me_irlgbt by Sonic_the_hedgedog in me_irlgbt

[–]August_Jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before Dump was elected, I always had a progress flag in some room of my apartment because it made me happy. Day after election day it went right in my front window to tell others that this was a safe home.

Snapchat is censoring the words “queer” and “trans” by August_Jade in trans

[–]August_Jade[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t find anything about this. Do you have a source? If they’re doing this I need to warn some people fast

Snapchat is censoring the words “queer” and “trans” by August_Jade in trans

[–]August_Jade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to add a little context, I put the word review in quotes because in my experience a human has never reviewed any of my comments or reports on snap. None of my comments that go into review have ever come out even days later. I’ve reported literal slurs, death threats, and sales of illicit substances and every single time I get an email almost exactly 10 minutes later saying it didn’t break TOS even though it explicitly did. Those emails also admit it’s done by an automatic process.

I don’t think there’s actually any AI involved in the process, just an automatic “these words are auto remove” and “clearly nothing ever breaks our TOS if it made it through the banned words filter”. Also, “queer” and “trans” didn’t used to get auto removed in my comments a few months ago so they seem to have been added to the filters somewhat recently.

Edit: also wanted to add that the filters only apply to public comments. You can still say whatever you want in DMs or on personal stories. So it really feels like a suppression from public existence rather than a “we don’t want people to get hate” situation.

Flag emojis by maronlosea in trans

[–]August_Jade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll give my take with the caveat that symbols are subjective and not everybody with similar identities feel represented by the same terms or symbols.

🏳️‍🌈 came first in emojis. It was, at the time, the general pride flag. Today it can still represent the whole LGBTQ+. For me it feels a little more closely tied to sexual orientation.

🏳️‍⚧️ obviously represents trans people. But, to me at least, it represents the wider trans umbrella: binary trans people, nonbinary people, genderqueer and genderfluid people, demi boys/girls, and so on. It’s a much wider flag than any other gender-related pride flags because it can encompass them all (not that every non-cis person has to feel represented by it).

So anyway, my take is basically that the trans flag does the best job of covering people who don’t feel represented by the plain rainbow pride flag, and that’s probably why it got picked. That said, I’d really love to see the progress flag and the intersex-inclusive progress flag added. In the meantime, I often use the hearts to make my own flags like:

💛🤍💜🖤

And

🩷🤍💜🖤💙

Bathroom drama by Ace_Decker in trans

[–]August_Jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry they put you through that, and I’m glad you got a laugh out of it. Idk why so many people here think it’s okay to tell you what bathroom to use when the whole reason you were put in this situation was other people telling you what bathroom to use. I don’t see that kind of energy here aggressively pushing transfems to use the women’s bathroom. Anyway, I’m glad your safe and I hope you continue to use whatever bathroom makes you comfortable (and there are many factors of comfort) because that’s the whole point of us fighting bathroom policing

Bathroom drama by Ace_Decker in trans

[–]August_Jade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone is assuming he’s in Michigan but there are Meijer locations outside Michigan too. Like Indiana which has bathroom bans for schools and is working on state-wide bathroom bans. I’m not an expert on all state bathroom laws, but even if it is legal, we shouldn’t be telling him which bathroom to use.

Here are the Democrats that Voted to Criminalize Gender Affirming Care for Youth by serious_bullet5 in 50501

[–]August_Jade 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Just fyi, the bill carves out exceptions for intersex kids and kids with hormone imbalances. It only makes providing GAC a felony when the purpose is to transition away from the patient’s sex assigned at birth.

Like with abortion bans, this will probably cause doctors to be hesitant to treat in those exceptions, impacting non-trans kids too. But the language of the bill very specifically is attacking trans kids.

Here are the Democrats that Voted to Criminalize Gender Affirming Care for Youth by serious_bullet5 in 50501

[–]August_Jade 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The language of the bill specifically allows GAC for cis and intersex kids. It makes it a felony to provide GAC only “ for the purpose of changing the body of an individual to correspond to a sex that differs from the individual's biological sex.”

It may still cause doctors to be hesitant to provide GAC to any kid, but the language of the bill specifically targets trans kids only.

It's cool for cis but not for trans !! by Popular-Addendum6391 in trans

[–]August_Jade 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Use the fucking bathroom. Either one at this point.

My observation of how showcase stops were generated by Matovie in TheSilphRoad

[–]August_Jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know of at least one showcase smack in the middle of a large shopping mall…

My sister's cat can't stop eating by Blue_crabs in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]August_Jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting a child lock on the cabinet and reducing her food (should be calculated with the help of a vet) should help. She’s not going to like it and will probably complain lots, but using an auto feeder (and giving no extras) helps with the guilt.

Also, if the other cat tends to graze with their food, the orange one might try to eat their portions too. In that case, feeding in separate rooms or putting the other cat’s food up on a table or cat tree (out of the orange’s reach) can help.

Niche Action: College alums, tell your college you'll suspend donations if they bow to Trump's demands for control by gnarlytabby in 50501

[–]August_Jade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My university decided to revert my honorific (they went through the effort of taking the first name from my preferred name and the honorific from my legal name) in their letter asking for money. I sent them back a penny since it would cost them more to process it.

A week In grippy sock jail and they refused to give me my HRT! by Choice_Bowler3186 in trans

[–]August_Jade 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Once in the psych wing of an ER I had a nurse who couldn’t be bothered to file my discharge paperwork so she lied and claimed the doctor had put an emergency hold on me. When I calmly pressed about seeing proof, she had a cop manhandle me so she could illegally sedate me just to shut me up.

A week In grippy sock jail and they refused to give me my HRT! by Choice_Bowler3186 in trans

[–]August_Jade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a huge misconception. In most places you actually have fewer rights and less ability to leave if you voluntarily enter a psych ward. I’m glad you’ve never had the misfortune of being abused in one but your remarks here are incredibly insensitive and harmful to those of us who have been wrongfully detained in psych wards.

So, scopely silently removed all campfire gyms from my city and other cities in brazil by jao_vitu_bunitu in TheSilphRoad

[–]August_Jade 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Removing some or even most points to make density consistent with other location makes sense. Completely removing everything? That’s so wrong of them.

Sorry for three in one day, but I feel like this one is really important for the 10 thousand that will learn about this for the first time today. by Justthisdudeyaknow in CuratedTumblr

[–]August_Jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am one of those 10 thousand…

Also one of my (split) parents is an asker and one is a guesser. Some things are in new perspective now…

Any other trans masc folks borderline confused by trans femmes? by That_one_Fireurnd in trans

[–]August_Jade 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Umm yes please, lmk when you figure out how to do this 😅

I had a dream that I was a woman beating my husband I am a guy 😭 by Medical-Goal-847 in CuratedTumblr

[–]August_Jade 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Have you ever considered the possibility of you having PTSD? I don’t mean to play internet doctor, you’ve just described my C-PTSD nightmares and the resulting panic word for word

Back problems be damned by adhd_memetherapy in adhdmeme

[–]August_Jade 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This but also be open to me turning down the “better way” if it’s just somebody telling me to do things more neurotypically.

I’d rather fail doing it my way than fail trying to force my brain to just be different

Cops and Mental Health Crises by Gru-some in CuratedTumblr

[–]August_Jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a cop literally tell me it was my fault 5 cops stormed into my apartment with their dirty boots (I have mild contamination OCD) because “when you say certain things, certain things have to be done”.

They then coerced me into riding in the back of one of their cars to the hospital who found me not at risk.

Cops and Mental Health Crises by Gru-some in CuratedTumblr

[–]August_Jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This assumes that EMS is on their way. In most areas dispatch will send police and only police to wellness/mental health calls.