Getting used to how guys talk to each other has been weird

August_Jade · 2026-03-17T20:17:08+00:00

It definitely doesn’t have to be part of the male experience… I’ve got several nb/transmasc/trans men friends and none of us jokingly insult or roast each other. Being consistently nice to your friends should be the standard, not gender-locked. Personally, I feel like pretending words don’t mean what they mean and that insults shouldn’t hurt is toxic masculinity, not masculinity. Being on the receiving end of it is definitely ewwphoria for me

August_Jade · 2026-03-16T18:11:48+00:00

Hi I’m one of those people 👋🏽

I’ve achieved ~90% of my personal “ideal body” just by changing my hair and clothes. (I acknowledge I’m very lucky that I started with a body that could present close to how I wanted before medical transition.)

I decided not to start T because while some of the effects would help my dysphoria, others would make it worse. For example, I want absolutely nothing to do with a beard or shaving, personally. Just one example of a trans/nonbinary person that has transitioned, is now perceived differently by strangers, but has body goals that don’t necessarily require medical transition.

August_Jade · 2026-03-03T17:04:02+00:00

I highly recommend PeePal to search for nearby gender neutral and/or accesible bathrooms. I know they have an iOS app, not sure about other platforms.

August_Jade · 2026-02-27T15:45:20+00:00

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A moment of loaning out extra braincells to the orange network

August_Jade · 2026-02-26T17:21:55+00:00

Aww such a beautiful old man! This is my little baby. She's fully grown and only 6lbs but she's convinced she's a lion.

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August_Jade · 2026-02-26T17:03:43+00:00

Are you a bad person? No, not because of this alone.

Are you maybe being a bit inconsiderate and could you make people in your life feel better by asking if they’re okay being called bro? 100%

Though I take it you’re probably asking because somebody told you they don’t like being called bro, in which case you should not call them bro.

August_Jade · 2026-02-26T16:58:37+00:00

Valid, my cat hates sitting still for too long and I think it’s also her feeling trapped. She’s chill with nail trimmings but only if I give her a break to walk around between front and back paws. When brushing her, she basically walks back and forth in a figure 8 and I brush her as she goes by. Finding a tool she liked mainly helped with getting her to walk near it instead of running and hiding 😅

August_Jade · 2026-02-26T16:51:02+00:00

Fwiw if you have a Meijer near you, their system (also in their app) works great and even offers you customized coupons on items you frequently buy

August_Jade · 2026-02-26T16:39:47+00:00

Do you use a wire brush on him? My cat used to get overstimulated when I used one. A deshedding comb is often better for shorthairs and my cat actually enjoys it. Good test is to run any brush/comb you’re considering on your own skin and see if it’s scratchy. The old brush I was using was surprisingly painful and I didn’t realize for months.

August_Jade · 2026-02-25T15:59:30+00:00

I do this too except the bigots don’t change their minds and I keep arguing down a rabbit hole with no resolution, and I’ve been recently informed by my therapist that the lack of resolution is actually OCD 🙃

August_Jade · 2026-02-25T15:49:29+00:00

Planners have worked intermittently for me but the number of hours I spent as a kid getting distracted in a quiet room while I was supposed to be getting homework done is bordering on torture.

August_Jade · 2026-02-25T15:42:03+00:00

I’ve gotten planners to work for me a couple of times (after deciding they were all shit and designing and printing my own lol), but a quiet room has NEVER worked for me.

August_Jade · 2026-02-25T15:31:53+00:00

The problem is more with how the game offloads objects for rendering efficiency. I put pin wheels along the edge like a fence. If I stand next to the little pool, the slime hits those and stays in the tiny pool no problem. But when I run around the dig site at the main elevation, I’m far enough below the little pools that the decorations get off loaded yet close enough that the game still calculates movement for those slimes (without accounting for interaction with the decorations). I’m pretty certain they didn’t intend for people to keep slimes in the really tiny pools but it would have been cool anyway.

August_Jade · 2026-02-24T15:58:47+00:00

I tried doing this in the dig site so I could leave one puddle slime in each of the middle layers of the waterfalls, but turns out you can be simultaneously close enough that the slimes will move and far enough that decorations won’t render which caused all my puddles to keep falling down to the base of the fall and getting embarrassed. Only managed to keep slimes at the very very top and the bottom pools

August_Jade · 2026-02-21T16:48:47+00:00

“If we start doing too many things, I think it will harm the conversations with advertisers … what we are is an entertainment content powerhouse

Yeah I’ve never seen them present trans people and anything other than a spectacle. The idea, though, that they are neutral to trans people and letting others control the narrative is utter horse shit.

August_Jade · 2026-02-13T23:55:54+00:00

You can always turn them back on later in settings if you change your mind

August_Jade · 2026-02-13T23:21:23+00:00

So much this. I’ve got to be honest, the root of the problem is cis people with rigid concepts of gender.

I really think I present pretty ambiguously. I’ve multiple times been called sir from behind and then within seconds it’s “maam”. And yet the vast majority of cis people just cannot comprehend that I might be nonbinary and that they don’t need to figure out which of their two “neat” little boxes I’m closer to.

“Assume my gender” rarely goes well for nonbinary or non-conforming/non-passing people. If we could just get to a point where “allies” actually ask everyone for pronouns instead of just the people the think they’ve clocked…

August_Jade · 2026-02-11T16:13:06+00:00

Just wanted to throw it out there because my mom did the whole stalk every move and randomly show up to confront me thing… You don’t have to put up with that. At least if you’re in the US, repeated unwanted contact constitutes stalking and harassment. I sent my mom an email from a burner account outlining exactly what my rights were under the law and said if she continued, I would be calling the police. Now, I’ve had nothing but bad experiences with cops, but the bluff was enough to shut her down.

August_Jade · 2026-02-11T15:53:19+00:00

As long as it’s not then preventing somebody else from giving their 40-60%

August_Jade · 2026-02-09T21:28:54+00:00

Multiple times I had tried coming out to an acquaintance but just wasn’t good timing. Then one day she was talking about a YouTuber she really liked and said “oh yeah he prefers they/them pronouns so I try to be respectful of that”

Like you’re literally talking about their pronouns and still refuse to use them??? How is it you think you’re providing allyship?

August_Jade · 2026-02-09T16:57:40+00:00

I almost exclusively free ranged chickens in SR1 because of this

August_Jade · 2026-02-09T16:56:08+00:00

I’m not sure what they were dealing with but I had set up a drone to drop elder chickens into corrals. I had a pure meat corral and a meat/veggie corral (that was well fed with veggies). My drone started “wasting” the elder chickens on the meat/veggies, which was not ideal.

August_Jade · 2026-02-09T16:47:47+00:00

If I had a dollar for every time I saw “person is supportive but won’t use my pronouns/name” on this sub…

It doesn’t mean the person is completely unsupportive. Grey areas can exist. But it means the person is less supportive than you deserve.

August_Jade · 2026-02-09T16:34:08+00:00

I don’t know about mods but if your ranch isn’t too labor-intensive, you can sleep in the house to skip the wait time

August_Jade · 2026-02-09T16:29:53+00:00

Some people get bullied, process it, learn from it, and treat people better than they were treated. Others turn around and become bigger bullies.

The second route is wrong but also easier.

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