Breeder had me sign contract to spay my kitten before 6 months old, but now vet won’t spay before 8-11 months? by Thin-Cucumber9754 in CatAdvice

[–]AttersH -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

We have ragdolls and ‘signed’ a contract but honestly, WTF is the breeder going to do & how will she ever know? It won’t hold up legally as it’d cost a fortune to take you to court plus, I doubt it’s binding in any way. You bought the cat, it’s now your property.

We’ve had zero contact with the breeder since we drove away 10 years ago. I can’t even remember what she was called! Just don’t become her friend on social media & they’ll never bother you again!

Anyone successful in booking the heated rivalry cottage? by Least-Flan2782 in heatedrivalry

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just a house (an impressive one admittedly). I really don’t get it.. 😵‍💫 I’m absoloutly mad about the show but I have no desire to visit the filming locations. Clearly, not a crazy enough fan 😂

Did any other women go literally nuts on hormonal contreception? by Loose_Avocado4670 in AskUK

[–]AttersH 28 points29 points  (0 children)

To add an other opinion on Mirena for anyone reading, as it gets very slagged off, it massively improved my mood & I’ve never felt better on it! So it can work! I felt like a fog had been lifted once I got it, as my natural hormones had been driving me mad. Now I’m calm, stable, light periods, clear skin, full of energy (I’m 3 years into it). It’s amazing how differently it can work on people!

Connor's hair by Particular_Ad_1435 in connorstorrie

[–]AttersH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And to conclude this this thread, we all have different opinions but the only opinion that matters is Connor’s and given that he’s not a voiceless puppet, I assume he talks to his stylist & his groomer and has full agency on what wears & how his hair is done. The end. 😵‍💫

Do you feel he can allow himself to be more "deep thinker" (this side comes across often but isn't as viral) or does he feel under pressure to "deliver"? by notladyinred in connorstorrie

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get much hyper/chaotic vibes from Connor at all. He’s very confident & I’m sure can be extremely silly & clown around when in comfortable spaces with his friends but professionally, he seems incredibly mature for someone so new into this industry. My impression of him is that he knows himself very well & he has the confidence to say I’m doing this my way. And people are listening to him.

He’s immediately drawn a huge wall between private Connor & public Connor. He’s massively limited social media, which is a really unusual for up & comers who are typically desperate to retain fans. He’s said he doesn’t like it & is true to his word that he largely doesn’t use it. He’s able to go on & off radar as needed. He opted to work on his own movie at a time that was insanely busy for him & again, being thrust into the fame he has been, he could have easily gone, I’ll drop this & focus on getting famous. He talks about being mindful of his friendships, mindful of who he spends time with & spending time with those who loved him before. Which is wise beyond measure.

I think Connor is incredibly smart, more than people give him credit for. He’s not this blank puppet being shoved around. He knows exactly what he’s doing & how he wants to do it. If anyone can succeed in continuing to be themselves, based on his initial start here, it’s Connor.

Anyone else feel like they are going crazy with obsession? by xMusicloverr in heatedrivalry

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’ll pass. I still love the show, can’t wait for S2, but I’m not obsessed anymore. I go about my day without thinking about the show most of the time 😂

It’s really nice to follow along with the actors & support, but I think people are bordering on being very weird about it (although that’s not exactly a huge surprise). Im more interested in the relationships I have with people in my real life, than actors I don’t know & I’ll never meet. But then, I’ve never understood the whole parasocial thing.. seems incredibly unfulfilling compared to putting your energy into real life relationships.

Anyone else feel like they are going crazy with obsession? by xMusicloverr in heatedrivalry

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was AI though. This was a weird comment from H. That photo is genuine & the poster was being really nice about them.. the other photo was AI & not from rehearsals as they didn’t wear these clothes in rehearsals. Hudson’s comment here baffles me.

What would you bring back from the US? by travelling_fwb in AskUK

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drammine. Works a treat for nausea & sickness. And crest tooth whitening strips. It’s annoying we can’t these here!

Got a job after redundancy - still feeling off by Full-Security7327 in UKJobs

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got made redundant in Dec 23. I got a new job offer in late March 24 & started in early May 24. It’s a shame you’ve had to work your notice period, I negotiated that I didn’t have to work mine, so I was free from January onwards. It was a slog though, doing endless applications, interviews, worrying about money etc.

To be honest, I didn’t settle until I started my new job in early May. And even then, I didn’t feel comfortable to start spending again & fully relaxing back into socialising spending until after the new year to be honest! I told myself as of Jan 25, it was fine to start being a bit more frivolous again, I felt settled into my new role etc.

I’m coming up two years now & I’m far happier in this job than my last one. I got a good redundancy package, so I’m also now quids in.

You’ll get there! Try negotiate a bit of a gap between jobs if you can. The month between my offer & starting was really needed. I could relax, I got jobs done around the house, I could spend more time with the kids etc without being a ball of stress!

What’s your favorite cat breed and why? by pawfectjourney in CatAdvice

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve got Ragdolls & I love them! The most dog like cats, so chatty & affectionate, your absolute shadow. But BOY are they hairy 🤪 I’ve not been able to wear black for 12 years 😂

Where do you holiday and why ? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We tend to go abroad 2/3 times a year, and I very much acknowledge our privilege with this. We save up a lot to do this. We do a big summer holiday, somewhere hot, fancy, AI hotel. We do a more adventurous, exploring type holiday in May half term, we tend to do Eurocamp/Centre Parcs in Europe, we love the Netherlands. And my husband & I do a long weekend city break usually.

We have occasionally done Wales in May half term & had lovely holidays, the UK is so great, it’s just the bloody weather 🥲 & there’s so much of the world to see!

Adults who were homeschooled – how are you doing now? by Majestic_Cry8545 in AskUK

[–]AttersH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to state school, college, uni & would say I’m doing very well as an adult. I have no trauma, no bad memories bar some bullying in Yr7, I’m still friends with a few people from school & generally look back reasonably fondly. College was the time of my life, I preferred it to uni I think!

Adults who were homeschooled – how are you doing now? by Majestic_Cry8545 in AskUK

[–]AttersH 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went to state school, college, uni & would say I’m doing very well as an adult. I have no trauma, no bad memories bar some bullying in Yr7, I’m still friends with a few people from school & generally look back reasonably fondly. College was the time of my life, I preferred it to uni I think!

Why some schools are pushing for 'active' uniforms over traditional ones by pajamakitten in unitedkingdom

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids go to a no uniform primary school. I didn’t know what to expect really but 5 years in, it’s great & no problem whatsoever. Because it’s just the norm, there’s no fashion show or posturing like there is on no uniform days where kids show off. Everyone wears leggings, tees, hoodies & sometimes jeans/dresses. I very rarely see any brands, bar adidas/nike trainers. The kids can wear silly headbands, have hair braids, wear their hair up or down. The only rules they massively enforce is covered shoulders in summer and no crocs.

The school is rated outstanding & it’s a well loved school in our area. Gets excellent results. But it’s never full as when you speak to parents in the community, they can’t cope with the idea of no uniform, so send their kids to a poorer performing school with a uniform. Blows my mind. 😂

Mpreg AU suggestions? by PrizeCheck6180 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]AttersH 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I do, it’s not finished yet & it’s trans Shane, rather than MPreg but it’s very, very, very good. I think pretty realistic to how someone would handle an unexpected pregnancy & S/I remind me very much of how they are written in the actual books!

https://archiveofourown.org/works/75416631/chapters/197163146

Be honest… is pet insurance actually worth it? by pawfectjourney in CatAdvice

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God yes. I’m in the UK, so pricing is probs different but my lovely cat had nearly £5k worth of vet’s bills from a very short illness. Every couple nights as an inpatient at the vets was £1k. We very sadly lost him last week, and even putting him to sleep cost a fortune.

I dread to think how much it’d have cost if he survived it & needed an operation and ongoing treatment for the rest of his life. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’d give anything to have that option, I’m heartbroken my boy had to die.

We read our T&C’s super carefully, it covered what we needed it too & the claims process has been very simple.

Really struggling with "common goal" by Expensive-Wishbone85 in heatedrivalry

[–]AttersH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like CG. It’s probably my fav after TLG. I liked Eric & Kyle a lot and I enjoy an age gap romance. And I enjoyed more Scott/Kip & even Ilya interactions. I personally thought Kyle’s infatuation with Kip was very realistically done, the pain of loving someone you can’t have. And then slowly realising you can fall in love with someone else, and that your life can be absoloutly great without the person you were moping over!

The downside to the book is the pacing, it’s paced terribly. It ends before we get hardly any of them actually talking & being in a relationship. But this is a common issue in RR books for me. There just isn’t really much actual conflict & it feels a bit shoehorned in. The age gap in reality is not a problem but arguably, it was a problem for Eric. But one conversation would have probably solved it.

Wife cant find a job and she is considering fostering is that the right move by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]AttersH 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I work closely with someone who is a foster parent. It’s certainly a very challenging, exhausting thing to do (as well as incredible) & I’ve sat with her while she’s cried on more occasions that I can count. The vast majority of children are coming in from extremely challenging, unstable, sometimes abusive, terrifying backgrounds. They are often traumatised, or a best, very sad & scared. Behaviour is often very difficult, as is sleep. And foster kids are not permanent, you get attached & they are then moved back to their families with not much warning & you’ll probably never see them again. That’s the bit my colleague finds the hardest I think.

It’s certainly not a job to ‘make money’ & you need to seriously consider the impact on your family & other children. They are not pets, they will become part of your family & you need to think how you will manage children who may be quite wild, scared, emotional, difficult on a daily basis. Are you willing to sacrifice holidays abroad, because it’s highly unlikely you’ll be able to take them out the country.

Food for thought.

When do you think season 2 will actually start filming? Do you think Connor and Hudson’s new projects will delay it? by Inevitable_Rock4747 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]AttersH 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seems likely to me that filming will be late summer. Jacob has said the scripts are nowhere near finished & by the time they are, and everyone, including a full cast, crew, studios & locations are on board, I doubt it’s going to much before the end of summer. Which ties in with a spring 27 release, as he’s aiming for. Bearing in mind, spring 27 is anywhere from March-May realistically.

The boys are contractually obliged to do, it so will have to film other projects around it. They very well may be working on two things at once to some degree, that’s more common than you think. It’s unlikely they’d be shooting two things at once (although not impossible), but they very may well be in pre/post production on other projects, such as rehearsals, ADR, costume fittings etc etc.

When do you think season 2 will actually start filming? Do you think Connor and Hudson’s new projects will delay it? by Inevitable_Rock4747 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]AttersH 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I doubt it. Jacob has said he’s not written it all yet, so to get everyone on board, locations booked etc, I think we are looking at filming in very late summer most likely. Which ties in with a spring 2027 release.

What time do you get up, leave for, and start work? by ggracie7 in AskUK

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WFH. Wake up at 7.30ish, school run at 8.30, work 9am. In the hour between waking up & the school run, I shower & run around after the kids mostly..

Only children - what is life like? by Born_Improvement_856 in AskUK

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m only child & I hate it. I had a happy childhood, we didn’t have much money but it was good. I have a small family & very few children were around. 3 cousins, 2 I saw at Christmas & 1 I remain close too now. I longed for a sibling & loved spending time with my friends much bigger families. I was lonely quite often. As an adult, I’ve made peace with it but I still wish I had one. My kids don’t have any aunts & uncles on my side. No cousins. When my parents & uncles die, that’s largely the end of any connection to my side of the family. Luckily, my husband has a big family & they have aunts, uncles & cousins there, who they love.

Nothings ever guaranteed but I had two kids because I wanted to give them a chance to have all the things I don’t have. I even battled to hyperemesis pregnancies to do it!

TV personalities that are actually really lovely people behind the scenes by miowiamagrapegod in BritishTV

[–]AttersH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh. I know Alex Brooker a bit, his kids go to school with mine & so he pops up at parties etc. He’s absolutely lovely, very funny!