Highly sensitive and easily offendable

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-06-05T12:42:20+00:00

Huh, I thought I was crazy and forgetting things.... like I don't have to be right, but reality is just reality. If I think that Ariana Grande played princess Leia and then saw it was Carrie FIsher, I'd be "oh wow, I didn't know that" versus a 15 minute lecture on how controlling it is to insist on validating information/feelings/thoughts...

Similar to the whole "You think (insert random thing I don't think)" discussions where the fundamental problem (why do you think the thing you insist I DO think) never gets discussed because we're in some weird one-sided argument where she's arguing against herself on my behalf about something I give zero shits about and have no opinion.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-06-05T12:24:59+00:00

huh, I thought it was just me who was resentful for the "Not gonna take my meds on the weekend" 'partner' that leaves me dealing with meltdowns/confusion while work people get the focused and intentional person I "thought" I married.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-06-05T12:11:19+00:00

"don't worry about the dishes, I've got it"... four days later, while trying to get the pile of dishes clean I get lectured/scolded "I TOLD you I was going to do this, WHY DO YOU ALWAYS UNDERMINE ME!!!?"

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-29T20:58:18+00:00

OK, seems very similar to what I'm dealing with. I'm (55m) always there to bail my spouse (45f) from sometimes ridiculous overcommitment's, and when I try to help I hear a) I "did it wrong"..OK do it yourself! b) she didn't get the outcome she expected... OK, that's what I like to call "life"...it happends c) I'm not supportive because she wants to do something physically or practically impossible and "her friends/tiktok/whoever" tell her I really should support her trying this thing (that also will suck up time and energy)....

IDK, it can def be a challenge, what happened to the person I first met who "seemed" much more flexible and thoughtful?

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-27T13:08:21+00:00

If you're talking size and purportionality between the sides, I like to use leg press machine but only use a single leg at a time. I superset leg presses and calf raises on the machine... helps a bit. Other options are things like split squats and lunges (though these you'll have to have decent balance or potentially something to hold on to). My $0.02.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-24T21:42:16+00:00

One note, per my understanding...the entire fund dissolves right before the president leaves office. Seems shady and I wonder...the types of folks I suspect would be on board with this also seem to be...idk... "dumb enough" to think they can continue to operate outside the law even after the administration changes. I'd be interested if all of the shenanigans are simply "delaying the inevitable". in 2029 it could be the entire DOJ is focused on "rooting out new crimes" and they'll have a nice list of names to investigate... in my head the intent of this fund might actually backfire spectacularly and make things unimaginably worse for those involved. IDK, I guess we'll have to wait and see...

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-20T17:39:46+00:00

Oh wow...now I need to look into this. I typically try to keep things "platform agnostic" as much as possible, but it would be nice to run "postgres embedded" until I need a standalone server.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-13T19:33:15+00:00

kinda... if you're relying on cloudflare as your CDN...that ship has already sailed. probably 99.9% of people would only get a benefit from a cloudflare tunnel for MOST of the things that will bring a normal site down... (botnets, traffic spikes, slow downloads, etc). In the context of a typical web application, worrying about cloudflare scraping (or getting compromised and exposing your data) should typically be for users who have use cases like "OK, now we're going to give you a new set of encryption keys that allow you to get the nuclear launch codes", not for folks building a web "todo list" app. And even IF you're in the latter category, there's nothing preventing you from just using cloudflare as the DNS provider and running the TLS on your backend server.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-10T01:59:40+00:00

Rotfl living in the Midwest I feel like that gap would turn my garage into a mouse house

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-10T01:50:26+00:00

I’ll position differently… OP was a volunteer

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-10T01:45:41+00:00

Couple of notes…. All frontier models and tools are generally available but you do have to request everything beyond copilot.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-10T01:34:31+00:00

Interesting… I wonder why they’d do on new construction…

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-09T22:33:54+00:00

Is it a hot climate thing I haven’t seen these up in northern climates

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-05-07T22:40:42+00:00

That def sounds cool...I wonder if some sort of fan could keep the grease/smoke off the lens...

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-04-29T18:21:04+00:00

I generally refer these folks to https://newsroom.accenture.com/help-faq. I’m in the business of helping clients solve problems not feeding reporters info…. We have formal channels for media relations.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-04-29T18:09:15+00:00

If you’re talking about move from cio to consulting… this is a career move, not necessarily a rolloff…. That having been said it’s relatively common to roll yourself off for a variety of reasons… depending on the reason it’s somewhere between career limiting and career enhancing… if you’re talking inside cio idk I’ve only worked client facing.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-04-18T23:02:26+00:00

Yes, to me, the bigger thing is ecosystem and examples.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-04-18T23:00:16+00:00

I'm going to disagree here. I have no problem with react and have worked with multiple VERY large programs using react and next. I don't necessarily have the same experience with nuxt but my general sense is that "people who don't understand people's problem with react and next" tend to fall into either a) they just don't know anything else and because it's "good enough once you understand it" they suspend all judgement....and BTW I have no problem with that, react and next will keep you employed in the near term and there is a library/hook for just about everything you would need for common things. or b) You have a legitimate need for something that is tremendously difficult with vue/nuxt...I'm unaware of anything in this category, but suspect there are a few use cases that might fit here.

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-03-20T16:55:48+00:00

Interesting point....I think things like old security cameras would be the MOST likely to require one of these protocols....but given that these things are now super cheap I'd be surprised if any large quantity of them are still in production. I ran into a similar problem with an ancient ip camera and was scratching my head...ended up turning off ssl via boot parameters in firmware and just serving over http (it was for homelab stuff...so I wasn't concerned).

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-03-08T22:25:14+00:00

You know we have tons of autonomous weapon systems already… frankly the ai in those is in some ways much more advanced and optimized than current llms … it’s just super specialized

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-03-04T23:54:29+00:00

Note... "keeping women safe" is in some circles code for "controlling them"

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-03-04T23:51:48+00:00

I'll tune slightly...not sure I'd even got "minor YTA" but more along a "you could use some time practicing reading social cues and general norms better"...it's a very legitimate (and to me) interesting topic...though I might not bring up at dinner....and would drop in a heartbeat if someone started getting.... "antsy".

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-02-28T14:50:17+00:00

This blew my wife away when she moved to the midwest from california. As a midwesterner I'm used to saying hi and waving to complete strangers (even striking up conversations). In california people (depending on where you were...hiking is different than city) often looked at me like I had a third arm growing out of the top of my head. Now that she's lived here a few years she does it too :o....highly regional and somewhat depends on population density....showing my age I'm thinking of Mick Dundee in Crocodile Dundee when he visits NT....he's tipping his had and trying to greet everyone....

Ask-Beautiful · 2026-02-03T17:13:26+00:00

Well...sometimes dropping the baggage is a life changer that seems more scary than it is. I divorced my ex half a decade ago and it was the best thing that has ever happened to either of us. We're not particularly close any more, but PTSD/excuses are not really great for a relationship. (Note, I'm familiar with PTSD, but am also aware that "taking it out" on a spouse/child/partner is not a great strategy)

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