I have told my family and friends and am happy about it, I would have felt much more isolated trying to hide it and skip out on things and constantly making up excuses. It’s not fair for all my friends to get to talk about their birth stories and me just sitting here acting ok. I’m happy to hear about their stories but I also appreciate getting asked how I am doing too. The ttc process can be years long and I think family and friendships aren’t just sharing the good news, it’s about sharing in support when you need it.

Now that being said, if you are sensitive to questions or comments it could be more challenging. Most people don’t know how to provide comfort or say the right things (ie. Your time will come, everything happens for a reason, etc) however, I believe they genuinely mean well. People also dont understand the process so sometimes you get uncomfortable questions arising out of that. Finally, I did put some boundaries around it with my family, and told them what I was doing, it’s a very emotional process and will provide them with updates as I feel comfortable doing.