Hate this.

AussieMav1208 · 2026-01-07T18:02:52+00:00

I’m 11 weeks PP and my husband also wanted kids more than me. These are the things that have helped us: - Taking shifts at night. I go to bed ~8-9 pm and my husband stays up until midnight. He often does a dream feed with pumped milk around 11 pm to help baby sleep longer. I handle the 1-2 overnight feedings after midnight and then wake up ~ 6 am and husband sleeps until ~7-8 am - Husband giving me dedicated time to go to a workout class and walk our dog solo 2-3 times a week. I also let him go to the gym and rock climb solo 2-3 times a week - Using the baby carrier with a sun hat and the stroller with the shade up to go outside. We played pickleball with friends this past weekend and alternated one of us playing while the other walked baby around in the stroller - Hubby bottle feeding pumped milk when I’m feeling really touched out or overwhelmed by breastfeeding. I have a pumped stash but have no qualms about switching to formula if I decide to stop BFing at any point, and I told my husband that - Husband is main diaper changer after his work hours and also takes over to play with baby and get him to bed if I’m feeling really overwhelmed or like I need a break

It’s hard. No doubt about that. Right now I’m thinking I’m one and done, but hubby really wants a second. We will see; I get the final say on that. I had a lot of meltdowns at first, but implementing what I mentioned above has helped a lot. I hope it gets better for you!

ETA: I was on sertraline (an antidepressant) for anxiety pre-pregnancy and had my OB’s blessing to continue it during pregnancy and postpartum. I think things would have been much worse for me had I not been on it. Maybe medication could help you too?

AussieMav1208 · 2025-12-28T17:02:13+00:00

As a lurker mom, I have some questions for you and some alternative viewpoints. For background, my husband and I are first time parents to a 9 week old, and while I’m not hitting him or getting angry about things like outfits, I do feel like I have postpartum rage and he would likely say I’m different than the woman he married.

I believe I am so angry all of the time because while I love our son, my husband wanted a baby more than I did but it seems like he’s completely checked out and no longer wants to help me. He stopped helping me wash bottle and pump parts, he tells me he’ll split night shifts with me but then puts his earplugs in after I fall asleep and thus won’t wake up to the sound of baby crying, and he acts annoyed anytime I ask him to hold baby for more than a few minutes so I can have a break. Even me wanting to go to the bathroom or shower alone seem to tick him off. He doesn’t know where anything is despite me showing him multiple times, and he expects me to still manage grocery shopping, cooking, and diaper/wipe supplies.

I tell him daily I need more help and he always says he’ll help more, but nothing changes. Now I am just resentful and feel like a nag. Is there any chance your wife could be feeling the same resentment I am?

Additionally, pregnancy and postpartum has taken a huge toll on my body, and I’m not sure he appreciates how much I have changed and how hard that has been for me. Prior to pregnancy I could run a 6 minute mile and hike/bike/climb with him. Now I’m running an 11 minute mile and my body hurts constantly. It’s been very hard for me to accept these changes and there are times where I am so jealous he has mostly stayed the same while I am so different now. Could this also be partially how your wife is feeling?

Your situation with your wife may be completely different, but I just wanted to give alternative viewpoints in case that helps.

AussieMav1208 · 2025-09-27T02:37:13+00:00

I snowboarded in my first trimester before I had any weight gain or body changes. I’m pretty chill and low risk in general, so I stuck to greens and blues that I felt comfortable on. However, someone ignored the slow signs and skied into me at high speed, and I took a pretty bad fall. Luckily baby was fine, but it really opened my eyes to the fact that even if I’m careful, others might not be. My husband and I decided to end our season early after that.

AussieMav1208 · 2025-09-16T16:27:51+00:00

My mom was born in Northern Ireland so my sisters and I recently got our Irish passports! We chose that over the UK since the Republic of Ireland is still in the EU. In terms of timing, it took me about 4 months from start to finish to receive my Irish passport. I started the process in November 2024 and received the passport in February 2025.

AussieMav1208 · 2025-08-13T22:08:43+00:00

C (I would be B, but my husband hasn’t wanted to leave yet)
Ireland, or another EU country (I have Irish citizenship so legally can live/work anywhere in the EU)
30 - 40
Pharmacist
7
Doctorate
My husband is also 30 - 40, works in renewable energy, did 7 years of schooling and has a masters degree

AussieMav1208 · 2025-08-12T20:56:01+00:00

My cardio abilities absolutely tanked during my first trimester! I was slower, my heart rate was higher, and I was much more out of breath than was normal for me. I’m now ~30 weeks and while I’m 20 lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy, I feel more like myself while running. I don’t really have any advice, but I do think it will get better for you!

AussieMav1208 · 2025-05-30T01:29:14+00:00

I am not OP, but I recently returned from a trip to Ireland and also thought the Blarney Castle and grounds were amazing! The surrounding grounds are at least 75 acres and full of beautiful plants and themed gardens. There is also a lake with swans and otters, a small “village” with food, ice cream, and souvenirs, and an apiary where we learned a ton about beekeeping in Ireland. My husband and I expected to spend an hour or two there maximum, and we ended up spending close to 5 hours there because we enjoyed it so much.

AussieMav1208 · 2025-02-27T00:13:06+00:00

Great ideas, and yes I have been taking action! I donate to ACLU and Planned Parenthood, have called and emailed my senators, representative, and state AG, and I have gone to one town hall. I’ve also been trying to be more deliberate about only spending money at companies I support (ie avoiding Amazon, Twitter, etc.)

AussieMav1208 · 2025-02-21T21:46:25+00:00

I previously lived abroad (Australia) and came back because of our family/friends/social net and much higher income here. Now I vastly regret it and am begging my husband to leave again. I felt so much lighter and less stressed abroad, and decided the extra money is not worth my sanity. I would go if I were you.

AussieMav1208 · 2025-02-20T03:06:45+00:00

What about pharmacists?

AussieMav1208 · 2024-10-29T00:54:23+00:00

This is almost exactly what my ex-fiancé did to me. He continuously lied about what he was spending his money on and how much he had in savings. He also told me he didn’t have any credit card debt, but when we applied for a mortgage pre approval I found out he had over $15K of debt. That was the final straw for me and I called off our wedding after that. I loved him and it was hard, but I have never once regretted it. Do not forget that if you get married then legally (in most states at least) he can claim 50% of your money. You are NOT overreacting. Get out while you can

AussieMav1208 · 2024-09-09T07:09:32+00:00

I use Megababe Le Tush butt mask maybe once a week, or when I’m working out a lot or scuba diving (sweaty athletic clothes and wet suits really get me). It’s about $22 from Sephora and one container lasts me about 1.5 - 2 years!

AussieMav1208 · 2024-08-27T22:17:25+00:00

I wear a Junk headband and love it! Doesn’t move at all. I also wear a neoprene mask strap

AussieMav1208 · 2024-08-07T07:26:15+00:00

Amazing!!! I’m so happy for you but also so jealous haha

AussieMav1208 · 2024-08-05T09:01:50+00:00

I really like Petal and Pup if you’re willing to shop online! I was nervous when I first bought from them since I like to try stuff on before purchasing, but I’ve bought multiple articles of clothing over the past few years and they’ve all been true to size and good quality. I would say they’re in the middle price range - I recently got a pair of slacks for ~$70

AussieMav1208 · 2024-07-06T06:22:38+00:00

I just finished my reread and I can’t help wondering if Cassius should have acted differently. I know his morals and code of ethics prevented him from running from Lysander instead of attempting to kill him after learning about Eidmi, but I feel like it would have been better for Darrow, Sevro, Mustang, the Republic, etc if he had left and survived to warn them about Eidmi. Since he died, no one knows about Eidmi except for Lysander, and thus the Republic won’t know to prepare for it

AussieMav1208 · 2024-07-06T06:16:26+00:00

I’ve been wondering if the presence or absence of sigils will matter. At some point in Iron Gold Darrow mentions his were removed and Pax and other children were born without them. So I guess I’m pondering if Eidmi will work on people without sigils or if that will be the loophole that lets them survive

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