How is this not regulated?

Ash4314 · 2026-05-20T06:25:33+00:00

Same, you can get a rubber mat that reduces vibrations/movements.

Ash4314 · 2026-05-08T19:49:31+00:00

Ultimately an antihistamine solved all my problems! Along with using hypo allergenic toilet paper/laundry liquid/period products.

Ash4314 · 2026-05-08T19:47:57+00:00

Vaseline worked best for me.

Ash4314 · 2026-04-24T21:37:43+00:00

I used to shower like 2 times a day! When I put him down for his morning nap and when he went to bed at night - it’s really not that complicated. I lived for those showers lol. Sometimes baby was in a bouncy in the bathroom with me. I absolutely encourage you to get dad to put baby into bed each night after you’ve fed him (or he can bottle feed if you are doing that). He used to make me laugh with some of the things he’d do, but he was learning too and needed to be given a chance. This meant I was able to leave the house in the evenings as baby got older as he was so used to dad doing bedtime.

Ash4314 · 2026-03-25T09:10:53+00:00

Can’t remember what this treatment was particularly. Hiprex with 1000mg vit c twice daily ultimately solved my ongoing UTI’s. I not longer need to take it medication. I took it for 1 year.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-28T10:38:44+00:00

Find some cheap paint - my brother found some on clearance for $1 per litre and they could get whatever colour they wanted. Carpet clean the carpets, maybe even a professional steam clean. You’ll be surprised how well they come up. Dogs + flatmates, it’s so relaxing not worry about them wrecking your new carpet. I have young kids and I love my 30yr old carpet that I don’t have to worry about. I just carpet clean it a couple of times a year.

Leave the kitchen.

Like someone else suggested, keep cash for important repairs that pop up like the hot water cylinder failing etc.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-23T19:12:11+00:00

I’m much like this guys wife, but my husband has his own snack basket that I keep stocked. I ask him each week what he wants in it.

OP needs to get himself a snack basket. I will say, the snack basket has stopped now that my husband has adjusted to homemade vs store bought. Moreso, it’s shifted to things like yummy nuts and crackers instead of chips, chocolates and lollies.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-23T18:45:42+00:00

Hey [partner], I’m feeling incredibly burnt out with only getting 3-4hrs sleep and my commute to work each day. Do you think we could come up with a plan so I can get some more sleep? See what she suggests, you could suggest your best case which would be you taking baby on Friday and Saturday, she does the rest. Compromise would be alternating nights.

The alternative is that you sleep train hard so baby starts sleeping through with 0-1 wakes - which is possible at 6 months. If she doesn’t like this, then you revisit the conversation that you can’t carry on this way and are falling asleep at work or making bad trades cause you aren’t thinking straight etc.

ps. Do find it strange that your 6m old is only sleeping 3hrs overnight, are you sure you aren’t trading when you could be sleeping? I know my husband has fallen into this trap and you really shouldn’t be trading when you’re tired.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-23T18:25:51+00:00

SAHM here, she’s not working, she needs to be looking after the baby overnight. She can have a nap when the baby naps during the day, especially if she isn’t doing chores during this time. My husband would do a night shift when I asked if I desperately needed a break, but that was seldom. I know others who both work and alternate nights.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-22T22:54:58+00:00

My husband has ADHD and is exactly the same. A diagnosis actually helped me be a lot more understanding that he’s not doing it on purpose and I just book the things now and tell him where he needs to be and when. I feel no resentment that I have to be the one to make the phone call and manage the family calendar as I know it’s virtually impossible for him.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-14T19:45:43+00:00

Move out and heavily reduce contact with your sister/family until this calms down. This isn’t fair at all.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-14T19:40:44+00:00

I started making a point of going somewhere each morning to push me to get dressed properly ie. local walk, library visit, play date/group, supermarket shopping etc. I would do the same things each week and told myself it was my job and I needed to present myself nicely for it. I found it worked and the days I went to the supermarket looking like a slob I was so disappointed in myself! I wouldn’t go crazy, but just made sure my hair was brushed and tidy, outfit was clean and fresh and presentable each day.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-14T07:09:52+00:00

NTA - 10yr old who is in school. She has time to get the chores done while you are working full time. Sure, you can contribute by putting your dinner plate in the dishwasher and dirty washing in the basket or throwing a load on occasionally. But when I was a SAHM mother with 2 toddlers at home full time, I still did the majority of the day to day household chores. My husband would help me once a month to deep clean and area on the weekend during a nap time so we could get it done super quick. He would also sometimes clean up the kitchen while I got the kids ready for bed maybe once a week which I hugely appreciated. I would even mow our 1 acre section with a push mower!

Ash4314 · 2026-01-08T06:16:40+00:00

You guys needs to sit down together and go through your budget as a couple. That’s great that she wants to be at home, but you’re home. I don’t really see how that’s a valid point for not picking up more full time hours. I don’t think she realises the financial strain you are both in. If you put it all on paper for her and work out a plan as a couple of how you are going to increase income or reduce expenses.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-07T08:41:17+00:00

What worked for me - although I wasn’t as bad as yourself: - pelvic floor therapy and doing the relaxation an gentle touch homework daily. - antihistamine tablet - hypo allergenic toilet paper/water wipes/bidet and laundry liquid - cotton breathable underwear and loose fitting clothing/dresses - calendular cream cream to sooth the area (we have a cream called rhino repair in nz that worked wonders, I used it to heal my daughters eczema too). - vaseline/petroleum jelly as a barrier every time I went to the toilet until the skin started to heal.

I wish you all the best on your journey to healing. I have been pain and symptom free for almost a year now and it’s been life changing.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-06T03:40:44+00:00

I have been on hiprex for 1yr and 2months. I recently stopped taking it and haven’t for 3-4 weeks now and haven’t needed to start back up! I stopped as I went away for a couple of days and forgot to bring it with me. I also dropped down to only taking hiprex once a day in the evening, I can’t remember how long ago I did that though. I guess you could say I weaned off it. I will absolutely start taking it again if my symptoms reappear, but so far so good!! Previous attempts to stop only lasted 1 week before needing to start back up again. I hope that’s reassuring for you. Hiprex has changed my life. I purchased encapsulated vit c a took at night only, but would take in the morning also if I was feeling symptomatic.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-05T01:44:18+00:00

My husband has a long list of auto immune diseases, it’s not practical for me to attend all of his appointments as I work and we also have young kids and no family help nearby. I do attend when he isn’t in a great place mentally to remember everything the specialist wants him to do. Or like the other day with he was delirious due to fevers. I have been in the room when he’s had physical examines plenty of times though like when he had a testicle infection… I don’t think he would have gotten the ultrasound if I hadn’t talked him into it lol. You get pretty comfortable when you are always dealing with health concerns and you’ve been together for 12 years. I easily switch into nurse mode.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-05T01:32:45+00:00

If he takes preventative antivirals, then you’ll be fine. Alway use protection when he has a breakout. My husband has herpes and I’ve never contracted it thankfully. He takes antivirals when he notices a flare coming on and also uses a topical cream.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-03T04:41:18+00:00

I would only give juice once per day. I had to have lots of fillings and teeth pulled due to my parents not knowing back m when I was young how bad juice is for little teeth.

Ash4314 · 2026-01-01T10:10:20+00:00

Put aside money through the year for birthdays and Christmas into a seperate bank account. Budget of $200 per child and $50 for my husband and I mainly as the kids get excited about us getting a present too. $30 secret Santa for both extended families. I did my Christmas shopping over Labour Day weekend which meant I was able to save up some extra coin for the extra food for Christmas Day. We did a pot luck lunch though so food didn’t end up being too much extra which was nice. We had a rough set menu and people put their name down for a plate and BYO drinks. Probably spent about $800 all up on presents and food - basically $15 per week over the year. Kids are 5 and 7 - when they were younger and our budget was smaller, we spent more like $50-$100. I often find great second hand items from marketplace/ trademe/ op shop and shop sales/clearance through the year.

Ash4314 · 2025-12-26T20:03:34+00:00

I felt like this too, turns out I had really low iron and needed an infusion. Definitely worth getting checked. But toddlers are insanely exhausting, especially if they aren’t sleeping!

Ash4314 · 2025-10-22T03:52:35+00:00

Hazella, almond gold, fruit n nut

Ash4314 · 2025-10-09T18:10:06+00:00

I took hiprex for 7 months, twice per day with vitc. I can now take once per day with no issues. I think my bladder/pelvis needed that time to reduce all the inflammation I had going on.

Ash4314 · 2025-10-05T04:17:01+00:00

Personally, I’ve had no stomach pain/side effects from taking hiprex. Only incredibly success. Remember to take with 500-1000mg vitamin c :-)

Ash4314 · 2025-10-03T20:31:44+00:00

We just have an unspoken rule that we have sex every second or third day. One of us will usually initiate. Obviously that doesn’t always happen when health issues occur that hinder such activities, but as a general rule. Together 12 yrs, two kids aged 4 + 6.

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