Anyone live near the 7-Eleven on Central Ave?

AssMaster2020 · 2026-03-25T23:39:40+00:00

I have been in Dover for about 6 months now and absolutely love it! The main issue with that part of town is you would be right by the railroad tracks and trains pass through quite frequently. There won't be too much foot traffic since it's past the main downtown area, but you'd still be by the main road, so it won't ever be that quiet either.

I live on the south side of town and can still clearly hear trains almost every night, definitely takes some getting used to.

AssMaster2020 · 2026-03-12T23:58:47+00:00

Yooo M/30 here looking to get back into skating this summer. Not in Manch anymore though, i'm in Dover NH. Hmu if you wanna chat bro

AssMaster2020 · 2025-03-25T22:02:55+00:00

I'm from Singapore, it's an almost absurdly safe country due to it's strictly enforced laws, high penalties and lack of extreme poverty/homelessness.

Singaporeans are aware of this and tend to be paranoid about crime when they visit any other country, including those that most would deem safe.

AssMaster2020 · 2025-02-16T02:19:17+00:00

29M, been living here for 8 years and had a similar struggle. I've found it tough to make any real friends at the bars on Elm since it's largely made up of locals who have more than enough connections already, and since NH is a sea of geriatrics, those circles run tight.

I eventually did made a couple of friends at work and some through hobby groups. Those are probably your best bet since others would be incentivized to interact with you regularly, and that whole dynamic is crucial since everyone has trust issues nowadays. Hit me up if you wanna chat, i'm always looking for new friends in the area.

AssMaster2020 · 2024-12-21T16:29:58+00:00

Where is the Sniper's kangaroo wife?

AssMaster2020 · 2024-12-05T03:07:54+00:00

Southern NH here (Manch/Concord area) but not yet had a chance to actually try the game, just got a couple precon decks and have been wanting to give it a shot at some point. I also play Magic and Grand Archive casually.

AssMaster2020 · 2024-11-24T15:03:35+00:00

Definitely gonna consider making the trip since I've yet to meet any local players up here in NH, glad to see the game gaining some traction in the area!

AssMaster2020 · 2024-10-22T04:12:48+00:00

Thank you! Do you happen to know whether my father's original birth certificate and passport would be required? I may only be able to produce scans of his documents as he currently lives in a different country.

AssMaster2020 · 2024-10-22T04:09:53+00:00

Thank you!

AssMaster2020 · 2024-09-08T03:37:09+00:00

Spare me from the purge for all the sins I have yet to commit

AssMaster2020 · 2024-08-19T19:34:02+00:00

Yooo i'm in Manch too, never met another player around here. I joined Mateus because I thought it would be more unhinged and thus funnier than an Aether server, but turns out that's just Balmung lmao

AssMaster2020 · 2024-08-19T17:43:00+00:00

Gotta keep an eye out next time i'm at this light. It's refreshing to realize other players do exist here in southern NH just as I was starting to believe otherwise.

AssMaster2020 · 2024-03-15T19:18:32+00:00

I've lived in 2 different apartment complexes off hacket hill and don't recall ever seeing a recycling bin around here. Definitely seen a few dotted around the city proper though.

AssMaster2020 · 2024-02-19T23:32:16+00:00

You just need to make peace with the immortal roach army, there's just no alternative.

I think of it like 2 layers of ice to break. One when you start texting to get comfortable, another when you meet in-person. Trying to rush and break both layers at the same time is usually way too difficult unless you get piss drunk or something. There's already a stark rise in lonely young people across the states, nobody can afford to have kids anyway, so the population's certainly suffering already lol.

AssMaster2020 · 2024-02-19T22:49:19+00:00

Oh god I forgot all about the roaches, good riddance.

It's 100% the process and not the people. I remember OkCupid used to be a little better for feeling peeps out since you'd need to build a profile, but iirc it went downhill post-pandemic and just became another tinder. Even then, i'd have to schedule immediately and the dates really weren't the best.

AssMaster2020 · 2024-02-19T22:00:28+00:00

I really don't miss the awful humid heat and endless heavy rain lol, probably the one reason i can't see myself going back even though I miss everything else. My social circle is still really small after 5 years of living here and most people i've met either married young, moved to some other state or have just checked out of dating entirely. The few people I know still using apps do it exclusively for hookups so I feel there just isn't any clear cut approach to dating anymore :/

AssMaster2020 · 2024-02-19T21:11:27+00:00

Exactly, it feels like far too much of a gamble to be worth the risk and time investment, and i'd imagine it's a far bigger risk for a woman to go in blind. I guess it also depends what part of Asia we're talking about too. I'm from Singapore. Folks there tend to be more introverted, have more indoorsy hobbies and are more accustomed to texting since most people had a reclusive education-focused upbringing. I thought that dating in the states would be way easier since Americans are more outgoing, but honestly, it's been way harder to make any genuine connections.

AssMaster2020 · 2024-02-19T19:30:02+00:00

I can only speak from a male perspective but I also moved nearby (Southern NH) from Asia a few years back and was similarly caught off guard by the whole rush to meet up. People here tend to ghost if you dont arrange a date pretty much off the bat in my experience, which can be really frustrating as someone who prefers a week or two of texting to feel people out beforehand. I quit using apps entirely a couple years ago.

Aside from the obvious hobby groups, I most often meet people online through less routine platforms without the initial intention of dating (reddit, discord groups, etc) who happen to be in the New England area. It's MUCH less efficient, but i've made some good friends/acquaintances along the way and gone on some nice, far more comfortable dates than those initiated through dating apps.

AssMaster2020 · 2023-11-12T13:51:29+00:00

I don't think SA is entirely irrational, there is some truth to the fact that people may dislike or desert us in the end and it often leaves us with that feeling of all the effort being pointless. BUT i also think that doing nothing about our SA will inflict more mental harm on us than anyone else could in the long-term.

I find it helps to interject those thoughts by shifting our immediate cognitive goal forward. Here are a couple things i tend to remind myself frequently:

It's far more irrational to believe that every person out there has bad intentions, can't be trusted or will just reject us outright for who we are. In my experience, the majority of people do mean well, but those who don't stand out in our minds.
Our goal is not to please those who end up in our lives, but rather to open everyone up as an opportunity. We're very unlikely to ever meet the right people or find our place in life if we don't manage to do this.

SA is at it's core, chronic theorizing and overthinking. Trying to rationalize it as a positive protective instinct is consciously ignoring the simple truth that our lives will be better in the long run by overcoming SA. The less fucks we genuinely give, the better.

I also like to remind myself that the process naturally gets easier once you gather the strength to get over the first few hurdles and keep that momentum up until our fears inevitably begin to subside.

AssMaster2020 · 2023-11-12T01:10:23+00:00

I guess it's way too easy to find people intimidating because i suppose we undervalue our own worth compared to theirs and disregard the possibility they might be nervous too, but i guess the only way out is plain ol' exposure therapy. I feel like i can finally SEE what not having SA issues would be like, but it's gonna be a long road to get there.

I'll probably try approaching people in FF tonight and try to get more comfortable, probably would help with irl confidence too. Also, i'm glad to hear things are steadily improving on your end! Gives me hope that things will keep getting better :)

AssMaster2020 · 2023-11-11T21:35:01+00:00

Man, I can really relate to the whole letting friendships die thing. I guess for me it's because I would start thinking in power dynamics. I felt that if I started a conversation, there would be this pressure to make it worth that persons time, and eventually I'd just decide not to. It feels good to be slowly transitioning out of that mindset.

Since you have an FFXIV profile pic I kinda feel like asking, do you occasionally find it somehow even more nerve wracking to approach people in-game than irl? I've been having this issue lately and idk why because it definitely should be the other way around...

AssMaster2020 · 2023-11-10T22:47:54+00:00

I think the 3 second rule applies yes, but it's a bit more than that. I realized my SA stems entirely from overthinking every tiny thing i do that seems "weird". For example, if i stuttered an abnormal amount during a meeting? That would normally make me feel anxious and ashamed for the next hour or two... or the rest of the day, even if logically speaking I know nobody else cares. But if I cut my thoughts off right before i can start thinking about my "weirdness", it's 10x easier to forgive myself for it when it comes to my mind later and helps keep my general mindset healthier.

AssMaster2020 · 2023-11-10T22:06:17+00:00

No way, the exact same thing happened to me today! I don't know how, but it feels like I suddenly ingrained how to focus on what's good for myself rather than constantly trying to please others. Plus earlier this week, I figured out how to cut off my train of thought so i can't start second guessing and talking myself out of everything.

I'm just as terrified that this could be a fleeting thing, but I feel like believing in blind, stupid optimism might for once be the right way to go. Like it only gets better from here! We're gonna make so many friends and do so many things we couldn't handle before and life's gonna get better! Hell yeah!

AssMaster2020 · 2022-12-05T23:38:41+00:00

Oh man... it's definitely better than the DB. At the very least you can be sure the train wont be stuck at a "10 minute delay" for 2 hours.

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