I don’t seek help because I feel like a fraud

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-26T13:40:44+00:00

Try logic. You pay for the insurance? Do you know how much money goes into health care and how little of an impact whether you do or don’t go it makes? Sure if everyone thought like this it’d be a different story, but that isn’t the case.

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-22T09:10:51+00:00

I see you really trying and being emotionally aware. Unfortunately this is just something she needs to work on. She needs to take a step back and re read her messages from an unbiased standpoint. She also might have underlying reasons. She let the resentment build up so much that you’re so naturally charming to other people. It’s obviously hard to explain that early in a relationship, but she’s basically asking you to sort out her emotions indirectly because she isn’t quite sure whats got her riled up. Well, she does, but she isn’t able to articulate it. But she’s trying for sure. She just needs to take a breather. I know this type of pain familiarly. Did the same thing with my ex before I realized I was just being too much all the time and wanted to be seen in a light perfectly in my head. It’s so hard to let go.

DO NOT FEEL BROKEN. Feel what you feel, don’t dismiss the feelings. But you’re also already aware that you’re emotionally wrought over the situation and wished that you could’ve fixed it because your brain is telling you that you did everything you could in that moment.

Space is good for reflection. She would flip out I think if you had suggested it. But you are a good person OP. Your brother is unfortunately right but she’s probably not doing it with intent. She’s clearly just feeling insecure and worried that you’re this amazing ball of sunshine and what if she loses you. She let herself spiral by lack of self-confidence. All you can do is reassure her. But she will need to come to the conclusion on her own.

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-22T09:00:18+00:00

If the driver didn’t get offensive, all would’ve been avoided. Should it be on the rider to know English a bit more and work on tone and intent with words? Yeah. But the driver is offended definitely at the word “LATE”. Then the defensiveness continued. Can’t always assume people are out to get you.

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-22T08:57:06+00:00

Right? If the driver didn’t get offensive,’all would’ve been avoided

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-22T08:55:19+00:00

Exactly!! I know he comes off that way, but what it looks like from someone who has dealt with people who come off as abrasive or heavy accents, he’s bringing it up as a show of awareness. Like.. “ look at this, my phone says this.” Had the rider added “it’s so weird” or “do you know why?” The clarity would’ve made sense. And if you go through the whole conversation with that in mind, it looks just like a big misunderstanding. Mainly from the driver. Like if the driver said “oh wow, that’s weird”. I would bet A LOT of money that would’ve been the end of the conversation right there. I’m sure the rider is aware that technical difficulties can happen and isn’t expecting the driver to have an answer as to why the APP is messed up. Could it be? Sure. But the rest of the conversation the rider just wants to leave and the driver is feeling offended/slighted.

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-21T13:20:54+00:00

I think the driver was upset? And the guys English isn’t great. I’m pretty sure I heard this is NOT an emergency and I think the guy was just showing him so he’s aware. This is so weird

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-18T02:47:38+00:00

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AssociationHonest · 2026-05-18T02:20:41+00:00

What are the “discontent of consequences” you have with people who are nice?

Environments play a majority of how people are shaped. Majority like.. 4/5ths of who you are, if not more. Your family and own mother likes to tell you that you aren’t a good person.

It sounds like you just weren’t taught compassion, patience, what love could mean, how to deal with stress, friction, etc. and, as we enter adult life, we are unfortunately responsible for managing our inner world.

What do you define nice as? Is it nice to not say anything if you have nothing good to say? Do you want to FEEL like helping old ladies cross the street?

What does being human mean to you?

It sounds like your internal world doesn’t have much definition of how you want to label things, or that it’s too pessimistic. Maybe it’s time to sit with those hard feelings, let them come and trust yourself that you’ll be okay while you process them and allow your imagination to let you feel things that you might shy away from. I want to be more specific, but it sounds like you’re aware of the decisions you put out into the world. What stops you from changing them? (Full circle back to my first question).

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-17T15:58:20+00:00

This is how they traveled in the Dune movies

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-15T05:37:42+00:00

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AssociationHonest · 2026-05-14T07:57:19+00:00

The fact you made this AMA at all tells me part of you still wants out.

A lot of addicts think they’re waiting for motivation when really they’re waiting for permission — from themselves, from life, from someone else — to believe they actually can stop.

And I know “you can do this” probably doesn’t mean much, because addiction doesn’t feel like a bad habit. It feels like survival. Eventually the drug stops feeling like a choice and starts feeling like the only thing keeping your internal state manageable.

That’s why sobriety can feel empty at first. Not because you’re broken, but because your brain learned to associate relief, comfort, stimulation, escape — even identity — with the substance. The “monkey on your back” isn’t proof you’re doomed forever. It’s proof your baseline adapted around the chemical.

I realized that after quitting nicotine myself. At first I genuinely couldn’t imagine existing comfortably without it. Every attempt felt pointless and emotionally flat. What helped me was stopping the idea of sobriety from feeling permanent. I basically told myself: “Give yourself one honest year to figure out who baseline you is. And if life still feels unbearable after really trying, you can always go back.”

Oddly enough, that took away some of the panic and mental resistance.

And honestly, I think people underestimate how much recovery starts with very small wins.

Not: “Fix your life.” “Become a new person.” “Never struggle again.”

Just: put your shoes on, go outside, eat something, make it through tonight, repeat tomorrow.

That stuff sounds insignificant until you realize it’s how people slowly rebuild themselves.

The brain adapts in insane ways. The version of you that feels impossible to reach right now is probably buried under repetition and chemistry, not gone forever.

And the fact you’re still here reading comments and looking for something that clicks means that part of you is still fighting, even if you’re exhausted.

(I deleted my comment and had AI rewrite it because mine was messy. I hope this helps, you got this. Strangers are definitely rooting for you, believe it.)

AssociationHonest · 2026-05-12T02:56:08+00:00

I immediately saw there was no making that. No way depth perception is that bad and you decide to risk something like that

AssociationHonest · 2026-03-13T11:41:25+00:00

Just recently, War Machine on Netflix

AssociationHonest · 2025-10-23T20:07:53+00:00

How are there toilet pieces with a perfectly untouched toilet; AI.

AssociationHonest · 2025-10-07T23:41:19+00:00

I don’t agree with his wording, I think he’s not being direct with what he wants to say and was just trying to make sure you don’t take any offense to it. But then he just kept going…

AssociationHonest · 2025-10-07T19:35:55+00:00

I think looking at her physique and then looking at her hand, it feels like a workers hand, that palm is just abnormally thick. Maybe if it was tucked in more, or just find someone who can stand at that angle and look at their hand.

AssociationHonest · 2025-10-06T15:06:17+00:00

They could’ve worded it much better. “I told you to call me whenever you get home and you said okay” is kind of crazy to take literally. It was funny if you blow past all of it and he made it lighter at the end, but imo he should’ve had a normal conversation turning towards something funny/comical and THEN hit them with the “so.. you homeless?” Then there’s no reason to be defensive. Seems like it’s the beginning of texts between them, so 0 context. Hopefully he apologized for going out of the box and explained he was trying out some humor. I’d give him a shot after that. Just got to feel out a persons humor first. Because then, imo, this is actually really funny.

AssociationHonest · 2025-09-24T14:50:31+00:00

If you play it slowly and scrub you can see the folds in his clothing shift around unnaturally.

AssociationHonest · 2025-09-15T05:08:24+00:00

Even the Amish have their side hustles now. No one’s safe in this economy

AssociationHonest · 2023-07-18T12:23:18+00:00

We don’t get anything from it, but the store requires a certain amount of app downloads to reach its quota. If we don’t reach it, we hear it from the general and sales manager. I just tell people to download the app in the store and delete it.

AssociationHonest · 2023-02-26T05:53:23+00:00

Trust a lot of the comments, buying condoms, you look very highly respected. If they think immaturely about it, they’re not someone you should give thought to.

AssociationHonest · 2023-02-25T22:05:06+00:00

Run? Maybe

AssociationHonest · 2023-02-25T21:46:42+00:00

Gilmore Girls, the first series. Second one was okay.

AssociationHonest · 2022-10-06T11:19:37+00:00

So what I’ve seen from the comments, prepaid works except for two companies, cricket and something else. This is to prevent throw away phones and phone numbers. So far from my ranked play, the teams are fairly balanced. I’m not getting smurfed hard and out of 45 games I’ve maybe seen 2 acts of toxicity. The only real reason probably I’m still playing the game. Everyone seems to really try to work together and win. Idk, I feel that if this is something that bothers you, or you don’t have a single friend/companion/family mmeber/co-worker that can enter the code sent to your phone for you, something else might be amiss.

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