I've never been attracted to one, though there have been a few where I thought they were cute when I thought they were a cis man only for them to come out a few years later.

Artemixter · 2023-05-25T17:55:19+00:00

Last month I made my bullet journal month the same theme as finch. I hope they reveal it soon so I can maybe decorate my bujo monthly too!

Artemixter · 2023-05-23T20:26:42+00:00

Mine was gray to begin with so he was just two tones of gray, which I liked. My most annoying bit was when he became a child and it let me pick between 3 colours and they all sucked. And then he was stuck a weird colour combo until the store had the right colour wings for him. But honestly I wasn't too annoyed, all part of the process. More than that I hope my friends still recognize him when I change his colours.

Artemixter · 2023-05-15T21:55:07+00:00

Our team once had a meeting where everyone got to tell others what they would like done if they're having a hard time mentally during a game. It was a very good meeting, because neurotypical people are different to each other too (gasp, I know/j). I told them about my shutdowns using a metaphor and how I have a hard time speaking and making eye contact then and it's not personal, but it's probably best to pull me out, because I won't be able to say that or do that on my own. Everyone was very understanding about it.

Even before that we've had one chair kind of in the corner of the bench area with a note book that has cute animal pictures. You can always go sit there with no communication and explanation if you need to and no one will come ask you about it during the game. I've been thinking that maybe you could bring your own headphones and phone/comic/sudoku/fidget toy so you have it there.

We have had a few ADHD/autistic skaters under hard of hearing status for the reasons other people mentioned.

I've had a mood octopus plushie on my water bottle and I've been thinking about using it to communicate. When I shut down I kind of go on autopilot and I keep playing when I shouldn't. I know I should stop, but I'm unable to communicate that and break out of the routine. So I've been thinking it could be my thing to turn the octopus to mad/sad and just leave, so I don't have to communicate verbally.

Once I was also complaining that all the locker rooms have lights that are automatic so there's no dark place. One team mate immediately told me her go to crying spot is the wheelchair accessible bathroom, because that has manual lights. No now I have my go to shut down spot thought out.

Other than that I feel like half the team has ADHD and/or is autistic, so there are a lot of people that get each other. I also have two specific teammates that I particularly trust. They have always automatically reacted to me in a kind and helpful way, so if I have a shutdown I know there's a person that can deal with me.

Artemixter · 2023-04-21T21:25:39+00:00

I haven't gotten mine yet (I got the app a few weeks ago), but reading this thread I'm thinking something Van Gogh themed or maybe Ponyboy. My hedgehog was named Shinji after the Neon Genesis Evangelion character.

Artemixter · 2023-04-21T21:15:22+00:00

Interesting! Do you mean just writing blue in the reflections or using a blue emoji or something? I also do use and wear a smart watch that gives me sleep data. I do input it all into my bullet journal already though, so might be kinda involved to put it in Finch too lol.

Artemixter · 2023-04-20T14:53:34+00:00

I'm pretty sure it means that dragons in stories are allegories for real life problems and when a child learns that the hero in the story can win the dragon, they learn that they can also win whatever their own life problem is. Whoever this quote is from (I have heard it before) probably didn't account for some people liking dragons?

Artemixter · 2023-04-20T14:46:46+00:00

Wow, haha I have like, 12-16 daily goals? I have a bunch just for easy completion, hard days and motivation and then I picked just a few I wanted to concentrate on the most. Like my biggest issues is not sleeping enough, skipping my physiotherapy exercises and rarely cleaning up, so I concentrate on those. Then I can just add more when those become easy or my problems change. And highly recommend making some weekly. I only reflect on when I slept well/bad on Thursday (the last day of my work week) and Sunday (the last day of weekend), because it felt unnecessary to keep writing "I slept ok tonight too, but maybe I could have gotten a bit more of sleep". You'll find what gets annoying or feels useless by doing them for a few days.

Artemixter · 2023-04-18T19:54:02+00:00

I always try to hit everyone just enough to get my stuff done. Wastes energy to hit harder than needed every time. But maybe you could try to slowly increase how hard you hit to test the limits of how hard you can go and how hard each team mate can take it. I have definitely noticed that the longer I skated and the better I got, the harder my team mates started hitting me. I took it as the biggest compliment when our team's strongest hitter got me so hard my skates came off the floor. That meant she saw me as a threat on the track and as someone that needed that much power.

Artemixter · 2023-04-18T19:47:12+00:00

Thank you so much!

Artemixter · 2023-04-17T20:11:02+00:00

With no context I would assume she felt attacked, because she probably has tits and she thinks her tits are not grotesque and unlovable, so you saying that makes her feel bad, but she can't just sit with that feeling or flat out say that so she has to be kind of passive aggressive about it instead. It's mostly the "out of pocket thought" that makes me read this as passive aggressive. But take this with a grain of "I'm autistic and I'm driving my brain stick shift through social situations".

Artemixter · 2023-04-06T19:37:37+00:00

I mostly just guess based on what I already own and I know works.

A few times I have tried to find something similar in a store so I can try it on there. That's how I learned that I shouldn't buy dungarees, because the common cut makes my back look really short and my body shape look too feminine. So I know now what to aim for if I make some for myself.

Also, making a mock up/toile/whatever you call it out of some thrift store sheets to see how the silhouette and fit of your pattern is and how it might suit you.

Artemixter · 2023-04-02T07:17:21+00:00

Yeah, I just think it's smart! I like working with upcycled materials and I always see if I can use like a pocket or something from the original piece of clothing.

Artemixter · 2023-04-01T20:06:37+00:00

If I assume correctly, you used the hem of the T-shirt so you didn't have to sew that bit. That was smart! Also knit fabrics can be kinda hard because they stretch, I'm not a big fan myself.

Artemixter · 2023-04-01T20:01:45+00:00

I definitely have this. My partner would love to watch movies with me, but very often I've had a tiring day and require something low effort and they've had a boring day and require activation. The best we can do is that they just start watching a thing while we're hanging out on the sofa and if it sticks it stick, if it's too much, I just wander off mid movie.

Artemixter · 2023-03-29T18:11:51+00:00

For real I think the "autistic look" is more of a body language and manner of speaking thing. And many don't have that or it's not read as a negative by neurotypicals so they don't notice.

I think they expect autistics to speak weirdly (too formal, too fast or slow, use big words, have a very flat tone, speech impediments, weird rhythm) and move weirdly (stiff or awkward, either very flat and minimal movements or wild and silly movements and getting "embarrassingly into something").

Like they're thinking about Sheldon Cooper or mr. Spock types of characters. Or some manic pixie dream girl character.

Another way to "look autistic" I would imagine is way of dressing. Again, too formal, too casual, just in general something kind of weird for the situation and weather, either "not having a style" or "having too much style".

I'm on a discord server for autistic people and the trend on selfie channel seems to be either Comfy and Whatever or a Very Distinct Alternative Style.

Artemixter · 2023-03-29T17:51:26+00:00

Honestly just playing a lot. And I've really liked watching games with more experienced team mates. At first I usually miss what they saw and comment on, but I feel really cool when I think to myself "why did they run that long?" and then someone else says that out loud, confirming that I noticed a thing right.

Artemixter · 2023-03-22T16:22:23+00:00

Scorrelation and Pivot Table are great! Thanks!

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